In interpersonal communication, you should learn to evaluate your own quality after contact. Many people just nod to you, drink tea, play cards, sing and drink, and then say something to each other that is not above your head. You think you have gained happiness, but in fact you just spent another day in a daze.
There should be many people who think that the more people you know, the better. One more friend leads to another road. But the communication between people needs you to come and go, and it takes a long time to form a strong friendship. At this time, you can call it a friend. In fact, you and many friends you think are just having a few meals and drinks. I believe such friends are quoted.
There was a game before the circle of friends: If I am homeless, who will take me in? Do you think these fair-weather friends will accept you without hesitation? Your relationship with them will always be above interests.
The communication between people is often based on value. The higher your value, of course, the more "friends" around you. If one of your values disappears, for example, if your company goes bankrupt and your job is lost, will these "friends" still revolve around you? Then why do you spend so much time with these people?
True friends are made by heart, and of course, they add time, because people meet for a long time.
You spend a lot of time in various WeChat groups every day, reading chat records. You go to a party and finally find that the carnival is the loneliness of a group of people. After the party, it is empty, lonely and cold. You want to please someone endlessly, and others only look at you when you give a "gift" and gold coins.
It is better not to participate in these low-quality social activities.
When I was a child, I always envied those who shuttled through the lights. Later, I wandered around the banquet room and found that I met many people every day, all of whom were strange faces. We call each other brothers, and after a few drinks, we learn to be intimate. And when I woke up the next day, I didn't even have the contact information of that person, and I couldn't even remember what he looked like.
The second time I saw this man, we stayed with each other for a few seconds, feeling as if we had met somewhere, so we shouted, brother, are you that what? Then continue to drink, then get drunk and continue to think about who is who the next day.
Maybe you left some contact information. Have you dialed it once? When you are really in trouble and need to borrow money and help, will you think of these people first?
It is better to be alone than to run around every day and socialize with low quality.
Feed horses, chop wood and travel around the world.
Facing the sea, spring blossoms.
Of course, in the city, we don't have so many poems and distant feelings, but you can be in a daze, read books and listen to music.
You can exercise, watch movies and ride a bike.
How to be alone with high quality varies from person to person. The most important thing is to see what you want to do, do what you like best, and love the people you love most.
You have to believe that a truly successful person must have learned to be alone. First of all, you have to keep your heart calm before you can think calmly. You always say that everything around you is too impetuous, so try to stay away from those bad people or places.
One day you will understand that you will want to chat with better people. They won't take you to the bar, but maybe they will just walk with you by the river. You can learn from them, which is of high quality.
Socialization is not only about meeting many people, but also full of selectivity. I read an article before, saying why excellent people won't help you, because these people who are better than you understand a truth. To associate with you is low quality for them. Excellent people will perfunctory you, and heartless people will close the door to you.
Low-quality socialization is not as good as high-quality solitude. If you like this article, or find it practical or interesting, please share it with more people!