Current location - Health Preservation Learning Network - Health preserving class - The first batch of post-90 s people are almost in their thirties: most of the collapses of adults are due to money grievances, really?
The first batch of post-90 s people are almost in their thirties: most of the collapses of adults are due to money grievances, really?
0 1.

After 90, it is about to usher in the 30 mark.

I saw a terrier on the internet before, saying that it would be born in less than 7 months and 20 months. They look at the post-90s, just like the post-90s look at the post-60s.

Suddenly I feel that time has passed too fast.

Counting by fingers, in 160 days, the first batch of post-90s will officially enter the third generation, which means that the arrogant generation that dominated society and was given various definitions in those years is no longer young.

What is the concept of thirty?

Take a sentence from The Analects of Confucius for Politics to explain:

"Thirty. Forty without confusion. You knew your destiny at the age of fifty. Sixty sounds good. "

In other words, when you reach the age of 30, you should at least have the capital to face the world. Whether mentally or materially, you must be more confident and confident than in the past.

Otherwise, in the later days, with the growth of age, you will have nothing in your hand and feel more panic, because you never know what kind of blow reality will give you.

In mid-February this year, JD.COM introduced the "last elimination system" for senior executives. Those executives who earned hundreds of thousands of dollars a year faced a cruel system of survival of the fittest, and the elimination ratio was as high as 10%.

At this time, whether you are just over 30 in nominal age or in middle age, you never say hello when people are eliminated by society.

Think about it, society is still so cruel to executives, not to mention that there is no ordinary employee with skills. If you don't stand up at the age of 30, how can you support the rest of your life?

This node is important because it is the age when a person begins to transfer from one generation to another, a summary of the first half of his youth, and a new beginning of subsequent chapters.

Whether you admit it or not, after 30 years old, everything you experience is no longer the memory of youth, but the experience of life.

80 years old and young, it's 90' s turn to leave.

02.

Being a social animal is not the problem, but having no money is the problem.

There is a line in the Japanese drama Uncle's Love:

"Don't scold young people loudly, they will resign immediately, but you can scold those middle-aged people to death, especially those who have cars, houses and babies."

At that time, this remark caused widespread * * *, the bitterness of middle-aged people jumped to the page, and the absurd image of young people was deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.

In fact, in the big data display:

The average on-the-job time in the first job is the longest after 70, with an average of 4 years and 3 months, followed by 80, and 3.5 years. Only after 90, the average on-the-job time in the first job is as short as 7 months. Say goodbye.

In this regard, the People's Daily judged young people as "naked resignation if they disagree", and it is difficult to achieve great things without practicing internal skills.

Seriously, most of them go out to work and start living independently. As we all know, naked resignation has never been a good thing. After all, the monthly rent, utilities and food expenses, without income, no matter how smart a woman is, can't cook without rice.

Therefore, if we have to, who wants to live in a precarious situation after naked resignation and be labeled as "rotten wood"?

For most young people, naked resignation is not for comfort, but for money. In order to live a better life, it is more secure for the future to find a job suitable for your long-term struggle while you are young.

Just as netizens spit: You can scold me, but you can't deduct my money. You talk to me about dreams, then I tell you, my dream is to have money.

It is nonsense to talk about dreams without money. Nobody wants to lose his job casually. The problem is that money is not in place, there is no growth, and they are forced to do nothing.

I remember that my cousin talked to me that day and advised me to find a job worth enduring as soon as possible. Otherwise, if people live for 30 years, there will be no young capital to squander. Even if I live in a social animal and my work is rubbish, I dare not jump ship easily.

Because once you fall into the work window, the living expenses of the whole family alone will kill you.

Zhang Ailing said: "When people reach middle age, they often feel lonely. Because when you open your eyes, you are surrounded by people who depend on you, but there is no one you can rely on. "

Now this kind of experience does not need to reach middle age. As soon as you enter 30, you can feel the pressure.

03.

Whoever drinks this cup of life will be drunk.

Some netizens in Zhihu asked: Why do some people sit alone in the car after driving home?

The answer to the highest praise @ Love Sauce is:

Because that is a dividing point, you are daily necessities, a father, a son, a husband, not yourself.

In the car, quietly smoking a cigarette, this body belongs to oneself.

This is not only a man's feeling, but also a woman's heartfelt words. Light the cigarette of life, put down the burden on your shoulders and enjoy loneliness in a lonely space.

Men have men's pains, women have women's tiredness, and no one is more relaxed than anyone else.

You see, many post-90s, 30-year-old people have already finished their marriages, given birth to children, lived more than half their lives, and had little bank deposits.

This means that two people have to bear the support of four old people, and the children need to be raised. Those middle-aged people have long felt the pain of their families.

In Weibo, there is a hot word called "suicide singles", which refers to the post-90s generation.

In the final analysis, it is not because raising oneself is a problem, but because raising dreams is an extravagant hope. How can we support our families?

Because I'm used to those people running around for their families, I'd rather wait until I have the ability to support my family.

Standing up at the age of 30 is a small goal set by the post-90 s. These days, not middle-aged people are qualified to complain about being tired.

I remember a personal experience written by a netizen.

His company was in financial crisis, so he decided to lay off a project department, and this netizen with a nominal age of 30 happened to be one of them.

A man who is almost 30 years old, old and young, is not excellent at this age. Why should he compete with people younger than him for food? It is difficult to find a job, and it is even more difficult to change careers. After thinking about it, a big man felt a midlife crisis for the first time in his life when he was crying in the shower.

Most of the collapse of adults is due to money, and the pressure after 90 is not lower than that after 7080.

Think of Wang Nima's remarks about the post-90s generation:

"If you want to give an overall impression to the vast majority of post-90s generation, you can say that they will postpone retirement as soon as they start working. They are a generation that can't afford to buy a house and get married after working for 20 years, but they are working hard every day.

They are a generation living in rented houses in Beishangguang. Despite the harsh employment and natural environment and high housing prices, they are still striving to pursue their ideals and the life they want every day. "

If the post-90s generation is a beat generation, are they all crushed by reality? But even if you kneel down, you must walk on the road ahead step by step.

04.

It's not easy to be an unconventional post-90s generation.

At that time, think about who is not a fearless and carefree person, and stay or stay at will.

But now my friends around me dare not resign even if they work again. After all, it's over 25, and it's farther from 30. They don't have much money in hand, but they are heavily in debt. Their parents are retired at home, and the pressure is even greater than Dashan.

To sum up, I just want to resign and have no capital.

I have to say that when a person feels the pressure of life, no matter how headstrong and naive he is, he will be forced to grow up. Those who find it easy to make money are just tired of not receiving money, and those who talk about their ideals and ambitions have no way out.

You know, everyone will grow up, and no one can be a baby forever.

When the post-90s gradually withdrew from the lively stage of society and became a generation of "old people", they who had been questioned had been well immersed in their own way, and no one was bothered by it at all.

Han Han once sent a Weibo, the content is too hard:

"It is unfair to accuse the post-80 s and post-90 s of not being able to withstand pressure, because the pressure of economy and survival is much greater than before, and social development and historical reasons have put too much pressure on this generation."

The post-90 s around me have been quietly supporting their families, and those who are nearly 30 years old are desperate to run forward. After all, it will be too late to talk about savings and life at that time.

In fact, not only the post-90s generation, each generation is very tired, and each generation has its own responsibilities and obligations, but the life of adults is not easy.

As adults, their desires have been satisfied, and at the same time, they have gradually lost the happiness they easily got when they were children. There is no denying that this is an irreversible trend. What we can do is not to forget your initiative and expectation for the future, so as to achieve your ultimate goal.

30 years old is a hurdle, and every step in the future is pressure, so we have to be cautious, but whose life is not like this?

So come on, except when you are tired, bite the bullet and vent your tears. The sun will rise tomorrow, otherwise what can you do? Life is not like this, it's sad.