In many people's minds, 44 years old is a time of success and complacency. In a report, UNESCO pointed out that according to a large number of statistics from all over the world, men will undergo great changes in physiology between the ages of 43 and 45. So 44 years old is defined as the dividing point between youth and maturity. People's life curve drops from the peak, and the burden curve of work and family rises. The intersection of these two scissors difference curves is 44 years old, so 44 years old can also be called the axis of "middle-aged scissors difference". Middle-aged men have undergone significant changes in psychology, thinking and work due to physiological changes.
Loneliness fills the heart.
The 44-year-old man is very busy, bearing the burden of family and career. Because he is stuck in his own world and has little time to communicate with others, a 44-year-old man will feel lonely. The competition is unprecedentedly fierce, and the relationship between people is getting colder and colder. Everyone is very vigilant. A successful 44-year-old man feels lonely at the top; A 44-year-old man with a bad career will inevitably feel depressed and depressed. "Old heart" is a feeling often expressed by 44-year-old men. Most middle-aged people will have inner and spiritual loneliness. Liu, a 44-year-old manager of a large shopping center, said he didn't have any close friends and didn't want to have much contact with his subordinates. "I think that if you want to do your own thing well, you must maintain an unemotional relationship with others." He felt it inappropriate to show his true feelings to another person. In real life, it is not surprising that a 44-year-old man has no confidant. Many people admit that they don't have a close friend whom they can trust and talk to completely. However, most of them seem to think that this phenomenon is normal and acceptable. The closure of the inner world makes it impossible for people to establish true friendship through emotional communication. The lack of friendship makes modern people fall into a strong sense of loneliness, just like some middle-aged people describe their feelings: "In this world, I feel lonely, jealous, angry and nervous." It is this sense of loneliness and exclusion that aggravates the emotional crisis of middle-aged people.
Be hostile to the winner.
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A 44-year-old man may sympathize with those who are in trouble in life, but he tends to be hostile to those who are on the rise. Hostility is mostly related to inferiority complex. When a 44-year-old man achieves something, he will become kind, compassionate and generous; He was very angry after his failure. When a 44-year-old man is in trouble at work, it is enough for his children to knock over the oil bottle, but if the same thing happens on the day when he is rewarded by his boss, his attitude may be to whisper to the children, "Never mind, don't be afraid." Although hostility is a very common and normal phenomenon for 44-year-old men, it is a negative emotion after all. Too much hostility can easily distort a person's mind, and he is used to wearing color-changing glasses to look at people, so that he often complains and suffers.
Avoid responsibility, sadness, and depression.
When Liu Jun just turned 44 this year, his life fell into a trough and he gradually lost his passion. He passed the buck and blamed all the mistakes on others. He is moping all day, as if waiting for death. His inner depression is mainly due to the people and things around him, and he can't adapt to the surrounding environment. So he refused to grow up, continued to pretend and kept blaming Aidit, saying, "What can I do? Why am I so worthless? The world is so unfair to me! " Some 44-year-old "successful" men are also depressed. For example, if a successful man is not good at housework and faces a messy home, he will often feel strongly depressed. Depression often magnifies the misfortune of life, so it is necessary for middle-aged men who are troubled by persistent and intense depression to receive psychotherapy. These people are often unwilling to admit that they have psychological problems, which will inevitably cause further harm to their work, life and marriage.
Causing depressive symptoms.
Modern society emphasizes competition and getting ahead, especially middle-aged men, which brings them endless psychological pressure. China's traditional social culture requires people to "hide their emotions", especially for big men, who emphasize the suppression of their emotions. This has caused many 44-year-old men's depressive symptoms and deepened their emotional crisis.
When things get more anxious.
Du Jun, 44, was suddenly told that she was going to be laid off, and she went blind in a hurry. This phenomenon is called "conversion reaction" by psychologists and is caused by nervous anxiety. Due to the pressure of work and family, and the desire for career success, the psychological pressure of middle-aged people is often great, which makes many people anxious. Experts believe that if a 44-year-old middle-aged man wants to get rid of the psychological crisis, he should adjust his psychology, cultivate a happy attitude, form a positive self, tap his potential, readjust his life goals, learn to care for himself and seize the chance of success. At the same time, the wife should care about her husband, discover the subtle changes in her husband's heart in time, and help him out of his psychological predicament.
In fact, under normal circumstances, we are very concerned about some physical blows. In fact, what is more difficult to heal is psychological trauma. The above case undoubtedly reveals a similar feature. Psychological trauma can easily cause deep harm to men, far more serious than those physical pains. It is very important to maintain the mental health of men in the transitional period.