Chapter 1: Life is like tea. Let's look at the world from another angle.

Chapter two: Tolerance is a height.

Chapter 3: Forget yourself to get yourself.

Chapter 4: 13 Don't worry about things in life.

Many things in life are involuntary, and only one's own mood can decide. When we encounter setbacks, only the strength in our hearts can help us tide over the difficulties. However, some people are naturally sentimental. Life is like tea, it is better to look at the world from another angle!

Life is like tea. Look at the world from another angle.

Tea Zen: Life is like tea. With an empty cup, there will be endless good tea, and there will be full of joy and emotion.

Practical psychology: The so-called practice of smiling is not to mechanically move one's facial expression, but to try to change one's mentality and adjust one's mood. Learn to accept the reality frankly, learn to let nature take its course, learn to face bad luck calmly, learn to look at life positively, and learn to look on the bright side of everything. In this way, the sun will shine into the heart, driving away fear and darkness, leaving only warmth. Smile is not an expression, but a state of mind.

Zen enlightenment: small heart, big things; Big heart, small things. Difficult things, look at responsibility; Prosperity and adversity, look at the mind; Whether you are happy or angry depends on self-cultivation; Give up and look at wisdom; Success or failure depends on persistence. Everything goes with the flow; Treat things calmly; When you are proud, you are indifferent; Be calm when you are frustrated; Inevitable twists and turns: I have experienced all the vicissitudes.

Shu Han, station manager: Life is pure. But people's lives are getting more and more complicated. Many times, we live not as a life, but as a desire, ambition, identity and title; Not for life, but for wealth, power, status and reputation. These social deposits cover life, and we regard them as more important than life, so we can't hear the voice of life itself without listening.

Jiushang: People should be content, tolerant and generous, and don't think about complicated things. Otherwise, people will worry about heaven because of the heavy ideological burden. You are simple and the world is simple to you. A simple life can bring a happy life. Delete the memory regularly and discard the unpleasant people and things from the memory. Format yourself just to delete you. Zhang Ailing said: Because I have loved, I am merciful; Because I know I am tolerant.

There is a saying in reading: We often lament that life is too dull. In fact, people's life, in addition to happiness and pain, dull occupies most of the time. We should learn to enjoy insipid, insipid as green tea, dotted with the tranquility and warmth of life; We should also learn to bear the dull and faint loneliness and loss, the lingering boredom and silence, the distant waiting and helplessness. Because life itself is a kind of bearing.

Bib classic billboard: No matter how you choose, as long as it is your own choice, there is no right or wrong regret. The past you will not satisfy the present you, and the present you will not satisfy the future you. Have the courage to choose, but also have the courage to bear the consequences. When a person grows up, he dares to face himself bitterly: before making a choice, he has a sincere and firm face; After choosing, there is a heart that will never change.

Tolerance is a height.

In life, we can often see that when our interests are infringed, some people will speak ill of each other, while others will laugh it off. These two methods reflect different social fields. Confucius Day: "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you." Don't impose what you don't want on others. If you are tired of other people's behavior, then you shouldn't treat others in the same way.

Tolerance of others requires an open mind. In life, in just a few decades, the communication between people is like the water of a river, which keeps flowing. Therefore, once a person is not deeply involved in the world, he will inevitably have conflicts of interest with the outside world more or less. Confucius said, "Everything goes wrong in life." He also said: "A gentleman's way is loyalty and forgiveness." In other words, in the face of unpleasant things, we should tolerate others. Only by always being tolerant and not pursuing some unprincipled problems in life can Bai Ji be freed from the trivial matters of interpersonal relationships and put his limited energy into his beloved career.

Nowadays, the whole society is advocating a harmonious culture and atmosphere. Whether a harmonious society can be truly harmonious has a lot to do with everyone's harmonious thought of thinking about problems and dealing with social contradictions. Tolerance and comity are three points, which were put forward by Confucius more than two thousand years ago. On reflection, it coincides with the harmonious culture advocated today. Tolerance is not only beneficial, but also the current social trend and general trend.

But we should also realize that tolerance is not a loss of principle and appeasement. When some interests involve the essence of doing things for others, it is natural to argue for them. However, if it is a trivial matter of life, we will try our best to understand and be considerate of others. If we don't say a word, avoid talking about it, or laugh at ourselves, we can often turn an enemy into a friend. Why not? Tolerance, in fact, is to position yourself above the attacker, get rid of the extra burden brought by trivial matters, and let yourself have more energy to do more meaningful things.

If you don't care, you can broaden your horizons; Inclusive and harmonious.

Forget yourself to get yourself.

A person should be embarrassed. If you are dumb or deaf, you are crazy. Anonymous, cultivate wisdom and wisdom. Walk quietly, forget the inside and forget the outside. (Zen master Cui Yan)

The meaning of this passage is: whether you get along with others or be alone, you should keep a low profile. It's like being deaf and dumb, stupid and drunk. Keep anonymous and cultivate your wisdom. If you want to move out, you can move out. Be quiet when it is time to be quiet. Forget yourself and forget the world.

A man of practice doesn't lock himself up: there is no reason for a man not to associate with others all his life. Nine years of Buddhism, facing the wall. If he doesn't come out of the hole in 90 years, he will become a monster. As the saying goes, "everyone practices well." If there is only one person in the world, there is no interest in living. Once upon a time, there was a man who wanted revenge every day for ten years. He stayed in the mountains for ten years, studying technology. Finally, he went down the mountain, only to find that his enemy was dead. All his anger has not been realized. Emptiness, regret, boredom. Now, when he thinks of his enemies, he feels very cordial. Once he went to see the enemy's graveyard. He saw the name written on the tablet at a glance, and he felt "boom!" The longer you hate, the deeper you think.

Only by forgetting yourself can you get yourself. Although you love everyone in the crowd, you can't walk with everyone, because there are thousands of people in front of you, and you only have one. Once upon a time, there was a man who had been to many places and left a good impression. One day, he had a whim. He wants to visit the original place again. Of course, as a result, he soon got lost. Why not forget yourself? Forget yourself. Someone once visited Tianjin in front of Hony's interview, and Tianjin was his birthplace. Hony has no response, and has long regarded his hometown as his own. Someone once told Hony how beautiful Japanese cherry blossoms are, but Hony still didn't respond. After sleeping in Yangzhou for ten years, I have long regarded my former idleness as a place of nothingness!

Nothing to worry about in life.

As the saying goes, "Nine times out of ten, life is not satisfactory". People will encounter many happy, happy and satisfied things in their life, as well as setbacks and hardships. Can you still maintain a positive attitude towards life at this time? In fact, there are some things in life that don't need to be too concerned. The gains and losses of a person's life are like sand in his hand. Only by spreading your hands carelessly can you gain more.

Suffer from waste

Some people in life are afraid of losing money and buying expensive things. They always ask themselves when giving bonuses. Wang Guorong said that most people think that failure is weak and stupid, but in the long run, those who can fail are honest and kind, and they are more likely to win the trust of others. According to Kou, a professor at Fuwai Cardiovascular Hospital of China Academy of Medical Sciences, who is nearly eighty years old, "contentment is always a pleasure, and suffering is a blessing" is the key to his physical and mental health. This optimistic and relaxed attitude is a "buffer" to keep yourself away from tension and pressure.

give up

At the crossroads of life, you often have to make a choice. Every choice you make means that you have to give up another choice. As the saying goes, "If you don't give up, you will get nothing." You don't have to worry about whether the method you gave up is correct. It is a kind of courage to dare to give up. GregoryMiller, an American psychologist, found that people who know how to give up are healthier physically and mentally than those who never give up until they reach their goals.

Lead a wandering life

Although the Spring Festival travel rush craze has become a unique sight of China New Year, it also lets us know how many people have left home. Wandering without a sense of belonging, seemingly unfortunate, is actually a qualification and capital. Stop and go, you can gain more life experience. Wandering and stability, there is no right or wrong, they are just two different lifestyles. The meaning of life lies in reward, and life is full of posts.

lose one's job

Now is not the time for parents to eat the same pot of rice. One or two occasional unemployment is not all despair. In Japan, there is a group similar to "Friends of the Unemployed". After unemployment, everyone encourages each other and regards it as a new opportunity in life. Unemployment can also give you time to reorganize yourself and go into battle lightly.

evaluate

Many people care too much about other people's opinions and comments. As a result, they make themselves nervous and timid, and always seem to be living for others. In fact, if you take yourself too seriously, you can't concentrate on the matter itself, and it's hard to achieve great things. Wang Guorong suggested that he should stick to his independent judgment, stand up to criticism and tolerate other people's different views.

Childish

Being called naive, on the other hand, is actually an affirmation of your youth and vitality. Maturity represents stability and smoothness, but it also loses simplicity and courage. So don't worry too much about being called naive, because when you are overwhelmed by life one day, you will definitely miss the naivety of that year.

fail

One failure does not mean a lifetime failure. It should be clearly recognized that failure is not a bad thing. With this experience, you can achieve countless successes in the future. People should not pay too much attention to failure itself, but should pay more attention to how to deal with the negative emotions brought about by failure, so as to constantly improve themselves.

lonely

Loneliness is not a sad thing. The movie Mei Lanfang said, "Whoever destroys Mei Lanfang's loneliness will destroy Mei Lanfang." In fact, life is a lonely feast. Only those who can keep loneliness can have a purer soul, and those who can't keep loneliness will fall into the impetuousness of this society. Being alone is like watching a gorgeous fireworks coldly. Only in this way can we deeply reflect on ourselves and enjoy the true meaning of life more clearly.

ambitious

Setbacks are often accompanied by difficulties. "Life is like the sea, and there will be no storms every day." Wang Guorong said that adversity in life is like waves in the sea. When you are frustrated, you should first see dialectically how difficult and changeable life is, and smooth sailing is just a beautiful vision. Therefore, in the face of setbacks, we must maintain a "regardless of gains and losses" mentality, and we must know that all difficulties are temporary. At the same time, we should also understand that "a good life needs suffering", grasp the opportunities brought by adversity and seek breakthroughs in persistence.

salary

When you are young, especially when you just graduated from college, salary is not the most important, because the salary of working for others is not much higher. At this point, opportunity is far more important than salary. For most people, it is best to do what they want before the age of 30, instead of giving up their dreams because of blindly pursuing excessive salary.

deposit

Many people like to compare their savings. You deposit 300,000 yuan, and I deposit 654.38+00,000 yuan. In fact, it is unrealistic for young people to have large deposits; On the contrary, their youth and opportunities are priceless. For middle-aged and elderly people, if they save some money for their old age, others can do some investment and entertainment to enrich their lives.

misunderstand

There are many misunderstandings in life, which will bring harm and inconvenience to yourself more or less. Wang Guorong suggested that after a misunderstanding, it is best to measure the matter itself with objective standards, and then find out the cause of the misunderstanding with a persistent attitude, and choose to explain it through a third party. If you don't want to explain, you can also choose silence and accept it calmly. In short, don't increase your psychology.

Small contradictions in life

Life is full of trivial contradictions, and anything between marriage, mother-in-law and neighbors may turn into a big war. The reason may be that I said one more word and did a small thing wrong. In the face of contradictions in life, we must first control our temper. If you want to get angry, you can avoid it first. You can eat a candy to ease your anger. Then find a trustworthy person to rationally analyze the crux of the problem together; Finally, solve it in a peaceful or humorous way. Small contradictions are like life regulators. If there is, solve it, but don't care too much.

In addition to the above 13 things, there are seven things in life that you don't have to care too much about. They are poverty, defects, stress, rumors, houses, age and troubles. Life will arrange countless opportunities while arranging these small problems for you. If you are addicted to these things, it is easy to get frustrated everywhere. An indifferent life should be like this pair of couplets in A Story of a Deep Window, so as to "look at bloom in front of the court in humiliation; If you don't want to stay, look at the sky. "

Conclusion: Life is not always smooth sailing in just a few decades, so we should always remind ourselves that life is like tea, and it is better to be optimistic. (The article was originally published in Health Journal, serial number: 2065438+March 2002; , serial number: 2065438+February 2002, written by Jabon and Wang Shaonong, and the copyright belongs to the author; The purpose of reprinting is to convey more information, which does not mean that 360 Common Sense Network agrees with its views and is responsible for its authenticity. Please contact us as soon as possible if it involves content, copyright and other issues, and we will delete the content as soon as possible)