But the funny thing is, when I do the year-end review and summary, I am ashamed to face myself who set up "great ambitions" at the beginning. There are many reasons, either busy with work or heavy study tasks ... In short, the goal can't be achieved.
I have analyzed various reasons and tried to solve them, but I still have little effect. I read the book "Willpower Dividend" these two days and found that there are skills and methods in setting goals and implementing them!
To sum up, there are usually three reasons why the goal cannot be achieved:
1, I haven't figured out the meaning for a long time.
2. Lack of motivation in the process of achieving the goal.
3. You can't put your goals into practice every day for a long time.
Seeing this, do you want to nod wildly to show your approval? Don't worry, the author has given a good solution to the above three points!
First of all, after setting goals, we must understand the purpose of doing it for a long time. You can apply the golden section rule and ask yourself why?
The author mentioned in the article, "Man is a very strange species, and everything he does requires meaning, especially if he insists on doing something for a long time, he must find out the meaning of persistence, otherwise he will definitely not insist. The best persistence must be persistence after thinking clearly about the reasons. "
Think about it, just like when I first applied for a fitness card, I asked myself, what can keep me in shape? Are you in good shape? The envious eyes of others? Or to lose weight?
After thinking for a long time, I denied these reasons one by one. I was in good shape before exercise and didn't need to lose weight at all. As for the envious eyes of others, that is not my consideration. So what is my initial intention of fitness? Think about it later, in my heart, health has always been placed in a very high position, others can be less, but health is the first. If the goal is health, I will stick to it anyway.
I think this is the importance of digging deep into the meaning of the goal. Only by thinking clearly about what you really want in your heart can you continue to do it and integrate into a part of life.
Secondly, what should I do if the target loses motivation in the implementation process? This is the key that most people can't persist.
In this paper, WOOP model is proposed to solve this problem. Woop is short for wish, result, obstacle and plan. It means: write down the goal, read it aloud every morning and evening, imagine the scene after the goal is realized in your mind, and give solutions to possible difficulties.
For example, at the beginning of the year, I set a goal: lose 20 pounds. I should write down my goals and tell myself sooner or later. Imagine losing 20 pounds in your mind and wearing a beautiful bridesmaid dress to attend your best friend's wedding. Analyze the difficulties that may occur in the process of achieving the goal, such as not giving up your favorite sweets and being easy to eat and drink. , and formulate corresponding solutions.
Psychologist jonathan heit compared rationality and emotion to "elephants and people riding elephants". The rational part is like people riding elephants, and the irrational part is like an unruly elephant.
Some sensible elephants want to go to the East, and some rational elephant riders want to go to the West. The conflict between the two often causes inner contradictions. In order to make them harmonious, we must learn to use the language of emotional images.
Imagine a specific scene in your mind, that is, let the emotional elephant "read" your goal in elephant language. Repeated recitation in the morning and evening is to remind this forgetful elephant to keep the motivation for the goal at all times.
When I made a year-end review and summary, I found that the failure to manage by objectives was an important reason why the objectives were not achieved.
The author points out that we need to manage our short-term and long-term goals. Specifically:
1) Long-term target management-standardization of key things
2) Short-term target management-weekly dynamic visualization, daily Avery Lee rule.
The key thing is to standardize: first take apart the goals and do the fixed things at a fixed time every day.
For example, set aside time for exercise from 7: 00 to 8: 00 every night, and do nothing at this time to make it standardized and form a habit. Over time, it doesn't take much effort to persist in doing things with willpower, but habits can move forward.
The rule of weekly dynamic visualization and daily Avery Lee is to list the goals of the week on the first day of each week, post them in the column of planned work with a note, and move to the column of completed work after each item is completed. When breaking down execution every day, do the most important thing first, and then go down in order of importance. In this way, we can ensure that our time is spent on important things, and we can make steady progress towards our goals.
Fromm said: "What is good for body and mind must be comfortable, even if you need to overcome some resistance at the beginning!" "
In the process of setting and implementing goals, only by mastering the correct methods, pulling us forward with the power of habit and focusing the flame of willpower on the core part of the goal can we give full play to the role of willpower.
May we all achieve our year-end goals smoothly through practice!