First, just met.
Look at him.
If you want to talk about a relationship, it is suggested that when you meet for the first time, you should first look at his appearance, see whether his clothes are neat, whether his nails and hair are clean, whether he uses perfume and other details, so as to judge whether the other person's taste level is close to his own.
(2) see if he is eager to express.
If a person always gives you a feeling of "rushing to talk", it means that he is more eager to state his views, which is a sign of unconfidence.
(3) See if he "knows" to listen.
If you are talking, he will listen to you quietly and then ask further questions according to what you said, which shows that his listening is thoughtful. A boy or girl who is easy to listen gives people a comfortable sense of security: when he is listening to me, I feel that I have the whole world.
Look at what he said.
This can be divided into three layers: emotion, fact and theory. If he is in a stable mood, he will also insert some theories that you have never heard of, or the content of a certain field, when stating the facts, which shows that his thinking is more profound and flexible.
Second, in this process.
See if he has the ability to be quiet.
Silence is a kind of power. If a person is always shouting excitedly, it is easy to have problems. When you are quiet, you can pull a person out of the emotional state and enter a quiet space, so that your heart can be nourished and recharged. This is the most important skill for a person to develop continuously.
(2) See if his communication with people is "convection".
It means: your language can go straight to his heart, and he can accept your ideas; His words can go straight to your heart and make you accept his ideas. This convection is the basis for two people to stay together smoothly for a long time.
If you always feel "stuck, uncomfortable and pushed back" when talking to him, it means that he has built a high wall in his heart, and your words bounce back, and he didn't open his hands to catch your words.