If a girl is too quiet, the importance of personality will be reflected in a new environment, and she will subconsciously want to be more lively, because she doesn't know how to talk to unfamiliar people, how to talk to new friends and how to express herself better.
Quiet, shy and lively and cheerful belong to two completely different personalities. Relatively speaking, a taciturn person can't express himself fluently and naturally in an interview, let alone make people feel generous and trustworthy. When meeting for the first time, a cheerful person is more likely to leave a sociable image, while a quiet person does not have this condition, especially when she is hesitant.
Of course, this does not mean that quiet people are not as capable as lively people, but feel passive in some ways. In fact, a girl should also have some "wildness" in order to better adapt to society. Being too quiet behind a child may make her feel inferior.
Is it a good thing that your daughter is too quiet? Three potential risks may be the fuse of inferiority complex.
1. It's too quiet to communicate with people actively.
A child who is too quiet often doesn't take the initiative to communicate with others. There may be few friends around, and the conversation with them will not be very harmonious. This actually means that she is an introverted person and doesn't like to talk. Introverts don't necessarily feel inferior, but people who feel inferior must be introverted.
Min Min always sits quietly in the classroom. Teachers and classmates sometimes don't feel her existence, even if they are in a daze, they don't want to go out to play with children, so they don't have particularly good friends. She usually entertains herself in her spare time. She is not good at communicating with people, and her personality has become introverted and her courage is very small.
Children who are not good at communication often have some fears about unfamiliar environments, and their adaptability will be poor. It is difficult to integrate into society in the future. Adults need to appropriately encourage children to communicate with others, but don't force children to say hello too much. You can't say that the child is shy to her face, otherwise it is easy to form a hint and make her feel inferior.
You may be afraid to try new things.
Parents want their children to be quiet and not "crazy" all day, but they are too quiet to try new things. Because it is difficult to build self-confidence if you dare not try, it is easy to get frustrated once you leave society. One or two setbacks may not necessarily lead to inferiority, but long-term setbacks will not be solved, and the feelings of inferiority will be very serious.
My mother bought a bike for her daughter before, and she never wanted to ride it. She said that she wanted to be a quiet girl, and there was a thick layer of dust on the car, but her daughter still didn't want to learn, and her mother was helpless.
Parents should actively encourage their children to try new things. If they want their children to be quiet, parents should also let them read more books, so that she can broaden her horizons and have a brave heart in reading.
You may be weak and insecure.
People who are quiet generally live in their own world, but they have strong self-esteem. When a little bad words reach their ears, they will be hurt, their personality will become too quiet, and finally they will become timid and unconfident.
There was a girl who was told that she had been quiet since she was a child. Later, she realized the importance of being cheerful and lively in the interview. Her inability to speak and lack of enthusiasm is an important reason for the failure of the interview. Her mentality slowly began to change, from quiet to introversion, from introversion to cowardice and inferiority.
In fact, parents can take their children with them, let her experience happy times with children of the same age, create conditions for children to do things independently, let her boldly contact with things he is interested in, and let her gradually become lively and cheerful.