Everyone who knows me knows that I have a particularly big shortcoming, which is complaining. In fact, I also dislike this shortcoming of mine. For example, I can enlarge it several times, and even affect my life, and I can't extricate myself from the pain every day. This is who I used to be and who I am now. But I am still trying to change and develop in a good way, because I also want to be a person full of positive energy, not a person who is rejected.
Every time I talk about my university, my heart seems to be filled with lead and I can't breathe. For me, the failure of life is the last minute of volunteering for the college entrance examination. I was a rookie when I volunteered for the college entrance examination. I didn't have a favorite major, but I especially wanted to go to the Northeast. As a girl from Inner Mongolia, I always feel that I am suitable to stay in the north, because the people in the northeast are almost as generous as those in Inner Mongolia, because I always feel that I am a girl from the northeast who was born in Inner Mongolia. Ha ha. I am timid. On the map board of China, I avoided the cities in the earthquake zone, tropical and subtropical land, coastal cities and the restlessness in the northwest, but I didn't expect that a short trip left a long regret. When I came to a small city where the Seventh and Eighth Lines were not satisfactory, the school was even more pitiful. The 200-meter mud playground, the campus that can be visited in less than five minutes, every time I look at a middle school that is better than our university, my heart is full of loss.
When I was a freshman, I should be moderately depressed at that time. I sigh endlessly every day. What I say most on the phone with my friends and family every day is my complaint, either that my school is poor here, there or how bad this city is. As a result, my dear mother hesitated for a long time every time she answered the phone. She is afraid to hear my dissatisfaction and complaints. It is said that my children report good news instead of bad news, and I am a big fool. Every day, I tell them how unhappy I am and make them worry about me. I did the stupidest thing. I told my mother that I wanted to jump off a building. I don't know what I was thinking. How could I say that to my family? Life is not as bad as I thought, but I can't escape in that strange circle. I blame the poor hardware facilities of this school, the complicated homework assigned by the teachers of this school, the backwardness and underdevelopment of this city, why I applied here at the beginning, and even my parents refused to let me apply for private universities in Jilin and choose this major in public normal schools. In fact, the most to blame is yourself. Who let you fail to get an ideal score in the college entrance examination? Hey, talking too much is all tears.
Fortunately, I have family and friends who love me. They took pains to enlighten me, be my psychological doctor, and solve problems for me. It's really much better to dump your emotional garbage. It's also a lot easier. Later, I fell in love with chicken soup for the soul, fell in love with blogs, listened to their voices and stories, and felt that there were many people like me in this world, and I was not alone.
I'll tell you another example that is completely opposite to mine. It's a boy who is one year younger than me, our fellow villager in Inner Mongolia, and he also came to this city that I feel bad about. However, people's lives are really colorful. When I first came to my freshman year, I found a part-time tutor and joined the school club. Almost all my living expenses were earned by myself. I also use part of it as my travel expenses to fly to Guangzhou during the summer vacation. After that, I also participated in the marathon in the provincial capital city, and I love fitness and am positive. Why do we think so differently when we come here? Because I am too pessimistic, I magnify a little unhappy things to infinity, which makes me neurotic. ...
I really started to change my mind when I was a sophomore. After a year of decadence and complaining, I found that doing so not only didn't help, but increased my troubles. I am not happy myself, and others will be infected by me. Instead of being immersed in pain every day, why not live comfortably? I thought about it for a long time. I decided to start over, live with a sunny heart and change.
I began to become sunny, and everyone was surprised at my change when they saw me. They said, you are getting better and better. I didn't expect you to be such a cheerful person. Why were you so gloomy and worked so hard before? I said, because I was stupid before.
Having written so much, what I want to say most is that the only person who can get you out of the cycle of complaining is yourself. After listening to so many friends and relatives, I was still depressed for a long time. Then I got through it and everything felt better. The only thing that can save you is yourself.
Dear friends, if you are still complaining about your dissatisfaction, your imperfection and your lack of progress. Please calm down and think about it. Are you really the worst? Are you really inferior to others everywhere? Those who live better than you, you think their lives are happy and beautiful, in fact, they will also have troubles, unhappy times, dissatisfaction and complaints, but they can adjust their mentality, and they will not let emotions become the dominant factor in life, because they know that they are the dominant factor. Become a slave to emotions, and you will always be miserable and embark on the road of depression. And those who live worse than you, others live happily, and are happy every day because of a little satisfaction. In fact, this is the greatest happiness. I am happy to eat a hot meal, watch the sunset glow that is half sky red, and listen to the crisp and melodious birds singing in the morning. You see, these are trivial things, but in the eyes of different people, the meaning of its existence lies in your inner definition of it.
Dear, life is not as bad and miserable as you think. Maybe now you are still immersed in resentment and complaints. Please kneel down, hug yourself and tell yourself that you can still see the sun tomorrow. Why should today be a dark day? You know, what you have today is a rare tomorrow for others and yourself.
Complaining will not be your motivation. Instead, it will become a stumbling block and make you sad. Let go of complaining, live with your heart, and discover beauty with love. Don't aim too high. If you are in a hurry, it will become a burden to you. If you simplify your tasks and goals and are surrounded by a little satisfaction, you are the happiest.