Write a letter to my son who is about to go to college.
Bina:
When I write this letter to you, my face is full of shame and sadness.
Time flies, 18 spring, summer, autumn and winter is a flick of a finger. You have changed from a baby to a tall, handsome and elegant handsome man. But a face of childishness and innocence presents people with a pure heart. I want to thank God for giving you to us and giving us good memories of growing up with you. Although there is pain along the way, it is more happiness!
As the saying goes, it takes ten years to plant trees and a hundred years to cultivate people. When I set the time to go to Huangdao's home in the summer of 2005, everything seemed to happen yesterday. What I am proud of in the past six years, but after reflection, it torments my mind like a poisonous snake. What needs to be reviewed most is that my nanny-style transitional care and short-sighted efforts over the years have buried your ability to explore society, contact society and communicate with people. So that they often encounter difficulties at critical moments, unable to fight in the face of adversity, and weak will when encountering difficulties.
I remember that your aunt saw my transitional care for you long ago and reminded me many times to let you go and fight for it yourself. I always prevaricate because I can't afford to lose, which leads to today's bitter fruit.
It is not wealth that makes people grow. Only when they are defeated can they succeed. If the failure of the college entrance examination can make us all realize our mistakes, it is the best reward from God. If we don't let go, it will delay your life.
In September, you will begin your real dream pursuit. You will face a brand-new environment alone, without flowers and applause. Mountains, rivers and quagmires are one after another, and challenges are one after another. Are you ready?
In any university, there are successful people, most of whom are mediocre people. The key is who do you want to be? And what actions will be taken to achieve this goal? Have you ever asked yourself your goal in life? What needs to be done to realize it? What abilities and skills do you need to master in your future life?
In fact, I know that my self-cultivation is not very high, and I can't be considered successful, but I want to give you some suggestions based on my own experience, hoping that you can sum up more useful experiences on your own life path and leave them to future generations.
1. The university stage is the key period to lay the foundation for your future career. High school only laid a basic platform for this stage, such as the background color of painting, and the framework of the house was completed in the university stage. The most important thing in this period is to build the framework of your professional knowledge structure and lay a good foundation. I suggest you check your major's curriculum, training plan and teaching arrangement of each semester before you report to school, and contact teachers and seniors as soon as possible after you arrive at school, so that you can enter the role in a short time, make your own monthly, quarterly and semester plans and strictly implement them.
At the same time, we should live independently and master the basic viability during college. Take care of your own food, clothing, housing and transportation independently, arrange your own living expenses reasonably, and prepare yourself for college. We won't send you to school, but we will take care of everything ourselves. In this way, you can adapt to the foreign environment when you go abroad in the future, otherwise a lot of hardships are waiting for you.
3. If you study abroad as an undergraduate, you will face many challenges, such as adapting to the environment, language problems, the test of viability, and the leap in mastering English professional knowledge. You may even be at a loss in mastering the knowledge of your mother tongue, let alone using English. Therefore, it is very important to study in universities in China, learn professional courses well, and attach importance to and learn the ability to absorb all aspects of knowledge in English. English in senior high school is good, and exams alone are not enough. If you want to go abroad for a master's degree, you must be able to look up information, write articles, find tutors and get in touch with work in English. This is not the ability you have after passing the IELTS 8, but the key to determine whether you can adapt to the foreign environment and successfully complete your studies. It is recommended to read more professional English books and videos, warm up in advance and prepare your own application materials for studying abroad. The score of each course is also the key to the application. You are not a prestigious school to go to Huda, so it will be more difficult to apply, so you must remember that the students from Tsinghua and Tongji who are competing with you must not relax.
4. After you volunteer, make a general plan of your trip and the purpose of visiting relatives in Canada, and write a summary or report when you go back, and give a report to your grandparents, which is also a satisfactory explanation for the 30 thousand yuan they funded you. From now on, if you want to apply for any funding, you must write an application report and summary, which will have clear goals, strong execution, obvious effects and high efficiency.
Let's call it a day. I wish you better, stronger, farther and higher wrestling.
mother
June 27(th), 2008
Letter from my son who is about to go to college.
Dear son: Congratulations on your dream coming true and being admitted to an ideal university. You are about to start a colorful college life. My mother has been thinking about writing a letter to you these days, hoping to help you define college education more accurately and think about your development direction better.
? College students should stand up and look around. ? Mother gave you this sentence from Whitehead, a famous British educator. College time is the best stage of life. Besides studying, you should also establish a correct world outlook, values and outlook on life. With a correct world outlook, we can not deviate from the direction and go further in life. We should also pay attention to the soft power needed to cultivate talents in the 2 1 century, including emotional management, self-guidance, information literacy, communication skills, team spirit, critical thinking, adaptability, anti-frustration, creativity, imagination, leadership and adventurous spirit. Mom wants you to often think about how to apply the knowledge and skills you have learned to real life and find that grip.
Perseverance is an important sign of success.
Asian psychologist Angela? Dakovos studied gravel for a long time and pointed out? Perseverance is the quality of persisting in one's enthusiasm for a long-term goal and making unremitting efforts even after failure? . Her research conclusion shows that perseverance is the most reliable indicator of success compared with intelligence, academic performance or face value. Son, you know all this. Mom still wants to bring it up, hoping to be your life guide.
Wang Guowei, a scholar in the Qing Dynasty, put forward in his book "Thorns on Earth"? Three realms? Discussion: Great undertakings and university questioners in ancient and modern times must go through three realms. ? Last night, the west wind withered the green trees, climbed the tall building alone and looked at the horizon? This is the first scene; ? I don't regret that my belt is getting wider and thinner for Iraq. This is the second condition; And finally? Looking for him in the crowd, suddenly looking back, that person is in the dim light? . What Mr. Wang wants to express is that most successful people will go through three processes: setting goals and putting them into action, meeting difficulties and challenges but not giving up, and finally achieving their goals with strong perseverance. Successful people have courage and perseverance, so they create the myth of outliers. Mom wants you to motivate yourself to keep moving forward and move towards your own life realm. Write letters to people in need. I have it here, okay? College entrance examination sprint cheats? Help you find out the rules of college entrance examination, answering skills and exam-taking skills, and get them at the end of the article for free. Some things are fleeting. I hope you can grasp them well and delay for a few minutes, which is likely to give you a bright future.
Life is only once for everyone, so cherish it again. Cherishing life is the first step to filial piety. If you live 100 years old, if you take 100 years as the life limit, you have already walked nearly one fifth. We have studied and discussed the six stages of life revealed by the Book of Changes: don't hide the dragon, see the dragon in the field, work all day, or jump into Yu Yuan and fly into the sky, and be brave and regret. The popular understanding is: Qianxiu? Germination? Study hard, practice hard, seize the opportunity and realize the ideal? Retire after success. Mom wants you to keep the core content of the Book of Changes in mind and practice it, adapt to and seize the opportunity, do your job, develop in an all-round way, and live up to your talents and your times.
Know how to choose and entrust
Mom has said many times that you should master the skills of settling down. Professional study is the lever that you stand in the world and pry up the earth. Immersive learning methods and deep-rooted learning attitudes are necessary. There are many temptations in the colorful world, so you should always keep a clear head, keep your energy, Do not forget your initiative mind, and forge ahead towards your ideal. Mother often borrows the poems of the poet Wang Guozhen? Since the goal is the horizon, what can be left to the world is only the back? To encourage yourself. Let's take this as a compliment.
Professor Gardner's theory of multiple intelligences tells us that Excellence is not a unified standard, but a highly personalized evaluation standard. Based on this, American educational circles have put forward many successful methods to encourage students to maximize their potential. Son, you can't compare with your classmates. You can't compete with anyone. Don't compare with others, but it doesn't mean don't compare with yourself. Comparison is to compare your own today with yesterday to see if today is more rewarding than yesterday; Comparison is to compare the new self with the old self and check whether the new self is cuter than the old one. Please remember: you are the only one. Be yourself and be the best you can be.
As the saying goes, failure is the mother of success. Failure is a compulsory course in life, and the reason is as simple as day and night. The night reminds people that it's time to rest. The night restores people's physical strength and makes them glow with blood for a new day. Night is definitely not the same as darkness. Many times, the so-called failure today may not be worth mentioning in the future. Mom hopes that even in adversity, you can smile and hope, actively find effective ways to get rid of your troubles, and be a young man full of positive energy. At the same time, we should try our best to do what we can control. As long as you do your duty, even if the result is unexpected, there is no need to feel guilty. Smart people know how to choose and entrust.
Build a bridge from campus to life
China sages are here? Lide, meritorious service, and statement? For the purpose of life. Lide is a person who wants to combine personal accomplishment with social responsibility. Meritorious service refers to making contributions in your field, which is equivalent to making changes as you often say. Arguments are in the third place, not in random order. A statement must have a foundation of virtue and meritorious service, otherwise it is also an empty statement. However, making a statement is a record and feeling of virtue and merit, and it is a cumulative process. So my mother suggested that you record what you saw and heard in college, anecdotes and observations. After all, human memory is limited. Even if you have amazing memory, it is difficult to capture vivid scenes and subtle feelings afterwards. These materials will be a valuable asset for you and your descendants in the future.
Mom often reminds you to strengthen your exercise. Health is the capital of everything. Without a strong body, no matter how many skills there are, they are all unqualified products, and their ideals will eventually fail. Stick to regular fitness, and don't use busy study and activities as an excuse. Speaking of being busy, who can be as busy as the president of the United States? Obama can still keep fit 1.5 hours a day. Mom wants you to put sports and exercise at the height of maintaining people's most basic survival, as much as diet and sleep.
Mom also wants you to meet your sweetheart in college. When the time is ripe, talk about a mutually inspiring love, and leave your own youthful memories in the beautiful and charming university campus. A person's shortcomings and advantages may be three points shortcomings and seven points advantages. Find the right partner, the shortcomings will become smaller and the advantages will become bigger. Meeting the right person at the right time is a great blessing in life.
Whitehead once pointed out that universities exist in order to integrate young people and teachers and make imaginative explorations in academics, thus bridging the gap between knowledge and passion for life. Mom wants you to build a solid bridge from campus to life. A few years later, you can proudly tell your children and grandchildren that you are worthy of your college time.
Children go to Wan Li Road, but mothers worry. Son, mother hopes that you can always report your parents' safety. If the homework is too busy, send a smiley face expression package through WeChat.
Finally, I wish my son all the best and all his wishes come true! Mom loves you forever.
A letter from a child about to go to college.
My son:
Soon you will leave your hometown and embark on a new life journey. This is a new starting point and will have a far-reaching impact on your future. Your ideals and ambitions will set sail from here. Dad sincerely wishes you to become a pillar of the country in the future and realize the great ideal of serving the country and serving the people.
In today's letter, I mainly talk to you about metaphysical issues. According to your own road and social experience, I will try my best to help you avoid detours and forks in the road. You can study it selectively, I hope it will help you.
About patriotism
If a person doesn't love his motherland, then he can't talk about any pattern.
As long as you can remember, dad has instilled patriotism education in you. Dad insisted that it was right, and in fact it was right. Do you remember your conversation with your father about the China chip in the car? Dad is very happy. Every man is responsible for the rise and fall of the country. Do your best!
Science has no national boundaries, but scientists have national boundaries.
About height
How far a person can go, under the same conditions, the height you stand is decisive.
This is a pluralistic society, where light and darkness always coexist, and any existence is reasonable. Learn to look at problems from different angles and you will get different answers. Cultivate diversified thinking in learning, and establish a sense of overall situation that individuals obey the collective and parts obey the overall situation. To be a team player, you must learn to play the piano with ten fingers, which is the basic condition for success.
Set aside some time every day to pay attention to international and domestic news and subscribe to several authoritative media. Never ignore theory, it is a signpost to guide your direction.
Only by working hard and looking up at the road can we find the direction and go further.
About responsibility
What is responsibility? When a person really becomes a member of society, responsibility often only gives you pain in soul and body, but we must bear this pain, because it finally brings you priceless and great personality.
First, the responsibility to society: sweeping the snow in front of your house is your most basic responsibility. On this basis, study hard and promote social progress as much as possible. This is your social responsibility.
Second, the responsibility to the family: to be a son, a husband and a father, with different roles, we must bear different responsibilities until we become one. This is the unshirkable responsibility of every citizen and an indispensable driving force for social development. Always remember, you are a man!
A person's strength is not a strong body, but a strong mind, a spirit of courage to take responsibility and carry forward.
About rules
Too many people don't follow the rules, but that doesn't prevent you from following the rules yourself.
Running red lights, jumping in line, taking advantage of loopholes and so on are everywhere, but the state is formulating and perfecting various laws to force people to obey the rules. If you don't follow the rules, you will be bitten by the rules sooner or later.
Students have the rules of their school days, and you have followed them, and the reality has also given you rich returns.
Society has social rules. If you follow them, you will always lead the times.
About setbacks
Your 18 years have been very smooth, and you have not experienced any setbacks except learning a lot. Dad can't imagine what you would do if you suddenly encountered great setbacks.
My son, a person's life cannot be perfect, and even most people have more setbacks than achievements. The darkness of this society and the viciousness of human nature are beyond your imagination now. Without parents, no one can help you solve your setbacks. You have to face them yourself. Difficulties are not terrible, as long as you are willing, you can always find the key to them. If you don't know anything, please remember that dad is always by your side and his phone is open for you 24 hours a day.