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"Augmented Xianwen": Good words are rare, but bad words are easy to apply. A sharp knife hurts, and a bad word hurts and hates.

Anger is an inevitable emotion for everyone, and many times it is extremely difficult for us to control our emotions.

But we can control how to speak, when to say what is wisdom, and when not to say what is skill.

When people are angry, they often lose their minds. At this time, some words of "eliminating hatred" will often poke the pain of others.

As the saying goes: "The speaker has no intention, but the listener has a heart."

People who say "eliminating hatred" when they are angry are happy, but those who listen will hold a grudge for a long time, and even some words will never be forgotten by those who listen. This is not worth the loss.

The higher the level, the less likely it is for people to say these two words when they are angry. This is both self-cultivation and wisdom in getting along with others.

The first sentence: expose people's shortcomings.

The most painful thing is to cut meat with a blunt knife, but it is more painful to expose people's shortcomings when they are angry than to cut meat with a blunt knife.

Shortcomings, some are physical, some are memory.

Gold is not enough, no one is perfect, and saints have a past. Physical shortcomings are inevitable, and everyone's memory has shortcomings.

These shortcomings are unwilling to be mentioned by themselves or by others.

As the saying goes, when people are angry, in order to vent their emotions, it is easy to directly attack each other's "seven-inch key", and exposing scars and poking shortcomings has become the most "eliminating hatred" way.

In many TV dramas or novels, in order to attract the audience and create conflicts in the plot, the shortcomings of the characters will be exposed to the crowd.

But if it is in real life, if someone takes a person's shortcomings as an attack means, then he will definitely be attacked by the strongest.

When you are angry, you are hurting yourself and others.

First, people who can be exposed are often close to themselves, and it is not worth the loss to hurt those who are close at one time.

Second, people have feelings. It is good to "eliminate hatred" by exposing shortcomings, but in the eyes of onlookers, everyone who exposes others' shortcomings will collapse.

Onlookers will think that others are exposed today and they will be exposed tomorrow. Those who expose people's shortcomings should not be intimate.

The second sentence: If you want to threaten others.

People's emotions are sometimes really strange. Some people are polite when they are not angry and always treat people and things gracefully. But once they get angry, they not only lose their minds, but also do the things they hate most.

Threatening others through language is the most disgusting thing in our life.

Some people who are in high positions or have advantages in some aspects often blurt out such words when they are angry and lose their minds.

It seems that it not only shows its position, but also belittles the other side. In fact, it is a loss of self-cultivation.

For example, when company leaders and employees have differences, they often say, "Do you still want to do it?"

In fact, this is not binding, even if it can make employees speechless for a while, they will not be convinced.

Employees usually have two reactions. One is to respond directly: "I quit." What used to be a small disagreement turned into a big one.

The other is that employees say nothing on the surface, but they are not convinced, and their leadership prestige is lost.

People who can threaten others often have a certain prestige.

But every time you say something like this when you are angry, your prestige will be worn away, and it will be gone after a long time.

On the one hand, decisions made when angry are usually irrational and hard to convince.

Secondly, "harsh words" can't be said easily. They are often put in your mouth, and people who say them will get used to it.

When the listener becomes a habit, the speaker will not take it seriously no matter what kind of "malicious words" he says.

The most important thing is that others can't really admire this practice, even if they admire it, they won't admire it in their hearts. Once you show weakness, it is easy to get a counterattack from others.

Anger is easier said than done, but feelings are not easy to pull.

A good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts June.

The feelings between people are accumulated bit by bit.

It takes a lot of time to accumulate a relationship, whether it is friendship or love, but it may only take a few angry words to destroy a relationship.

It is easy to say angry words, but it is difficult to recover lost feelings.

When you are angry, talk about the facts, stay rational, don't expand the scope, and don't make yourself happy through words.

A person's greatest achievement is the ability to think twice before you act.

An educated person can always keep a good sense of proportion, even when he is angry.

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