1. Excessive ejaculation delay will do harm to the body!
When many men live together, they always try their best to prevent semen from flowing out, so as to prolong the life of husband and wife, but they are always tired and depressed after sex.
There are many people who resist ejaculation when couples live, but the reasons are different. Some people feel that their sexual ability is very strong, but they are worried that frequent sexual intercourse and excessive ejaculation will cause kidney deficiency and damage their lives. If ejaculation is reduced as much as possible, it will be beneficial to health and longevity. Influenced by the traditional consciousness, these people think that "one drop of essence and ten drops of blood" and "ejaculation will greatly hurt vitality", which leads to fear. In fact, this concept is completely unreasonable. Others are afraid to shoot for fear of getting their wives pregnant. There are also some men who try to have sex at a certain frequency in order to show their sexual ability. This kind of sexual "overdraft" behavior of artificially restraining ejaculation during sexual intercourse will not prolong life, but will cause some diseases. The following are several common symptoms caused by male abstinence.
(1) erectile dysfunction. Trying to ejaculate near orgasm will aggravate the burden of sexual nervous system and sexual organs due to pelvic hyperemia, which will affect sexual feelings and make men unable to devote themselves to sexual enjoyment. Over time, it will reduce male sexual desire, which is not conducive to the full play of male sexual ability and is easy to induce erectile dysfunction.
(2) Retrograde ejaculation. Ejaculation during sexual life is a normal physiological phenomenon. If you try not to ejaculate, it will affect the ejaculation function, resulting in delayed ejaculation time or even no ejaculation. Another thing that needs to be recognized is that forbearing sperm from shooting does not necessarily mean that semen is not really shot, but it is more likely to let semen "enter the back door", that is, retrograde ejaculation occurred. Semen retrograde into the bladder, and then excreted with urine, in the long run, it will affect male fertility. In addition, due to the inability to ejaculate, semen accumulated during sexual excitement may eventually be excreted in other ways, resulting in nocturnal emission.
(3) Chronic prostatitis. In normal after ejaculation, the male sex organs fully secrete body fluids and gradually weaken. Before long, the blood flow in the penis will return to normal. If ejaculation is interrupted, the recovery speed of blood flow in sexual organs will slow down, leading to persistent congestion, which is easy to induce infectious diseases and congestive diseases of reproductive system, such as chronic bacterial prostatitis. In addition, the seminal vesicle is congested for a long time, and the capillaries on the seminal vesicle wall will rupture, resulting in hemospermia.
In short, sexual life is the result of interaction between husband and wife, and everyone should do what they can on the basis of understanding the normal physiology and pathology of men and women. In the process of sexual life, if the above problems occur because of forbearing sperm, you should consult a urologist or andrologist in the hospital in time and treat them under the guidance of a doctor.
2. Several methods of delaying ejaculation
Teach you a few tricks to make couples live longer.
1. Ejaculation control
Ejaculation is a reflex. If a person can really control his own ejaculation process, then he can enjoy a high level of sexual arousal under any circumstances and choose when to ejaculate. He can make sexual arousal reach a higher level and then temporarily fall back to a lower level, then let it rise and then fall back, and so on until he wants to ejaculate himself. In other words, he can maintain the level of sexual arousal at the platform level for a long time, and he can also complete the ejaculation reflex in time when his wife feels satisfied. On the contrary, the sexual excitement of men who can't control the ejaculation process will quickly soar from zero to climax, and there is often no obvious platform period. Not only his partner, but also he is not satisfied with it, but he is helpless about it, so both husband and wife often fall into a dilemma. Because ejaculation control is a technical or habitual problem, its prognosis will not be too bad, and 80% of men can master this technology after 8 ~ 12 weeks of treatment and training. There are various manifestations of insufficient ejaculation control, and some men can't control it in any sexual activity; Some only have premature ejaculation during sexual intercourse, masturbation and other sexual activities without premature ejaculation. Most men with premature ejaculation are also accompanied by impotence. If both exist at the same time, we must solve the erection problem first, and then go back to solve the premature ejaculation problem.
It is not clear why men's ability to control ejaculation is so different; It is not clear why some people control it better with the growth of age and experience, while others have been unable to control it well. But one thing is clear. Premature ejaculation does not have as many organic problems or drug effects as impotence. Premature ejaculation is mainly related to lack of knowledge, inattention or technology. It is also clear that abstinence will aggravate the condition. Even normal people will ejaculate too quickly when they resume sexual activity for the first time if they have not had sexual intercourse for several weeks. In addition, anxiety can also cause out of control, such as premature ejaculation overnight in the first sexual intercourse and improvement in the second sexual intercourse. Generally speaking, men who lack control ability fail to take necessary behavior adjustment measures only when they have a high degree of sexual arousal and have not ejaculated. This may be because they are not focused on their feelings, so they can't take appropriate actions; Because they don't know when to take adjustment steps in action; Because they don't know what adjustments to make. British sexologist Qi Bergold proposed the following training plan.
2. Plan for establishing ejaculation control ability
The establishment of ejaculation control ability can not be separated from the following two abilities: first, the ability to concentrate more fully on one's sexual arousal and tension; The second is the ability to change one's behavior in order to prevent or delay ejaculation. Men can influence the occurrence of ejaculation through the behavior changes in the platform period (actually the ejaculation control period). For example, slow down the pace, adjust the angle, have a rest, and adjust your breathing; Ejaculation control needs to be mastered, just like riding a bicycle, the car will not stop automatically, you must learn to balance. The platform period (control period) is both a representative awakening and a representative tension (anxiety). Most people who lack control ability may have both situations at the same time. They usually don't know the difference between excitement and nervousness, but both can make ejaculation happen quickly. When a person enters sexual activity, his inner lust or sexual tension will rise or increase. If he wants to enhance this consciousness, he must concentrate on his physical feelings and feelings. For most men, their sexual feelings mainly come from penis and scrotum. He must know at what level of sexual arousal ejaculation is bound to occur, and then take some measures to control ejaculation before reaching this point. The training principle of ejaculation control is that when a man or partner stimulates the penis, he should do two things, one is to pay attention to his sexual arousal/tension, and the other is to stop stimulating or do other things to maintain the ability of ejaculation control. By doing this repeatedly, you can achieve the purpose of exercise.
(1) Practice time: As long as both parties are happy and the man has no problem with erection, it is best to practice more than 3 times a week. The key is not to force yourself to get an erection. If you have difficulty in erection, you should reduce the number of training, for example, twice a week. The specific training plan will be introduced later. (2) Focus: Focus on the penis and scrotum, feel their swelling, fullness, excitement or other feelings, so that he is no longer worried or afraid of ejaculation too fast, and his partner is disappointed. Is your partner willing to help you practice? Once his attention is distracted or diverted, he should immediately refocus. He can imagine his attention as a spotlight on the stage. Once the protagonist moves, the light will follow him immediately, so that he can return to the level of paying attention to arousal/tension after being distracted and ensure the effectiveness of the exercise. (3) Time to stop stimulation: Once the stimulation is close to ejaculation, the stimulation should be stopped, so that the arousal/tension will completely subside, but the erection will not disappear, and it will stop 10 second, 30 seconds and 90 seconds, depending on the individual's specific situation. If the re-stimulation must be stopped again within 1 ~ 2 minutes, the stopping time should be appropriately extended. (4) Activities when stopping: briefly communicate with your partner to maintain emotional connection between them; Relax and enjoy the feeling of decline and awakening; Deep breathing helps to relax; Actually experience the feeling of ejaculation control; Or lie there and do nothing. (5) How to ejaculate during practice: When men don't practice, they can ejaculate as many times as they want, as long as it doesn't affect their erectile ability during practice. It is best not to affect the implementation of the original training plan because of sexual intercourse arrangements.
If a man wants to ejaculate at the end of training, he can do it at will, but he should pay attention to his feelings, keep the stimulation at a low level and don't let it happen too fast. It should be understood that there may be 1 ~ 2 unintentional ejaculation at the beginning of training. This kind of thing is very common, don't worry. It even helps you determine what a control period is. If this unconscious ejaculation continues, there will be problems. For better control, I am afraid I will return to the previous training content.
3. Give full play to the spiritual role
In order to get the greatest benefit from the following physical exercises, men must concentrate their brains on their feelings. Men who lack the ability to control ejaculation often blame themselves too much for ejaculation too quickly, which certainly reflects the reality, but it also brings pressure and interference to behavior change. Correcting this awareness helps to change behavior. Therefore, we should deny our negative thoughts and constantly strengthen our positive thoughts. If you constantly imagine that you have achieved the ideal control ability, several times a day for 30 ~ 90 seconds each time, imagine how well you have done, including the whole process of sexual activity. This successful process of waking up every morning or rehearsing several times before going to bed will strengthen men's positive ideas.
Practice deep breathing
Deep breathing can help men dispel arousal/tension, so it will help control ejaculation. Take a deep breath, relax and be brisk, but some men are more nervous than usual when they take a deep breath. They tighten the muscles of the chest, neck and shoulders, and even the muscles of the arms. How can they take a deep breath? Sometimes even normal breathing is restricted.
Correct and relaxed breathing should be accompanied by abdominal expansion and contraction. When inhaling, the abdomen should protrude, and when exhaling, the abdomen should contract. If you can't do this, you need to learn and master this method. You can think of your stomach as a balloon, which will expand after inhaling and shrink after exhaling. Once you master this method, you can do this kind of exercise as much as possible, especially when you masturbate or your partner stimulates you to stop for a while and take a few deep breaths. This kind of deep breathing training can also be arranged during sexual intercourse, which requires a process of habit and adaptation, because it is against a person's subjective will. The more excited a man is, the more prone he is to premature ejaculation, shallow breathing and breathlessness. You can also imagine that the inhaled air will descend to the pelvic cavity and relax the muscles in this area. The more relaxed they are, the more difficult it is to ejaculate.
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Excerpted from the column of Gender Health