The seemingly simple word 10 may not be easy to do. The so-called seeing is not only the world that the eyes see the appearance, but also the knowledge that sees the essence through the phenomenon. Only when you really see it can you have that kind of understanding from * * *. There are too many things in it, knowledge, experience, wisdom and emotional ability ... When we are really seen and understood, we are always moved, and the truth, goodness and beauty are easily "exposed" at that moment without warning. Using modern network language to express them is "breaking defense". Everyone is seen and understood sometimes. The object may be our relatives, teachers, friends, or strangers, but everyone has the ability to see and understand, because people are often used to seeing people instead of human nature, seeing things instead of things, and seeing everything outside does not necessarily see the world.
If you are careful, you will find that people who can see and understand others often have higher ideological dimensions than the other party. Only by standing at the peak can we overlook the possibility of the overall situation, and being equal to each other can only turn a blind eye. The higher the ideological dimension, the more people can see and understand, the stronger the tolerance, and the easier it is to achieve. Therefore, entrepreneurship is nothing more than cultivating the level of life dimension.
Appreciation and encouragement are deeper expressions based on seeing and understanding. Because you have the ability to see and understand, you will feel the efforts and difficulties of others, so small things that have nothing to do with others may be a big leap in your eyes. Appreciation and encouragement must come from nature, from the beginning, without any intention.
This reminds me of a little thing that happened in the hospital yesterday. When Xiao Zhao's sister came to visit their mother in the next hospital bed, she broke the harmonious atmosphere between Xiao Zhao and her mother from the moment she entered the door. She may be very sensitive. When Xiao Zhao's sister expresses her concern, she can feel her sense of distance. During the chat, Xiao Zhao mentioned that she told her sister's son that he was rebellious in high school and didn't go to school well. It happened that her sister's performance at the moment made me think that the child's problem must be her sister's. So I went straight to the point and asked her sister if she paid attention to her tone and feelings when communicating with others. By the way, I asked Xiao Zhao how she felt. Xiao Zhao said euphemistically that she was used to her sister's way of communication. At that time, I began to talk stupidly about her sister's problems. Of course, her sister resisted at first. In addition, although Xiao Zhao euphemistically said that she was used to her sister's way of communication, what she wanted to express behind her was that she didn't like this way either, just because she couldn't change each other and had to adapt. So my sister also recognized the meaning of the words and immediately defended: You started moral kidnapping again. Words are full of grievances and dissatisfaction, and I almost want to cry.
Seeing this, I realized that there might be a story behind her behavior today, so we changed the subject and talked about Xiao Zhao's sister's mother died in childbirth when she was a child, her father remarried to her current wife, Xiao Zhao's mother, and Xiao Zhao's sister grew up with others, and her parents lacked love since childhood ... She didn't know how to love others, including herself. Hugs are very important to her. Look at her standing in front of me, all straight when she speaks. Inadvertently, you feel very polite. In fact, because of her hard body, she wrapped her heart in a thick armor. Seeing this, I really wanted to hug her, but it didn't come true in the end, because this aspect was also my own homework and I didn't break through myself. I just started to understand her in the chat, and slowly she began to be less resistant and began to add me to WeChat for help. Because that minute was too much trouble for me, I told her that psychological counseling was not open in our school, and asked her to contact the child's high school class teacher and let the psychological teacher intervene when dealing with this matter. * * * should be adjusted together, especially the part that she needed to see and cure when she was a child. Although this is more appropriate, she still has selfishness in her heart, that is, she is afraid that she will come to school to make trouble for herself. And this selfishness is often discovered by oneself.
Finally, I recommended Zhang Defen Space to her, and I also recommended some books on it. In fact, I found that I lacked some courage and great love. Helping others is also healing herself, and her problems are also her own problems, otherwise it is impossible to meet.
However, I also see that there is nothing I can do. Before I can solve it, please be kind to everything around you, practice speaking slowly, expressing slowly, or look at the world more attentively, just look and don't express your opinions. Recently, I have taken some actions in getting up early to exercise, and I am making progress, even a little. I believe I will do better and better. Inner peace is also one of my great advantages. The so-called inner strength is tempered by things. Thanks to those who have tempered me, they will definitely make me better!
See Monday again, today's reflection is about to start a beautiful week.
Yesterday, my father's operation went well. I hope he can recover as soon as possible in the next week. May my father live a long and healthy life! I also hope that my mother can take good care of herself in her hometown. The day before yesterday, I prayed that everything was the best arrangement, and God would definitely give the best way to deal with it. In any case, this is the most suitable arrangement. My father stayed up all night before the operation, and told him the day before the operation that the operation would be smooth and smooth. I find that sometimes he listens to me like a child, so he has a good rest. The operation took a long time yesterday, but I didn't worry too much in the middle. I'm sure he will survive, as it turns out. Everything is normal after CT examination. I also believe that this lesson in life will inspire him a lot, such as how to cherish his body, start learning health care and get to know his family again. I really hope that he and his mother can live in harmony in the future, so that both of them can live a long life.
Before I was less than 20 years old, my mother complained a lot about my father, because at that time my father's company was few and I was never praised by my father when I was a child. At that time, I was very resistant to my father, including I didn't want to communicate with him for many years, and it was not easy for me to know something about him directly as a mother. However, the communication between father and daughter is still relatively small, and I resist every time I speak. Now I am slowly adjusting, and I feel embarrassed to talk to my father.
Because I saw it, and I got it.
Some people say that lucky people use their childhood to cure their whole lives, while unfortunate people use their whole lives to cure their childhood.
It doesn't have to be like this. Not everyone will be lucky to have a happy childhood, but an unhappy childhood is the path and channel for us to be happy. There is no road in life in vain, and every step counts.