Most people think that when children sleep in separate rooms with their parents depends on their age. In infancy, lactating mothers should breast-feed their children in the middle of the night, let them sleep next to them, or put a crib next to their big bed, which is convenient for taking care of them and, more importantly, let them sleep more. However, if the child cries at night and it is difficult to sleep, it will also hinder the mother from resting.
Many parents realize that letting their children sleep with themselves will make them feel safe psychologically. However, when sleeping with children under two years old, parents must pay attention to the safety of their babies. Parents who sleep too hard may press their children, as well as pillows, quilts and so on. May cause suffocation in children. In addition, children sleep with their parents at every stage, which may affect their sexual life. Even the growing estrangement between many couples stems from the initial occupation of their private space by children.
Moreover, almost all experts have reached the understanding that it is the responsibility of parents to let children learn to sleep alone at a certain time, which is also conducive to the healthy growth of children's body and mind.
So, once the child can sleep all night, let him sleep in his own room. Even if he doesn't have his own room because of the limited area, he can add a screen between you and your child to make a partition. According to the expert's advice, give the baby a buffer period and let him get used to sleeping alone step by step. For example, let the child sleep alone during the daytime nap, and then let him get used to sleeping alone at night. Then, establish a set of habitual activities for children before going to bed at night, such as telling a story and giving them a hug.
In addition, there are some specific tips:
1. Buy a small cotton animal for your child, or give him a little pillow that he likes, and let the child hug himself and sleep peacefully. Soon, you will find that even if you are not around your child, he can sleep quietly;
If the baby is asleep alone, but crying at night, you should hurry to his side. When you rule out that he is crying because of illness, you don't need to pick him up and comfort him, just lean down and pat him gently. Because children must face emotional frustration when learning all new skills, including sleeping alone, otherwise the process of trying to sleep alone will give up halfway;
For children over 6 years old, let them feel that even at night, as long as he needs it, his parents will go to his room at once. Sometimes, children will be awakened by nightmares and can't go back to sleep because of fear. It is better for one of the parents to go to the child's room to accompany the child instead of taking the child to the parents' bed, so as not to form bad habits.
4. purposefully bring the child to the home of a child who can sleep independently and introduce him to a learning role model. Parents can ask someone else's children who they sleep with in front of their children and make a surprised look and say, "You are really good! Sleeping alone in a room is very brave and independent. " Then show the children around the small room and small bed and praise the soft bed and beautiful room. At this time, the child will have a desire to own a crib of his own because of envy, hoping to show that he has grown up in front of the child. In this way, children can calmly accept the advice of adults;
If the child sleeps alone on the first successful night, parents can give him a little reward as encouragement;
6. If the child touches his parents' bed again at night, don't blame the child, and don't shout out in surprise. Take the child back to his room calmly, tuck him in, stay with him for a while, and tell him that his parents are also in this house, and he is safe;
In addition, experts especially remind parents not to lock their children in their rooms as punishment when they make mistakes during the day, otherwise, children will easily hate being alone in their rooms.
A baby afraid of the dark
There is another situation: when the baby is young, he always sleeps in a room by himself. When he was one or two years old, he refused to sleep alone and had to sleep with his parents. Why is this? It turns out that with the growth of children's age, all aspects of cognition begin to change, and a person will feel lonely and afraid of the dark when he is alone. Dealing with this problem is simple. In fact, the reason why the baby is afraid of the dark is the lack of security. If parents can give their babies confidence and enhance their sense of security in their daily lives, they will have less and less fear of the dark. The most important thing is to let the baby feel that his parents are around and will love them and help them at any time. In addition, an adjustable light can be installed in the baby's room to give the room a slight light and turn it on for a while before the child goes to bed.