When I was a child, I often heard the old man say: if you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer.

Of course, we are more dismissive and dismissive.

Because elders often say unimportant things, such as keeping warm and putting on more clothes.

There are too many things to care about in life, and the words of the elders become annoying nagging.

Young people always have unlimited possibilities, the opportunity to start again and the courage to resist failure.

When we were young, our parents often made us study hard. If we don't study hard, we will pay double the price in the future.

Before the age of 30, we will never grow up, never have enough time, and never be interesting.

After the age of 30, we suddenly feel that we are caught off guard from the number 2 to the number 3.

In old age, just like a roller coaster, if there is a gap with others, it will become difficult to catch up.

Many people around me have made small achievements before they are 30 years old. Some of them do have the advantage of enjoying God-given food, with rich families and rich resources.

Xiaohui is one of them.

When she was very young, her parents made plans for her, telling her what to do as an experienced person, of course.

But Xiaohui felt that her parents were wrong and just wanted to live in her own way.

Her parents asked her to study, but she just wanted to refuse.

As an ordinary person, learning seems to be the most convenient way to realize oneself.

At the most struggling age, if you miss the opportunity, you will really be bored.

You see, the nagging you hated when you were a child has become your temperament in the polishing of years.

Xiaohui, who is in her thirties, is most afraid of attending class reunion.

She entered the trivial life of the family very early, and she has lost her pride.

There is no other topic except cooking every day.

Life is fair. When I was young, I was idle. When you get old, it will be hard.

This simple logic is no exception.

02

When people reach middle age, they will feel that time passes very quickly.

The focus of life will not be the same as when you were young. I just want to play games with my friends, go to nightclubs and eat and drink every day.

Zhang Ailing said in A Half Life: "A middle-aged person often feels lonely, because when he opens his eyes, he is surrounded by people who depend on him, but there is no one to rely on."

Middle-aged people are often labeled as greasy, unsophisticated and rigid.

We often see these so-called greasy middle-aged people, with big bellies, laughing and talking to others in order to survive.

Many times, we are disgusted with such people.

However, many people do this because they want to live.

The efforts in the second half of life are more arduous than those in the first half. Because, can't fail.

A friend of mine, Xiaohua, 35+, is at a dangerous age for social retirement. She has been full of anxiety about the future, or she doesn't even know how to change it.

After graduation, she entered the system and lived a stable life. However, with the growth of age, there is not much time left for her to make progress.

Some time ago, she suddenly wanted to study psychology, so she began to look for information to prepare for her study, and she also planned to apply for a postgraduate degree in psychology.

However, after a few busy days, I found that she suddenly became quiet, so I asked her: How is your plan going? She said: I don't want to take the exam and I don't want to work hard.

You see, this is what you hated when you were a child. Every day is in a daze, with plans and no actions.

But even if you hate yourself so much, you have become like this.

Augmented sages said that learning is like sailing against the current, if you don't advance, you will retreat; Like a plain horse, it's easy to let go but difficult to collect.

Give up your efforts in life, and life will give up on you.

Even if you complain about the unfairness of this society, unfairness exists objectively.

You may not be fair after your efforts, but if you don't work hard, there will be no way to enjoy the fairness of this society with others.

03

Time will wear away the edges and corners of people.

People in their thirties don't like to show off everything as much as they do in their twenties. At this time, most people want to seek stability, and "not interested" has become a mantra.

I used to like parties very much. Everyone is a brother, and the more friends, the better.

Now, if you really want to go out for a party, it's to find one or two confidants and chat together, so as not to waste time.

With the growth of age, it also increases the picky about friends.

It's not that I don't like making friends, but that I don't have so much time to invest.

Xiaojiang's family is relatively rich. He likes making friends very much. I eat and drink with my friends after work every day. Of course, it must be him who pays the bill.

He often shows off to me and says, look, I have two micro signals, both of which are good friends.

I can only laugh without saying a word, thinking to myself, and see how many people can help at the critical moment.

A few days ago, Xiao Jiang sent me a WeChat: Sister, I found that it is not easy for many friends.

I quickly called to ask, it turned out that Xiao Jiang suddenly fell ill a few days ago, but it was not serious, just ordinary gastroenteritis.

Patients are always vulnerable. So, he sent a few wechat messages, wanting friends to come and spend time with him.

But after asking the thirtieth person, Xiao Jiang gave up decisively, because thirty people just didn't have time.

Xiao Jiang was very depressed and told me on the phone that friends really only have one or two confidants.

I can see his disappointment, but I still want to expose his beautiful fantasy about his friends.

Everyone has his own life, his own family, his own children and his own parents. Therefore, in their own emotional balance, naturally put friends in a relatively backward position.

In fact, all this is understandable.

Some friends, long time no contact, are really strangers.

This is the regret that time has given us. Young girlfriends and confidants will gradually withdraw from your life because of the deviation of life trajectory.

Whether you like it or not, you don't have to chase it.

04

You see, these adults who look down on life are not just ignorant and heartless people you once hated.

I don't like socializing anymore and I don't have many friends in my life. I will go home after work.

The figure is gradually bloated, and the face is full of fake smiles. It is a kind look for everyone, not the reason for the uproar.

I like keeping in good health, going to bed early and getting up early, and living a standard life of making tea with Lycium barbarum.

Be more patient and tolerant of everything outside, and people who don't like it won't comment indiscriminately.

In fact, all these things you hate will eventually happen to you.

So, don't worry, it's just that time will gradually smooth out all your sharpness, make you accept the world more and lead a sad life.

Romain rolland said: There is only one kind of heroism in the world, and that is to love life after recognizing the truth of life.

What we can't know, life will give you the answer.