Put health before money.

My family is a big family with many brothers and sisters. When friends around you know the situation, they will shout, "You must have had a hard time when you were a child, right?"

I always answer, "No, it's fun to recall childhood."

After being asked a lot of questions, I once asked my mother curiously, "The cost of raising children is so high. How did you and my dad raise us? "

My mother told me at that time: "As long as everyone in the family is healthy, the family can always live with or without money."

Yes, health is like the foundation of a home. Without it, everything is empty talk.

My brother who is a doctor often takes his family to exercise, and we often laugh at him. Although he is only in his thirties, he lives in his sixties.

He told us to take care of ourselves, not for yourself but for the whole family.

For professional reasons, he has seen many families fall apart because of illness:

When the child is ill, the couple spend all their savings and go to Lacrimosa every day;

The husband is sick, the weak wife and young son are helpless, and a family is crumbling;

When his wife was ill, a big man was pulling the child, and he couldn't even eat a hot meal. Who's pathetic?

When the old man was ill, the whole family was overcast and even quarreled endlessly;

At ordinary times, every family member is striving for a bigger house and more savings, but when there are physical problems, they will understand that without health, a family will not be happy no matter how much things are outside.

The real advanced health care is to go home and have a good meal.

It's hard to blame. Hold tight when you're killed.

Many families have "home and everything" plaques hanging in their living rooms.

Why does "family harmony" lead to "everything goes smoothly"?

Because the family is not noisy, United and kind, and does not spend time on family conflicts, family members have a sense of happiness and have more energy and motivation to invest in their careers; Communicate more and communicate more to avoid going astray.

To achieve family harmony, the most important thing is to do one thing well: less blame and more unity.

Heard a story:

There are two families living next door. One often quarrels, but the other always laughs and laughs. Life is getting better and better.

One day, a quarrelling family went to a neighbor's house to ask the secret of keeping the family harmonious.

Neighbors told them: "My family doesn't quarrel because there are many bad people in my family."

It turned out that in the neighbor's house, no matter who did something wrong or what went wrong, the family members would not blame each other, but sincerely review themselves, saying that they would not be wrong if they did better, and then solve the problem together.

There is a saying: "When a reproach is uttered, there is a distinction between right and wrong. When two people are instantly pulled to the opposite side, the feeling of love will disappear. "

Many times, once the blame is spoken, it means injury, which will only make the wrongdoer feel worse, or arouse the other party's desire to attack without realizing his mistake. In short, it doesn't help solve the problem at all.

A harmonious family may be as trivial as thousands of families, but every family member knows that a family will be twisted into a rope when it encounters difficulties.

Unity is like the roof of a home. With it, no matter how big the storm is, it can survive.

The best relationship between husband and wife is not sharing weal and woe, but ...

Family members have no sense of boundaries.

It was a disaster.

Some people say that the root of all human suffering stems from a lack of sense of boundaries.

Not long ago, the hit "Everything is OK" confirmed this sentence.

Sue's series of farce, in fact, are caused by Sue's sense of no boundaries:

For her husband, she has no respect, and one person has the final say in family affairs, which leads to Su Daqiang's life-long buckle and timidity;

For my son, he is obviously married and married, and he still takes care of him everywhere. Ming cheng is still ignorant at the age of 30;

Support my younger brother everywhere, which leads him to have no sense of shame and just want to take advantage. ...

In Mingyu's generation, a series of problems are still caused by no boundaries:

Su Daqiang was dissatisfied and asked for one crop after another, and the three children were miserable;

Su Mingzhe was single-minded in filial piety and accepted his father's unreasonable demands one by one, which led to his wife Wu Fei being left out in the cold and filing for divorce.

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The so-called sense of boundaries is to know what can and can't be.

Nod when it is time to nod, and refuse when it is time to refuse.

You can love your child, but at the right time, you should let him do it, let him learn to think independently, and don't deprive him of the opportunity to grow up;

It's okay to supervise your partner, but not just suppress it. You should learn to listen, accept and respect each other's opinions.

Filial piety can be done to parents, but not to make his wife and children pay for their own face in order to fulfill the name of "dutiful son";

It's no problem to help relatives, but it's no use helping them if they are in emergency and don't save the poor. It's no use helping anyone if he doesn't try to live a good life himself. It is an obligation to help him, and it is also an obligation not to help him.

In the vast universe, there must be some special fate to get into the house and get married. This fate is not excessive capital, but should be a reason to cherish each other.

Everyone in the family should do their own thing, interfere in other people's affairs less, leave a bottom line when helping others, and leave a face when begging others.

A sense of boundaries is a wall of home, which keeps family members from crossing the line and makes each other feel a decent and comfortable relationship with the United States.

How can Chinese mothers get out of the predicament of their mother-in-law being offside, their husbands being absent and dislocated?

Live a good life

Let the young have their strengths and the old have a sense of security.

I ching said: "Father, son, brother, brother, husband, wife and daughter are all upright."

It means: family members do their own jobs and do their own things well, so that the family can be healthy and harmonious.

I once saw a reader talking about her family in the background:

Husband is like a child who doesn't grow up. He just wants to eat, drink and be merry all day. She is in poor health, has no serious job, takes a son who is in junior high school, and often relies on her parents for help.

She attaches great importance to her son's study and wants to send him to the best school, but the child is rebellious and disobedient, and his grades are in a mess. A family quarrels a little in three days and a lot in five days.

Finally, she asked, "I don't know why I made my home like this?"

The reason may be due to the dislocation of family responsibilities:

My husband and I are in the prime of life, but we have not made due contributions to the family, which is the culprit;

Parents have reached the age of self-reliance, but they have to bear the children's livelihood problems, and complaints are inevitable;

In such a family environment, children can't find any positive role models, and it is estimated that even the fun of life can't be found, and the fun of learning is hard to find.

There is a poem in "Ye Wan Ji": swords are often sharpened, and family style has been clear since ancient times; We should be self-sufficient, and future generations will be immortal.

As long as parents live a good life, let their children grow up in a healthy family environment and let the elderly grow old with peace of mind and dignity, a family can slowly go along a positive track, even if it is not rich or expensive.

Family members perform their duties, just like the window of a home. Stick to this point, and there will be breeze and sunshine coming in to dispel the haze at home.

Home is the most comfortable nest in the world and the most beautiful word in the world.

It is the reason why we left, and all our efforts outside are for the good of going home.

It is also the direction of our return. When we are running around and tired, we can all find the courage to get back on the road.

"Zhu Zi's Family Instructions" said: Family harmony, although unsatisfactory, is also full of joy.

A family doesn't want to be rich, just want to lay a good foundation with health, build a roof with unity, build a wall with a sense of border, and turn it into a window with responsibility. In this small room, family members always live with smiles.

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Steamed bread, writing occasionally, dreaming occasionally. The biggest promise is to open a milk tea shop.