My parents often watch programs such as "Healthy Road" and "Yangshengtang", saying that if you walk with splayed feet inside and outside, the stress on your feet will be uneven, which will cause wear and tear to your ankles and knees over time. I have reminded my husband many times. Sometimes it makes me uncomfortable to walk behind him and watch him walk. Although I don't know anything except three words, and even feel verbose when I speak, I still can't help reminding him every time.
The same is true today.
My husband is as impatient as ever: "You have said it so many times, I will pay attention, but this habit can't be changed in two or three days." I think I'm fine now, and you have time to repair yourself. " . . "At that time, I was a little angry. I felt that I was kind and didn't want to talk to him.
Later, I forced myself to shut up and let him go, so that my husband and I could walk hand in hand comfortably, instead of fighting for trifles.
Only you can change, never expect to change others!
Don't say the same words/suggestions/nagging more than three times, otherwise it will only backfire and make the other person rebellious. In the end, the two sides broke up in discord.
I remembered something my husband had read about me before.
Every night, after I brush my teeth, he brushes his teeth again. He found that there was water near the pool after I brushed my teeth, which was spilled when I gargled. Then when he brushes his teeth, his stomach sometimes touches the edge of the pool (his stomach is very big) and his clothes get wet, so every time he brushes his teeth, he asks me to wipe the edge of the pool with a rag. And I just don't want to go against him, brush my teeth and leave. If he misses me again, I will show my teeth and play with him: "I won't!" " I'm so angry with you! "I want to see what you can do with me. My husband is very angry and doesn't miss me anymore. Later, I saw him dry the pool with a rag before brushing his teeth. Strangely, I gradually got into the habit. Every time I brush my teeth, I consciously dry the pool before I go.
Therefore, practice is the best way to influence others, not to ask each other through language.
I used to walk a little outside. Every time I walked with my mother, she would say, "Watch your feet, straighten up. . . "In fact, after she reminded me three times, I have paid great attention to reminding myself to keep my feet straight when walking, but she still remembers me every time. I said I had turned over a new leaf and made great progress. Why do you always talk about me? I finally came out for a walk, and I'm tired of your chanting!
There are many small things, such as that. I told my mother later that after you said it three times, I paid close attention. After that, you should stop reading it The more you read, the more counterproductive it is. I don't think you are better off than me. Relax and be content.
Now my mother seldom misses me, and I am slowly correcting my bad habits. Just say three words!