Just as the two women in TV series belong to the above two situations, Nan Li and Xia Junshan belong to the category of quality education. At first, their daughter Xia Huanhuan's performance has been on the edge of poor students. On the other hand, Tian Yulan and Yan Peng advocated the first grade, especially Tian Yulan. Their education for their son Tian Ziyou was almost "crazy". Yes, this is crazy. It's no exaggeration to use this word to describe her, but what happened? Son Tian Ziyou was introverted and withdrawn from childhood, and felt that a primary school student had long lost his innocence and loveliness. Obviously, we don't particularly agree with these two couples' educational ideas. For a time, such a storyline made us fall into an educational dilemma in front of the TV.
These two days, I am reading "Subtle Human Nature" by Professor Li Meijin, a famous criminal psychologist. In Tik Tok, many parents should pass her by, perhaps no stranger. She has long been engaged in the research of criminal psychology and adolescent psychological problems.
In her book, she wrote that a healthy life requires health preservation and more spiritual cultivation. People need psychological support since childhood. Before becoming a parent, you need to think about the following questions:
1. Do you have enough time to accompany your child to grow up? When preparing for pregnancy and raising children, we must be psychologically prepared. In the first year after a child is born, no matter how hard it is, you should take care of the child yourself. Don't let your child leave you while she is attached (12 years old).
2. Do you have enough patience to accompany your children? Attachment exists until the child 12 years old. Attachment is inversely proportional to age, and the younger the child, the more important it is. The psychological influence and control of parents on their children lies not in how much money parents earn, how much knowledge they have and how successful their careers are, but only in how much effort you have made for their early life and how much you have accompanied them during their attachment.
Do you know the basic stages of children's psychological development, what parents need to do at each stage, what to do first, what to do later, when is the basic psychological care, and so on. It's disappointing if you think that children will naturally grow up and be sensible after birth. Because as long as the psychological education is not in place, then TV and the Internet will educate him or her, and it will be too late to act when we find all kinds of "problems" in our children.