I have a friend. They are a united family. After more than ten years, I feel that they get along well. As for how parents do it, I just think they get along very casually.
Yes, there is no such deliberate caution between children and parents. In these families, because there is no blood relationship, the relationship between them is very cautious, which is unacceptable. It looks like treating strangers, which will only make the relationship worse and worse.
I saw what happened to you. Children become irritable, sensitive and irritable for family reasons. That's understandable. This is a way for children to protect their hearts in disguise. He doesn't know how to deal with his mother's relationship with you. He is caught in the middle, which is very contradictory. If he is close to you, he will feel betrayed by his mother. If you are still close to your birth mother, she will be at a loss for you. How to get into this child's heart is what you must do if you want to be harmonious.
First of all, you should adjust your mentality and try to integrate into this family. First, don't denigrate his biological mother in front of children, and have a tolerant heart. Furthermore, to get close to a child's world, we should know his world, his age, his hobbies and troubles. Communicate with him often, and don't flatter and be rigid. Just like his friends, generally speaking, it is easier to be his friends. Finally, pay attention to some details to make him feel that you care about him, such as his favorite food, and put a glass of water in front of him when playing games to remind him of some things, which are easy to be ignored and the most important.
Don't take improving the relationship as a psychological burden, it will easily worsen the relationship, so a peaceful attitude is the most important.
Love children is from the heart, I hope your family is harmonious.
Well, to be honest, I also got up from the addiction of online games. Why is an online game attractive and addictive? I think the virtual world of online games satisfies the emptiness of people like us in real life. Only when a person is confused can he find realism in the virtual world. In online games, we can live with masks, do things that we usually dare not do, and compare RMB with others, which is really attractive. I think, an eight-year-old child who is addicted to online games, besides being curious about new things, also has inner anxiety at work! Therefore, if you want him not to indulge in online games, the way is to enrich his heart with other things and attract his attention. After all, an eight-year-old child is still very curious. Use other meaningful things to attract his attention, and don't use tough means, which will only increase the child's rebellious psychology.