You see, I just said I was chatting with my friends, and I don't know which planet I drifted to. Ok, let's go back to what I want to say. At that time, our topic was "What will my future look like". My married friend A immediately said that I would never allow myself to become a yellow-faced woman, because she exercised five times a week and went to the beauty spa three times a month, and the probability of becoming a yellow-faced woman was very low, so her topic passed quickly.
Another friend with children, B, said, I am extremely afraid of being a mother who controls children. This really needs to be worried, because B often says to her children, "Mom is not against you, but loves you. Then the right hand set the child free, and the left hand restricted his movements. As a result, the mother and daughter quarreled several times, and B would call me to complain, but she always felt that she had the wrong person. I was on my daughter's side unconditionally. I knew, "OK ~ You decide, the next second, I think you are still ..." That kind of helplessness, if you don't want to control others, you must first learn to let go completely.
Friends warned B from the east wind to the north wind, asking her to relax, lest her daughter's heart go further and further. B said with a full face of grievances: "ok ~ I know! But I can only say that you must never believe a woman who says I know these three words. Knowing never means I will do it. I got a call from B yesterday, complaining that my daughter bought clothes. Believe me, a girl who is a freshman really doesn't want to wear Elsa's skirt. )
C, a single friend, said she was afraid that she would change boyfriends all the time and become a casual woman. Well ~ this is really a very serious topic, because C's first love is very vigorous and lasts for a long time. It took her eight years to get out and finally made a new boyfriend. But when you eat the hottest pepper in the world, you won't feel spicy after eating other peppers. She often falls in love for less than two months, so she doesn't feel anything. She feels that she can no longer talk about love like first love.
Even if you eat it, your stomach will go bad sooner or later.
After my friends enlightened my friend C in turn, they asked me. Will I be afraid of what I will become? Basically, I am trying very hard to live my present life, so the future should not be too bad, if not very good. As the old saying goes, your future is the sum of what you are now, so I'm not afraid. Even if I "go", I feel that I am under control.
This topic has a strong rebound. Until I got home, I kept thinking, what kind of person do I hope I won't be in the future? Then it suddenly occurred to me that my male friend, Gui, came back from Taichung a while ago. Since he went to work in Taichung, we have rarely contacted each other. Only when he had just made a girlfriend did he ask me what to give him for his birthday. That's all.
We met once after he returned to Tainan. He told me that he broke up with his girlfriend for more than a year. He wanted to get married very much, and he was of marriageable age, but his girlfriend didn't want to get married, so she chose to break up with him, and he didn't do very well in opening a studio in Taichung. At dinner, he said to me, "I love her so much and work so hard." What did I get? " 」
Well, I can't answer, because I'm not a god or a seven-year-old mother. I can't help him read past lives, nor can I predict the future, let alone tell him that your present pain will make you better, because no one is sure what those pains can give him except himself.
It is inevitable that people will have low tide. Even Bill Gates didn't get high all the way. The difference is what you did at low tide.
Gui doesn't work. He watches TV every day until he goes to bed in the morning. Just you from the stars, he spent a day and a night watching. He didn't get up until the next afternoon. He didn't eat his first meal until after eight. He kept asking me to recommend photo albums to kill him. I told him not to watch TV all the time. He told me that he had nothing to do.
I said you can exercise ~ he said why you exercise, and I'm not sick. I said you can read books ~ he said there was nothing to see, just watch TV! I said you go to paint ~ he said no one asked me to paint, I said you go to travel ~ he said there was no place you wanted to go, and then he sent me a message. There are always only three words, "so boring ~"
A few days ago, during the total solar eclipse, my friend exclaimed on my line. I also asked Gui to come out and see it quickly. Gui replied coldly, "It's not the moon, what's there to see?" 」
After reading that sentence, I suddenly felt that although I didn't have any big career, I could at least eat and drink enough. Although no one loves me, at least I love myself. Although my life was not smooth all the way, at least I didn't lose heart. Although there is nothing special about the life after work every day, I at least face this unchanging life with a happy mood.
Because of aki, I told myself that no matter how many setbacks I encounter in the future, I must never lose my enthusiasm for life. Work, love and making money are all part of life, but they are never all.
Indeed, when you try your best to sprint at work and love, you will find that you can't reach the finish line, and you will feel great powerlessness and loss. In order to comfort yourself, you magnify your pain and tell yourself that I have done so much and worked so hard, and the result is still the same, but why should I be serious? Anyway, just like Aki.
He sat dejectedly in the middle of the runway. He doesn't know whether to run forward. He has lost the goal of his efforts. Nothing in this world can attract his attention, and he has lost interest in everything. In his mind, it is better not to do it well. No matter how hard he works in life, it is in vain. Give him the worst. That's it anyway. Yes, he only lives once, so you should use "but that's all." At the end of the day, I asked Pell if he wanted to bet with me. He will regret it when he lies in the coffin. Today, this is how he lives, but he dare not.
He told me that he didn't know what to do.
Not that I don't know what to do, but that I don't want to do anything at all.
When his girlfriend breaks up, he can get back together, the studio can reopen, and the day will be ruined. These will be improved as long as he takes the first step, but he still chooses to do nothing, watch Korean dramas at home, go to bed every morning and get up at night to continue wasting. Ok ~ ~ The world will never change because of you. Of course, if he tells me that I intend to live like this in my life, I feel very happy, so I will definitely support him indefinitely.
A few days ago, Gui suddenly called me and talked to me about the figure of the leading actor in Korean dramas. He said that he really didn't expect Asian boys to practice like this. Of course, I am very interested in talking about this ~ The whole phone call was around Li Minhao, Kim Soo Hyun, Kim Woo Bin, Lee Jong Suk, Che Chengyuan, Ji-seob So and Song Seung Heon. After the call, I threw several fitness bloggers FB that I often watch to him and told him that amateurs can practice like this, but if you plan to continue to collapse there, you will always be a piece of meat.
Just yesterday, he sent me a photo with a receipt for his participation in the gym. He said I want to try it first from exercise. Although I am glad that he took the first step, I just replied faintly, because for me, this should have been something he did for himself.
When you are alive, you will always lose your goal occasionally. What does it matter? Not everyone has positive energy every day, and not everyone knows what they want to do. For example, a friend changes his life goals every day. The day before yesterday, he might marry himself. Today, he may be single for life. Today, he decided to be a strong woman. As long as she is happy, 365 goals a year. There is nothing wrong!
But what if there is really nothing to do?
Then do more!
Sometimes I don't want to do it because I haven't done it, sometimes I don't want to do it because I'm afraid it's not good, and sometimes I don't want to do it because I'm lazy. There is absolutely nothing in this world that you don't want to do at all.
When a friend lost her focus in life, she signed up for various courses, such as Spanish, French, baking and Chinese food. She took the Salvation Army course and spent a total of 15000 yuan, filling herself up for one to five nights, plus six days.
If you have a friend, ask her, why do you learn those? She said she didn't go to school until she was fine!
Later, in this pile of courses, she found her own interests, that is, tailoring and French classes, so she concentrated on learning tailoring and went to a professional printing class. Now she makes all the clothes herself. Then she took a month's unpaid leave and went to France to play. She spent 0.2 million/200 thousand to reject some French handsome guys in French. She thought it was cool.
The joy of life is discovered by yourself, not dropped from the sky.
You can lose your focus and goals, but you can't lose the courage to find happiness and imagine the future. I get up every morning, looking forward to what I have to do today and working hard in live high. Although I am disappointed occasionally, I close my eyes, open them again and start again. What is there to be afraid of?
Even if no one loves you all your life, don't lose your passion for life, because happiness can't be achieved by love alone. Even if you struggle all your life, your wealth is only one thousandth of that of others. Don't lose your enthusiasm for life, because satisfaction can't be achieved by money alone. Even if you suddenly lose your focus and have no goal, don't lose your enthusiasm for life, because as long as you put your heart into it, there are surprises everywhere. Please believe in yourself.
I hope we can all be people who make ourselves happy.