Why do married women cheat?
1, Women's Prince Charming Complex In fact, almost every woman has a Prince Charming complex in her heart, hoping to stage a romantic scene in real life one day. Therefore, when this person appears, and after the woman gets married, she may think that this is her own destiny, and no one can stop it, and she can desperately pursue what she wants.
2. Excessive housework and psychological imbalance. In that era when women were in charge and men were away, men could be shopkeepers after returning home. However, now that the world has changed, women are beginning to squeeze into the workplace to make money. Because of this, why do men continue to be shopkeepers of cutting? When women come home from work, they have to do all the housework, help their children with their homework, and men play computer and drink a little wine. So, when men's various pleasures and women's overwork have settled for a long time, how can women get a willingness? In the face of women's complaints, men who are used to being shopkeepers not only don't realize their laziness, but also blame their wives for finding fault. You know, even a virtuous woman will have a temper. Don't push a woman too hard, or she will seek comfort from someone who is having an affair.
3. The husband neglected his concern for his wife. Men like to get together and women like to stay at home. This is a kind of nature. However, men can't give full play to this nature, because companionship is the longest confession. Usually, women will not turn against each other because of men's entertainment, but because men are unrestrained and playful, they will cause women's dissatisfaction. Therefore, men must pay attention to women's complaints. You know, what a woman complains about is that she is really lonely. As a husband, if he can't get rid of his wife's loneliness in time, there will be countless cold wars, and behind the cold war, women will definitely get rid of loneliness with the help of external forces. When women cheat because of this, should men blame their own indiscretion or their wives' unfaithfulness?
4, out of revenge for her husband's derailment, revenge for an affair or derailment is a normal situation for women, and women will regard this as a way to regain self-esteem. It's simple. She wants to be fair. Of course, she may not gossip outside, but what you do will disappoint her and reduce her control. Many times, a woman's sense of fairness will overwhelm her inherent value system.
5, the long-term contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law leads to disappointment with her husband. The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has existed since ancient times. One is a man's mother and the other is a man's wife. The two women will compete for favor and infighting. The root of the mistake is that these two women confuse affection and love. To this end, resentment towards each other will be manifested in trivial matters of life. If a man is partial to his daughter-in-law, my mother will say, "I married my daughter-in-law and forgot my mother"; If a man is partial to my mother, my daughter-in-law will say, "The whole family treats me like an outsider." In fact, the most important thing in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the attitude of men. If a man does not have the ability to make two women happy at the same time, then from the beginning of marriage, he will take the attitude of helping his parents, which is very simple, and the complaints between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be relatively reduced. When there is a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, what I am most afraid of is the man's "swing". One moment I help my mother scold her wife, and the other moment I help her scold her. It may be only a matter of time before a woman encounters a' swinging man' cheating.
6. Colleagues compare with each other and grow up in unhealthy material desires. What do female colleagues talk about most in their spare time? It is nothing more than how their husbands are, how their wages are, and how their children study. However, this kind of chat topic is most likely to breed women's comparison psychology, especially women who think that their conditions are not bad will be more dissatisfied. Why should I marry such a good husband without that person? When I get home, the more I look at my husband, the more dissatisfied I am. When this material desire to compare with others reaches a certain level, it is easy for women to choose to cheat and go out to find a richer man.
7, the husband is too useless, and then disappointed. After all, women are women, and the demand in the emotional field will always exceed that of men. However, in real life, there are always some men who don't make progress at work, and even blame others for making their careers stagnate. This kind of man is usually difficult to be independent after something happens, and even pushes his wife to the front when something happens. Therefore, a cheerful and open-minded woman has gradually become more open-minded and shows the woman's side. These women are strong in appearance, but weak in heart. Especially in the face of some overloaded promises, they also need a generous shoulder to rely on, but that person is definitely not their little husband. In this case, can they not cheat?
8. The husband can't satisfy her sexual needs. Couples are prone to problems if they can't meet each other's sexual needs. Especially women in their 30 s and 40 s have the strongest sexual ability and desire, and middle-aged husbands face the situation of declining sexual ability. Some people even refuse to treat erectile dysfunction. This will lead to discord between the two, and in serious cases, women may take the initiative to ask for a divorce. On the other hand, some middle-aged women in this age group may go to the other extreme of serious degradation of xy due to factors such as child-rearing and health degradation. If her husband's xy is still strong, it will be an excuse for him to cheat.
Factors of women's infidelity after marriage
1, a married woman will cheat, because she thinks that marriage lacks seasoning and is dull, but she doesn't understand that dullness is the true meaning of marriage happiness. Falling in love is not the same as getting married. When you are in love, you will be very happy, feel fresh and passionate. However, marriage is different. Marriage is that two people live together and need to operate. So it is inevitable that some spices are missing, which is called freshness and passion. But it is precisely because of dullness that marriage will be happy. The marriage I gave my wife was more warm and loving than too passionate and romantic. I know that my wife's cheating partner is a fitness instructor, which can give her some passion and freshness that marriage does not have, but I think she has forgotten that marriage is the source of happiness for women in this life.
2. Married women cheat because of her vanity. The word vanity has both derogatory and positive meanings. Why do you say that? Because everyone has a little vanity. Some people strive to create their own happiness because of vanity, while others go astray because of vanity. Although my wife gave birth to a child, she is still in great shape, which is what everyone calls a spice girl. Sometimes my wife is a little naked, and other men often come to sweep her. Naturally don't want to. So when I dressed to accompany her to the mall, I said that the exposed clothes were not beautiful. But since she cheated, the clothes she wore have become more and more exposed. I know the fitness instructor likes it, but it's not his wife. He doesn't care about being seen. But in his wife's heart, he greatly satisfied his vanity.
A married woman will cheat because she thinks her lover is more considerate than her husband. Every man doesn't necessarily think the same about the other half. Some men help to do housework to show their concern for women, and some men help to take care of children, but no matter what kind of consideration, it is always not enough for some women. My wife is a high-profile person. She once asked me to lift her in the street, but in public, it was too conspicuous, so I almost never satisfied her in this respect. So, after so many years of our marriage, she found this fitness instructor to satisfy her desire for care and consideration. After I learned that my wife was cheating, I used to think that I could love lowly and tolerate all her little temper in my marriage, just because this is my favorite woman. However, without self-esteem, I cannot love. I can't make my daughter hard. How can such a wife live in harmony and educate our lovely daughter? So, after I figured this out, I got divorced, and now I'm alone with my daughter. "
Three reasons why women are easy to cheat after marriage
First, the improvement of women's social status and a high degree of ideological emancipation.
Since women hold up half the sky, women's social status has gradually improved, and they are no longer vassals in the family, and gradually begin to occupy a dominant position. Many women also play an important role in more jobs. This is indeed a very good phenomenon. Women's liberation is also the inevitable trend of human and social civilization and progress. Coupled with the influence of western culture in recent years, women began to break free from the shackles of feudal thought, advocate freedom and equality, and began to have their own pursuits and ideals. In fact, there is no problem in developing here. But everything has advantages and disadvantages. The disadvantage is that when women have higher status and resources, they have more courage and confidence to cheat than before. After having the power and wealth of a king, Wu Zetian also found four Toy Boy, which is why high-income women are more likely to cheat than low-income women. In fact, I think this is also the result of social development. Development and progress are good things, but physical infidelity and ideological betrayal are not necessarily good things.
Second, the lack of love in marriage and family leads to women's derailment.
In the relationship between husband and wife, especially after a long marriage, aesthetic fatigue will inevitably occur, and the freshness of love will gradually disappear. The original passion has become the present daily necessities. At this time, if a man doesn't want to run his own marriage and family, he just wants to be busy with work or drinking and entertainment all day, then at this time, under the state of extreme aesthetic fatigue and emptiness and loneliness, the idea of cheating will definitely become more and more serious, which will eventually lead to cheating. Another situation is that husbands often cheat, which leads to women's insecurity and extreme disappointment with marriage. In the absence of security, most women will find their own spiritual comfort to balance this insecurity. At this time, women are most likely to cheat. In short, the lack of love in marriage and family life is another major reason why women cheat. If men can give women more care and cherish in their marriage, then this kind of cheating behavior can be reduced.
Third: with the gradual growth of age, the idea of cheating is becoming more and more common.
Women are most likely to cheat between the ages of 35 and 45. At this stage, women have begun to have the form of husband and wife life for family life. In addition, women at this stage have their own mature social outlook and outlook on life. Seeing or hearing about cheating is no longer as taboo as it was when they were young. At the same time, women at this stage are also in a period of burnout for marriage, so women at this time are also the most mature and easy to cheat, and their views on cheating are more open than those of men. However, women at this stage rarely have ideological betrayal, because women at this stage are mature and know what they want, so they still put family of origin first in their hearts.
What kind of man is most easily cheated by women?
1, a nagging man
What women fear most is that men nag, because once men nag, they will rob women of their jobs. Because of this, women will find it more troublesome to live with such a man. Therefore, it is best for both men and women to do more and talk less, even if the husband and wife communicate more, and finally say some sweet words.
2. Men who rely on women to earn money to support their families
Since a woman chooses an ordinary man to marry, she will not divorce him for money after marriage, but needs to see the hope of life, that is to say, a man with enthusiasm, ideas and ambition can give her a sense of security. If a man doesn't work well, many of them can be a competent housewife, but some men are simply horse-haired men after marriage, which not only makes women bear the financial burden of the family, but also makes women. Such a man will soon kill all the love his wife gave him. When you become a burden to women, you are the same without you at home, and it is better without you. If so, it's hard for women not to cheat.
3. Men who have cheated on each other many times
In today's society, many women cheat not because they are lonely, but because their husbands cheat first and hurt their hearts. They can achieve psychological balance with revenge. At this time, they will easily seek comfort online. In the online world, a man who is better than her husband and still cares about her, at this time, it is often difficult for women to resist the temptation, so that they will let nature take its course and eventually hurt each other.