The Kubler-Ross curve is shown below, which reflects the development law of most new things.
We can see the first stage, because we just started a change and have excessive expectations for the results after the change, so the overall state is upward, and because of the initial change, we can also see our great changes, and this feedback will also make people more confident.
For example, some people decide to lose weight, start a strict exercise and diet plan, and weigh themselves every morning and evening. At first, they will find that they lose weight faster, and they can control their lack of food and keep exercising. At this stage, they are particularly confident in losing weight and dream of losing weight in three months.
The second stage of the change curve is a steep downward curve. At this stage, people will begin to doubt whether their changes can be successful, but in reality, not only can they not see positive feedback, but there will also be many negative feedback and their confidence will be exhausted. Finally, they will be too disappointed because they can't see the results for a long time, so they will give up the change.
Seeing the colorful points at the bottom of the change curve is a group of people who stop at change. So many people in life will say that change is too difficult. I tried, but it didn't work.
Just like the second stage of losing weight, you will encounter a very painful bottleneck. Every day, I will control my diet until I have no love, and I will exercise to death every day, but my weight has not changed, and there is even a terrible increase. This kind of blow has made people desperate, and there will be many voices of doubt or ridicule in the external environment. At this time, many people will give up losing weight.
When people get through the painful second stage, they have a more objective understanding of their own changes, understand that excessive expectations and excessive disappointment are unreasonable, and begin to adjust their own practices. Their mentality has become full of hope for the future, but they don't have much expectation for unrealistic results, and because they have experienced extremely disappointing moments, their endurance will become stronger, which has entered the third stage of stability.
In the third stage, people began to adapt to changing this matter and regarded it as a habit. Of course, the result of the change will come naturally.
In order to better understand the change curve, should we know more about the concept of "fluctuation cycle" that some schools have learned?
Determine a complete fluctuation period, from one peak to another, or from one trough to another.
Peak refers to the maximum amplitude of a wave within a wavelength range, and the relative minimum value is called trough.
You should see the picture clearly.
The fluctuation cycle tells us that there are peaks and valleys, even if what you see rises straight from the starting point to the end point, it is a cycle of countless peaks and valleys.
Look at the picture below and you will feel it.
Without the concept of fluctuation cycle, many people fantasize about the beauty that has been at the peak, and once they are at the bottom, many people begin to doubt life.
Just like many people will make New Year's resolutions, how much have you achieved after half a year?
The most common New Year's resolution counted by an American research institution is: 1. Lose weight II. Quit smoking. Reading 4. Save money. ......
Does it look familiar? Looking at the results, it seems that people all over the world have similar aspirations. At least in China, "losing weight" and "learning" will definitely rank in the top three.
At the beginning, you decided to lose weight, bought equipment to join a fitness class, sweated in the gym for two hours and watched your weight drop. At that time, you must be full of confidence, dreaming that if you continue like this, you will realize your New Year's wish and become a winner in life.
At this time, you are at your peak. However, the law of things is that there are peaks and valleys. After a period of time, the body began to feel tired, unable to run on the treadmill for 20 minutes, and there was no sign of weight loss for a long time. You begin to feel that losing weight is a hopeless thing. At this time, many people will choose to give up.
If you have the concept of fluctuation cycle, it can be understood that this is your trough. As long as we get through this trough, we will usher in the next rising period and peak period. But many people don't have time to go through a complete cycle, which is the real reason why many people give up halfway.
Many times, the law of development of things is: two steps forward and one step back. When we moved forward, we won; When we retreat, we grit our teeth and compromise.
1, beware of the heat for three minutes.
Deciding to do something is easy, so you can always hear people around you make decisions that you want to change, whether it's losing weight or studying.
Actually, it's easy to start, so you can always see all kinds of punching cards in your circle of friends: getting up early, reading, and exercising. ...
The initial enthusiasm will definitely make people in the peak state, but the next test is how to face the low state.
For example, it has been almost two years since I got up early in my circle of friends to exercise and learn to punch in. To outsiders, I have been in a constant state. In fact, only I know how many times I have gone through repeated cycles, have doubted whether I can continue, have gone to bed when the alarm clock rings in the morning, have overeating for several days in a row, and have not exercised. ...
During this time, I am in a new round of trough, avoiding communicating with my boss about an important job. Going to sleep after the alarm clock rings in the morning is extremely inefficient during the day. I also watched the dog blood variety "Love War" for a long time. ...
Because I have experienced this low state many times before, I believe this low state can be completed faster and meet the next peak state.
2. Adjust your goals at any time.
I often joke that if you didn't feel stupid a year ago, it means that you haven't made any progress this year.
Do you have to carry out your words and vows to the end? Especially in the peak state, dig a hole for yourself. Do you have to jump in when you are in the low state? Actually, not necessarily. It's no big deal to admit that you can't do something and that you are sometimes stupid.
Just as many onlookers watched me punch in my circle of friends, it seems that I made a lot of promises to myself. Actually, I didn't let everyone know what I didn't do. For example, I promised to practice my oral English and listening, but I got nothing. For example, I decided to practice calligraphy, and I got nothing. For example, I wanted to open an official WeChat account, but I got nothing.
What you can't do is to take a step back and accept this state, and at the same time reflect on whether your original goal is too high and adjust it at any time.
Not only do we ordinary people slap ourselves in the face, but those so-called gods also have to face overthrowing themselves.
In 20 14, Alibaba announced its entry into the field of mobile games. 20 10 how did ma yun evaluate mobile games when he met with the prime minister? "We firmly believe that the game can't change China. China was originally a one-child family. If all children play games, what will the country do in the future? So we don't invest any money in games. When people vote, we applaud, but we don't. This is one of our principles. Ma Yun even said: starve to death and don't play games.
This is not to ridicule Ma Yun for being slapped by himself, but to admire a person who dares to correct his point of view immediately when he finds it wrong.
3. Don't draw negative conclusions for yourself in the trough.
There is a saying that many people have said in the trough: I am not cut out for this.
This conclusion will immediately discourage people and will not last until the next cycle.
What is the most precious thing in life? It is hope. The light of hope can light up life, especially the life of people in a low state. I firmly believe that I can walk through this trough and I firmly believe that I can see the arrival of the next peak.