Emotional value has two meanings, one is to reduce the destructive power of negative emotions, and the other is to increase the influence of positive emotions. However, many girls are confused in practice, or constantly suppress their true thoughts and fall into serious mental internal friction. Or just to please each other, put yourself very low and end up with both money and people. These two extremes are called sex brains, and they are both wrong expressions that regard each other as more important than themselves.

The underlying logic of emotional value is also a weakness that conforms to human nature, just like an apple polisher in the workplace and a useless leader. But after the leader retires, when there is no interest involved, your attitude may be less respectful. Therefore, if you always look down on your other half and think that he is not worthy of you, then you should reflect on his value and your mentality.

You should choose your partner first, and then provide emotional value to avoid being in vain.

soft outside but firm inside―outwardly yielding but inwardly firm

The scarcity of emotional value is first reflected in the provider. Which would you choose, the gentleness of a poor man or the gentleness of Gao Fushuai? The former is arrogant and has no capital, and the latter bows for you. Everyone will want the latter, because it is too rare.

So, don't think about what men think, and try to improve yourself. When you have the confidence to leave at any time, your gentleness is precious. If you are worthless, your gentleness equals cowardice.

You should be independent at all times. When he is away, you will be very rich, with a career, savings, friends and hobbies. When he is around, you can surround him and give him a happy love experience.

Second, reduce negative emotions.

1. Don't lose your temper.

You can do some work, but don't always lose your temper and embarrass each other. Negative energy such as injustice, anger and unwillingness will only push each other further and further. So, don't go looking for trouble, dig a hole for yourself and make the other person tired. Only by controlling your temper can you control your man. Love and not love make a mickle. If you save more love, he will listen to you and be kind to you on his own initiative.

2. Don't be serious.

Don't be silly and sweet at any time. It seems straightforward, but it's actually stupid. Some girls listened to the man's "I like the real you" nonsense, and then let themselves go, telling all their evil thoughts, trivial daily life and tragic past.

Great, the mystery is gone. He wants to divert his attention. Leave yourself three points in everything. Don't eat too much, so don't talk too much, you will find a way out.

Second, reduce negative emotions.

1. Don't push yourself.

If you are in a bad state, take care of your emotions first. Don't be afraid to trouble others. Love yourself first to make him happy. Emotional value lies not in quantity but in quality. If you are absent-minded and perfunctory, you will only make the other person feel at a loss. When you are tired, let him provide you with emotional value. Occasionally fragile, will also inspire his sense of responsibility.

Let go of your gains and losses

The stronger the purpose, the more the loss outweighs the gain. If you provide emotional value every time, you are eager for the other person to respond. You will haggle over every ounce, feel that you have lost, and then give up. This is selfishness, not love. When you don't ask for anything in return, this relationship is relaxed, pleasant and flexible. You make him happy, how can he be willing to hurt you?

Third, strengthen positive emotions.

1. Cultivate the constitution of the sun

Optimistic girls are really cute. No matter how stressful life is, we should face everything bravely. This sunny physique will continue to emit warm and healing energy, making men want to be close to you. When he falls into a trough, you should stay with him to support him and let him thank you from the bottom of his heart. If you want to persist, you must first face adversity and * * *.

2. Sweet mouth

The way two people communicate together determines the quality of their feelings. If you want to get his tenderness, care and spoil, you should learn to praise him, not the industrial saccharin "Dear DOG", which has no nutrition.

You should praise his ability, courage and charm, because the worship men want is concrete, and sweet mouth is a stable investment with low cost and high income. As long as you stick to it, you will be the ultimate beneficiary. Don't think about today and say that he will be better to you tomorrow. This is a process. Don't worry, when the quantity changes into the qualitative change, your feelings will naturally be better.

Third, strengthen positive emotions.

1. Treat him the way he wants.

If he is calm and quiet, give him a tacit understanding and order a cup of coffee when he is busy; Make him breakfast when he wakes up. If he doesn't love face, you can treat him like a real girl in front of outsiders, help him serve food and meals, and help him entertain guests. You should grasp each other's personality needs, and then feed them accurately, so that he feels that you know him very well.

Create a sense of crisis

Many people worry that if I treat him so well, will he drift away? In addition to basic happiness, the emotional value we talk about also includes jealousy and possession. You should mobilize his exclusiveness towards feelings and make him afraid that you will be taken away. Don't give up makeup, clothes and fitness for a man. The more beautiful, the more attractive. Combining the previous skills, in order to keep your heart, he will strive to be good to you.