Women over the age of 50 have their own children and are no longer overly dependent on themselves. Husband has lived together for decades, and the novelty of each other has long since disappeared. ......
At this time, some people will be afraid that no one cares about themselves, afraid of losing this and that, showing excessive anxiety and insecurity.
Su Cen, an emotional writer, said, "In this life, a woman's birth affects you for 20 years, her appearance affects you for 30 years, and only wisdom affects your life. A woman's success begins with: she knows how to be a real woman. "
Everyone will think about his life more or less. As a woman over 50, she should look away from others and think about how to "enrich" herself and make the rest of her life more comfortable and happy.
First, improve yourself through rich experiences.
It is often said that all the roads we have traveled are landscapes, and all the things we have traveled are experiences.
As for experience, we often jump out of these words: experienced, well-read, experienced, experienced and so on. This is the result of the ups and downs of life and the accumulation of various things.
A person will experience many things in his 50-year life, so he can review, summarize and reflect, improve his cognition and realize the true meaning of life.
At the same time, enrich your own experience, enrich your own connotation and enrich your life.
Life is limited, it is impossible to experience everything, and there is no need to experience everything. There are many ways to enrich your experience.
Communicate with different people. You can communicate with your parents and learn the wisdom and understanding of life from them in a longer period of time. You can communicate with young people and learn new things and feelings from them. You can communicate with people who love to travel and learn from them to be close to nature and broaden their horizons ... Everyone has different experiences and different views on things. You can communicate with others more, understand their thinking, attitude and views on things, and you will have different experiences.
Accumulate more. It is very important for us to accumulate necessary knowledge and experience in our work and life. Whether it is direct experience or indirect experience, it is meaningful to our life. We should observe more, experience more and increase all kinds of accumulation.
Read more books. An important way to gain knowledge and rich experience is to read books and learn to invest in your own brain. Once the knowledge in the book is transformed into your own, others can't take it away if they want to.
Second, learn to be calm in the cultivation of sentiment.
Mr. Jiang Yang wrote in "A Hundred Years' Testimonies", "We were so eager for the waves of fate, only to find that the most beautiful scenery in life is actually inner peace and calmness. We are so looking forward to the recognition of the outside world that we finally realize that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others. "
Once wrote in "Dai Dai Li Ji": "The water is clear, there is no fish, and people look at it, there is no disciple." The water is too clear for fish to survive, but if people are too smart, they can't tolerate people and there will be no partners around them.
People are alive, there is no need to argue about everything. When I was young, I was hot-blooded, impulsive, aggressive, and aggressive. I often won the aura and momentum, but lost my friendship and even my family.
Good cultivation can best reflect a person's taste and value. Start from the things around you, start from the details, cultivate the body and mind, and enhance the taste and pattern.
Learn to bow your head. Only by looking down on everything can we maintain the doctrine of the mean and become a cultured person. You won't force others to understand, you won't ask others at will, you won't blindly ask yourself, and what you get is not necessarily happiness; What is lost is not necessarily a disaster; Pessimism is a blessing, optimism is a blessing.
Learn to overcome it. People are upset because they think too much, pursue too much, desire too much and are greedy too much. It is not easy to live in this life, and everyone will encounter unpleasant things. The key is that as long as we get through it, our life will be better. Open-minded people will have less troubles and learn to treat everything with a normal heart.
Learn to live completely. People who often live a full life know that there are joys and sorrows in the world, which is the most normal. When they encounter happy things, they will be happy at most, and their faces will not show too much complacency, let alone get carried away. They don't live for others, but are characteristic of live high. Be true to yourself, have your own position and viewpoint, and have your own attitude towards the world.
Nine times out of ten, you should learn to be simple. Don't care too much about many things. If you learn to forget something, you will struggle less and complain less, then your heart will relax and you will not be tired. Tolerance and generosity will make you feel happy and live your life in peace.
Third, raise awareness of lifelong learning.
A sentence in "Shi Kuang Persuasion", "Less and eager to learn, such as the morning glow; Strong and eager to learn, such as the light of Japan and China; Old and studious, bright as a candle. " , fully illustrates the importance of lifelong learning.
Wu Bofan once mentioned "cognitive repetition". "Many people bid farewell to their studies and become a student with repetitive cognition. Different from real repetition, cognitive repetition is often difficult to detect. Two people may be about the same age, but the cognitive difference may be decades. "
Think about it carefully, this sentence is very reasonable. We might as well look for two kinds of people, which I believe are similar to what he described.
I quite agree with a netizen's comment on the difference between people who often study and those who don't. "There will be differences in temperament and speech. People who often learn are more qualified and speak more civilized. The mentality will be different. People who often study are positive in heart, and learning greatly enriches their abilities and broadens their horizons. People who don't study will complain all day, only complaining about others and not improving their abilities. "
San Mao said, "If you read more, your appearance will naturally change. Many times, I may feel that many books I have read are gone and I can't remember them anymore. In fact, they still have potential. In temperament, in speech, in boundless bosom. Of course, it can also be revealed in life and words. "
Keep lifelong learning, avoid "cognitive repetition", work hard, and be complacent.
Fourth, stimulate vitality in curiosity.
Many studies show that people who are often infected and stimulated by novelty have high brain cell activity, which can constantly mobilize the excitement of the brain, promote the thinking of the brain and boost people's spirit.
Have a discerning eye and a curious heart. Without curiosity, how could Newton discover "gravity"
Curiosity is not the exclusive right of children and young people. People need to have a curious heart at different stages of life. With the growth of age, especially after 50 years old, physical decline will accelerate, thinking will begin to slow down, and reaction will gradually slow down, which will bring forgetfulness, conservatism and negativity. More curiosity and childlike innocence can not only delay the aging of the brain and the degradation of thinking, but also stimulate vitality and cheer up the spirit.
On the contrary, I am not interested in anything, as if I have seen everything, but I don't seem to understand anything. Sniff at new things, disdain. Over time, people will be depressed and depressed.
People should have certain sustenance. Without anything, they are bound to concentrate their energy and attention on one aspect, or even shift to negative aspects, complaining and resenting all day, and constantly being anxious.
Keep your passion in greed; Stay alive in eternal curiosity.
Fifth, cultivate spirit in physical fitness.
If you want to pursue your dreams, you often need a healthy body, so that you can move forward calmly and forcefully towards the goal of life.
Last week, I met my sister. I haven't seen her for five years. In an unrestrained chat, I learned that she had just retired from her unit the year before last, subscribed to a health newspaper, participated in a Chinese medicine health class, and studied the Book of Changes while maintaining health. The whole person becomes more lively and energetic.
A 50-year-old woman should get into the habit of exercising. Some people say that I didn't exercise when I was young, but now my arms and legs are old and I can't exercise. Speaking of which, we might as well try walking, practicing yoga, dancing square dance, playing Tai Ji Chuan and so on. Every day, step by step, not long. A month later, compare yourself before and after, whether the pace is easier, whether the mood is cheerful, and whether the spirit is better than before.
You can learn a little health knowledge. If you study a little every day, you will be healthier. For example, there is a good habit of drinking water on time; Usually eat more whole grains, vegetables and fruits, and do a good job of dietary balance; When you are sick, don't carry it hard, but go to the hospital for treatment in time; Develop the habit of taking a nap and the spirit of self-reliance. For example, in a fast-paced life, don't keep yourself in a state of tension, and occasionally let yourself be lazy and relax properly, which is good for your health; For example, get up early and go to bed early, and don't be too anxious when you get up. You can lie in bed for a few minutes. Sit and rest, etc., learn some knowledge of TCM health preservation and persevere.
The spirit of civilized people and the physique of barbarians, spirit and physique are two aspects that promote each other and cannot be neglected.
Everyone is familiar with this famous saying: "A sound spirit resides in a healthy body." Exercise for health, strengthen the body outside, nourish the mind inside, and practice both inside and outside. If you want to stay healthy and energetic, start exercising and stay healthy.
No one can live forever, and no one can watch forever. The growth of age, the aging of appearance and the degradation of body are natural laws.
A woman over 50 years old should not be afraid or worried, but should learn to become rich. This enrichment is not a pile of luxury goods and money, but spiritual richness and inner peace, which cultivates a rich mind, a sound personality and a full spirit. With a firm step and a confident smile, I started the rest of my life leisurely.
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