Before talking about self-harm, let's talk about what a traumatic event is. When the injury caused by one incident affects the future routine events, it is called a traumatic event. Daily events refer to things that are done every day in daily life, such as eating and sleeping. Traumatic events, no matter how big or small, right or wrong, the key is whether they can be put down.
There is a SR model in psychology, where S is stimulus and R is reaction and behavior. When we encounter traumatic events, there will be 9 R's, 3 normal reactions, R 1 traumatic psychology, R2 traumatic physiology, R3 deviant behavior, 3 pathological reactions, R4 personality abnormality, R5 psychosis, R6 schizophrenia, 3 allergic reactions, R7 self-abuse, R8 self-mutilation and R9 suicide.
Traumatic psychology refers to negative emotions and thoughts, while traumatic physiology refers to stress response and psychosomatic diseases. Stress reactions include muscle aches, convulsions, pain and paralysis. If massage relieves physical fatigue, if it relieves after massage, but then recurs, it means stress reaction. Psychosomatic diseases include headache, fever, stomachache and stomachache. Some people feel sick and go to the hospital to see a doctor. Therefore, they are not sick. This is a psychosomatic disease.
When trauma psychology and trauma physiology are intertwined for a long time, deviant behavior will occur (deliberately not doing what should be done, deliberately not doing what should not be done). If deviant behavior is not dealt with, it will enter into pathological reaction. 1* * has 20 kinds of mental diseases, 10 kinds of personality disorders, 6 kinds of neurosis and 4 kinds of schizophrenia. Next, I will be allergic. Self-abuse means beating yourself, deliberately not wearing clothes when cold, deliberately not eating when hungry, self-mutilation means cutting yourself with a knife, and suicide means burning charcoal and jumping off a building. Children and adolescents usually jump from normal reactions to allergic reactions.
Whenever people encounter self-injury, people will attribute it to a traumatic event, but it is not, because if a traumatic event causes one person to die, then all people who encounter the same event will die. The real reason for self-harm is that there is only thrust but no pull, and the pull is less than the thrust, and only the pull becomes the thrust. Pull refers to the people, things and things that make you happy, and push refers to the pain caused by traumatic events that push you to death. If you want to prevent self-harm, the most important thing is not to avoid traumatic events, but to build tension, that is, to build people, things and things that make you happy, the more the better.
Now self-mutilation is getting younger and younger. The best way to prevent children and teenagers from self-harm is to establish a good family role. In the family, children have to do housework. At present, most families only have the affection of their parents and children, but lack the affection of their parents. Only parents love children, and children don't love their parents. They only know how to take and enjoy, but they don't want to give. As parents, they must strive to be important people and the first channel for help. When they encounter difficulties and setbacks, they will turn to you for help, cultivate their children's ability to love you, and stop desperately loving her/him. When children say to their parents, Mom and Dad, you are my good parents, and I want to be a good son/daughter of your, the family role is successfully constructed. In family education, the most terrible thing is that children do not love their parents and are not afraid of them, so they will do whatever they want. A child who has reached the stage of self-harm has no parents, even no one, even herself. No matter who it is, when it comes to self-harm, there is no one in my heart and all the tension is broken.
Some people say that self-harm is an accident without warning, but the fact is that self-harm is not an accident. It has nine distress signals, divided into six transformers and three branches. Six changes, one is a great change in temperament, personality and mood. Introverts suddenly turn outward or extroverts suddenly turn inward. Second, when the behavior changes greatly, there will be deviant behavior, deliberately not doing what should be done, deliberately doing what should not be done, such as deliberately not going to work when it is time to go to work, full of confidence. Third, spending more money, stingy people suddenly became generous and began to buy things to give away. Fourth, great changes have taken place in the language, and words and sentences related to death have been mentioned. Fifth, the body changes greatly and is seriously ill. Sixth, the environment has changed a lot, and I have experienced life changes and accidents, such as car accidents and school transfer. Entrust, entrust people, entrust important people to your care, entrust things, entrust important things to you to do, entrust things, and entrust things you like to keep.
In the face of psychological crisis, please be sure to accompany the client 24 hours a day. Don't leave people around, take care of your daily life, and don't persuade goodness: tell the beauty of life and see the rainbow after the storm. You can't rule out: you did it wrong, and you left. What will your parents do? What should I do? Can't cry: blame the customer for making me cry. You can't leave. Can't I send the white-haired man to the black-haired man? Don't scold: angry, insulting, blaming the parties. Your wings are hard. If you want to die, let me see if you can. Can't complain: blaming each other for causing inconvenience and trouble to everyone's life is all because you keep me from going to work and my family from going out to play. Can't ask questions: force the cause of the incident, let alone tell the parties who they want to live for.
Dear, when you feel helpless, confused and desperate, don't forget that the world and I love you. You can seek professional help if necessary. Please remember that it is a noble act to dare to ask for help. At the same time, I hope you love yourself and the people around you, and with your kind eyes and warm smile, you will become the pulling force of others' lives.