But the question is what books to read?
Two books, EQ 12 and Communication and Persuasion 12, are highly recommended. I suggest that you can read these two books completely and word for word, which will certainly be of great help to your social skills. Note that these two books are only available in official website 12Reads. To avoid advertising, please choose your own title.
Moreover, I personally suggest that the reading order of these two books is 1, EQ required reading 12, communication and persuasion required reading 12. To improve your social skills, you must start from the root. Obviously, both books have successfully grasped the social foundation.
Are there any other books of this kind? Of course, but first of all, I don't think it's worth recommending. Second, reading these two books is enough, there is no need to waste too much time! Of course, if you have a lot of money and energy to waste, forget it.
Other letters of recommendation can be directly ignored by the landlord, believe my experience! Some people even recommend books on hotel management. I can only say hehe!
Here are some words that you can read or not. This is a little trick!
First, several ways to submit social skills:
1. Take part in more social activities. You can start from the field you are most interested in or good at, and gradually expand outward.
2. When attending activities, open yourself up and take the initiative to meet strangers. You can start with the same-sex friend sitting next to you.
3. After a preliminary understanding, take the initiative to exchange contact information with friends who have a good impression on each other and keep further contact.
4. Introduce new friends you know to old friends who may be interested (with the consent of old friends in advance), expand your circle of friends by snowballing, and gradually make yourself a "bridge link" in this circle.
5. Try to expand your knowledge, improve your self-cultivation and cultivate your special skills. In the face of new and old friends, I can always raise some hot topics, so that others can feel that being friends with you can enrich themselves, and let others always want to put you on the invitation list when calling small parties.
I have worked for several years and got a lot of guidance from my predecessors. I think it is really effective to share some tips that seniors often use! ! Of course, I've tried many times ~
There are two kinds of social interaction, virtual social interaction (network) and real social interaction (reality). In the network society, everything is important. SNS, Weibo, Zhihu and other virtual social activities can build personal brands and win the trust of others. It is also easy for a virtual relationship to develop into a real relationship, and there is no strangeness in reality, provided that you are the same online and offline. Really socialize, be yourself first, and don't be too utilitarian in communication. Expand from the small circle around you (colleagues and classmates) to strangers and turn strangers into friends.
Listening, proper words and deeds, attention to appearance and sincere concern for others can all give you extra points.
1. Have a cup of coffee before social activities. Caffeine and related dopamine will make you look happy and gregarious.
2. Before being with friends, lift weights or exercise for an hour. Endorphins and related dopamine will make you look happy and gregarious.
3. Wait a minute before entering the door. As long as you rest for a minute, your hormones will change and you will look happy and relaxed.
When you are talking in a group of people, try to look at everyone at least once.
5. Communicate with nervous people more, make them feel comfortable and leave a positive influence on them.
6. If your palms are sweaty, put two handkerchiefs/tissues in your pocket and wipe them clean before shaking hands.
7. No matter how you interact, leave with a positive attitude. Smiling and positive gratitude are very effective.
8. Remember the names of the people you meet. Remember some special things about this person: such as where he studied, his hometown, graduation subjects, any special interests. This shows that you are trying to get to know him.
9. If someone's behavior is different from what you expected, don't break out immediately. Time out. Once your mood has stabilized, use your brain to think about how to act.
10, if an old man talks about his generation and their affairs, don't be angry. They didn't compare their generation with ours. He may be missing his youth.