Lonely, you go back to your cold and dark room with food in your hand. Click on WeChat, no one is looking for you. Click on the circle of friends, and no one will reply to you. You are sad, frustrated, and feel abandoned by the whole world.

It's hard to go out. You wrap the neckline tightly, look at the oncoming couples who are smiling and hugging, look at the children who are jumping around holding their mothers' hands, and look at the people singing wine in the food stalls. You feel like a dog walking alone in the cold wind.

A few hours after work should be time to relax and recharge. How can I immerse myself in sadness and loneliness and waste time? Ten o'clock Jun thinks you might as well try the following small methods.

Change your mind and be responsible for yourself.

Zheng Xiao, a good friend of Shi Dianjun, couldn't stand loneliness before.

After work, he made an appointment with three or five friends, eating, running and singing karaoke, which was also colorful. Every time he comes home from a party, he still has to argue for hours in the WeChat group. It was not until one or two in the middle of the night that everyone gradually went to bed. He will talk to himself for a long time before he wants to go to bed.

Zheng Xiao is envious of Ten-Point Jun who can persist in reading and running alone. He said, if you don't meet someone, you won't run; I am busy chatting on WeChat at home and have no time to read. Life is wonderful, but in fact they have accomplished nothing.

At ten o'clock, Jun patted him on the shoulder and smiled. "What do you think loneliness is normal. Who is not lonely? " . Admittedly, sometimes it's a little sad, but most of the time it's great.

You see, I have to clean my room, I have to study, I have to run, and I just go out and scamper for half an hour, and no one will restrain me and ask me when to go home. No one stipulates that I must finish this before doing that. That's great. "

Zheng Xiao nodded and hesitated: "Does it look silly to run alone on the road? If I don't talk in the group, will everyone think that I am very withdrawn? "

I smiled again: "The world is so big and everyone is so busy. Who is staring at you all day?". Concentrate on your business. We regard you as a friend because you are sincere and interesting, not because you are chattering in the group all day. "

After that day, Zheng Xiao stopped pulling people to play after work, and also stopped brushing emoticons in the WeChat group. He only occasionally sends a sunset by the sea to ten o'clock Jun, saying that he feels beautiful when he sees this scenery on the running road. In the past half month, Zheng Xiao told ten o'clock that he also began to enjoy his lonely time.

Zheng Xiao said that he gradually realized that you are not alone, you are lonely and miserable, and you need a hug.

On the contrary, a person needs to isolate himself from the impetuousness and noise of the outside world and seriously think about what life he really wants and how to get it.

You can mix with others, day after day, year after year; You can also make a little progress every day in your own time and finally change your life.

clean the room

A person's life after work can also be wonderful. Cleaning the house and giving yourself a fresh and clean living environment is the first step to make life better.

Sherry Borg, a western psychologist, has studied that chaotic living conditions often make people mentally exhausted and immersed in depression. When you are alone, it is even more terrible.

Inadvertently, I lay in a bad and messy room all morning. When I woke up in a daze at noon, the curtains were still thick enough to cover the sun. You struggle to open your eyes, your stomach is empty and your limbs are heavy. What you see are scattered clothes, food scraps from last night, and a few flies still hovering in the room. ...

In this environment, I feel that I can't love life when I think about it.

Therefore, cleaning the room is the first thing to do on a comfortable weekend morning.

Open the curtains and let the warm sunshine and fresh breeze touch your face; The garbage swept into the bag and trotted downstairs to throw it away. When I got home, I felt clean and fresh. Miscellaneous things, commonly used in the storage box, not commonly used in the cupboard.

Put some books for you to flip through and buy a bunch of flowers to open it.

Treat life with enthusiasm; Treat yourself with dignity and clarity.

Do sports

A few days before the Chinese New Year, at ten o'clock, Jun was working overtime to prepare the manuscript for the Chinese New Year.

It was the middle of winter, and the wet and cold in the south could penetrate into the bones. At ten o'clock Jun's side, at ten o'clock Meow snored and fell asleep. The room was quiet, only the computer buzzing in her lap, endless manuscripts, cold hands and feet, and anxious heart.

Ten o'clock meow: blame me?

At that time, I will set an alarm clock for myself, stand up every hour, exercise my muscles, do a few simple squats, and my hands and feet will warm up immediately.

Every afternoon at 3: 00 and 10: 00, Xiaojun spends 20 minutes doing a set of the simplest hit-push-ups, belly rolls, squats and jumps together. Each action is 10-20, and the period is 4 to 5 groups. After finishing this set, the whole body is warm and slightly sweaty, but it will not be very tired, which is a comfortable state.

For the same exercise, you can adjust the specific number and frequency of groups according to your physical condition, and the time should be controlled within half an hour, so don't be too tired.

Exercise can mobilize your heart and lung function, raise your body temperature, enhance your metabolism, and the endorphins produced can also cheer you up and keep you awake.

Cultivate a long-term hobby

Schopenhauer said, be vulgar or lonely. Only in a completely lonely environment can one really create.

When nobody cares about you, you can do whatever you want, laugh or get drunk; It's up to you to hum a tune or dance. You are not afraid to disturb anyone. Do what you want at once. There is no need to wait for anyone.

This is why people say that loneliness is the best value-added period.

You can read books and arrange flowers, but it is definitely not recommended that you spend a lot of free time brushing your circle of friends and Weibo. Social network is a "time black hole". If you look here and there, time will pass easily. Fragmented information seems to stimulate the brain, but it has no nutrition. In the end, you will only accomplish nothing.

The above is about being alone. Ten o'clock jun can give you some advice.

Ten o'clock Jun wants you to live a good life alone, but he is definitely not encouraging you to be withdrawn. On the contrary, one learns to be alone with high quality in order to accept others better. As Jiang Xun said, "Loneliness is the perfect beginning of life."

Ten o'clock always believes that to meet the right person, you must first become the right person.

You too.

You are getting better and better when you are alone, and that person is getting closer to you step by step.

One day, Ta will come, through the turbulent crowd, through the snow all over the sky, with full of longing and heavy pity, come to your side and hold you tight.

"Hey, there you are."

Tell me about my previous experience:

A few years ago, I was on a business trip abroad. Go to work at eight in the morning and get off work at six in the afternoon. I'm really lonely after work. I'm tired of playing mobile phones and games. It is so boring. I've been so stiff for a month, and I feel almost depressed. Go back to the dormitory alone at night, staring at the ceiling in a daze, at a loss …

Later, I thought I should do something, so I started running, reading books and going hiking on weekends. In short, I just don't want to be too leisurely. When I am busy, loneliness and loneliness will disappear …

Later, during that time, I studied the materials of the constructor's exam and ran for exercise. Three months passed quickly, and besides finishing my work, I got many unexpected gains.

Bottom line: when you are alone, try to arrange your schedule as full as possible, not too leisurely, and you will get something.

When you are alone, you should do something you like and meaningful so that you won't live up to your time.

Reading is what many people think is a high-quality way to be alone. Reading can improve a person's temperament, increase inner self-cultivation and broaden one's horizons. When a person really loves reading, he will find that there is a golden house in the book and Yan Ruyu in the book. A person can also become interesting.

When a person gets off work, cooking a hot and delicious meal for himself will make happiness soar. Food knows us best. Satisfy your taste buds, and the fatigue of the whole day will disappear. What can heal more than a table of delicious food?

There is a saying that "a word is like a person". Good calligraphy can add a lot of points to our work. Not only that, practicing calligraphy can also cultivate our self-cultivation. Whether it is a hard pen or a soft pen, it has its own unique flavor and is worth savoring.

There are many kinds of paintings now, including Chinese painting, oil painting, sketch, stick figure and so on. Every kind of painting has its charm. Painting can relax the body and mind and add a lot of interest to life.

Fitness is a hot topic now. The state has actively introduced many policies to encourage the whole people to keep fit. For ordinary people, keeping fit is also for a better life. When more and more white-collar workers have problems such as lumbar vertebrae and cervical vertebrae because they don't walk around the office all the year round, fitness is their first thought after work.

No matter what you do, since you want to improve yourself, you need to stick to it. Rome was not built in a day. If you fish for three days and dry the net for two days, you will not only improve yourself, but also waste time.

So before we start, we might as well seriously think about what we want to do, whether we can stick to it, and then take active action after thinking clearly. When we accumulate a certain amount, we will find that we can actually do many useful things after work.

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Editor in charge | Egret

To be alone with high quality, we can do the following three things:

First, you can read.

Most successful people insist on reading, and reading is one of the best ways for us to learn and progress. A good book may be an author's life's hard work, which contains all the essence of the author's thoughts. We only need a few hours, or a few days, to absorb his life's experience, so is our progress getting faster?

Reading is a good way to be alone with high quality.

Second, jogging.

You can go jogging for a few kilometers after work. Jogging can bring us many benefits. First of all, after exercise, we will have a high quality of sleep at night and be energetic and efficient at work the next day. Secondly, jogging can make us healthier, healthier, less sick and save a lot of medical expenses. Finally, jogging will make us happier and more confident.

Third, learn a skill.

You can make a plan for 18 months, spend 18 months and spend 1 to 2 hours every night to learn a skill you need. This skill can help you finish your work better, and it is also a channel for us to improve ourselves. In the future, it is possible that this skill can bring us unexpected gains.

First of all, you should arrange your own time. After work, you can study, exercise, cultivate hobbies and go outdoors to improve yourself.

1. Plan your off-duty time. With the off-duty schedule, you will know what to do, and carry it out step by step as planned, so don't worry.

2. reading. There is no end to learning. Reading is an important way to improve the inner self. After work, you can study to cultivate your temperament, enhance your connotation and increase your knowledge.

3. Exercise. Good health is the capital of revolution. Exercise can make you healthy and keep in good shape. After work, you can run, play ball, ride a bike, or exercise with indoor fitness equipment.

4. Cultivate your hobbies. Find your hobbies, such as painting, singing, cooking, movies, dancing, writing, and doing it after work. Cultivating a hobby is also very rewarding.

5. Get out. Use off-duty time to go to the streets to observe and record other people's lives. You can find interesting people and things and then reflect on yourself. If there is anything that needs to be corrected, correct it to improve yourself.

When we were young, we often depended on our parents. When we grow up, we leave home to study and work thousands of miles away. In our normal working life, we have extra time to be alone. High-quality solitude can improve yourself, while low-quality solitude leads a muddled life. Some scholars believe that as long as you do the following, you can improve the quality of your solitude time.

1, have a good attitude

Different mentality creates different loneliness.

When you are alone, people with negative attitudes will feel lonely even on sunny days.

When I am alone, people with a positive attitude, even in the majestic rainy night when I can't go back, think about how I can go back, not why I am so pitiful.

Step 2: Simple goals

A person doesn't have much time to be alone except for work, life and socializing, so setting a simple goal doesn't need to be too complicated or too much. One or two is enough. After all, setting a complicated goal like work is not suitable for a person's lonely time and mood.

This simple goal can be reading, watching movies, arranging flowers, painting, listening to songs and so on. In short, just set a goal that will make you happy.

Of course, if you are an ambitious person, you can also choose some things, such as reading and writing articles, watching movies and writing film reviews, arranging flowers and taking pictures, drawing pictures and listening to songs and singing, which can not only please yourself, but also enhance your hobbies.

Step 3 allocate time reasonably

Do you arrange your time alone in a relaxed way? Do you want to achieve your goals and improve yourself, and have some extra time to do other things?

In the allocation of solitude time, after we achieve a goal, we can give ourselves a short relaxation time and then move on to the next goal.

And that kind of solitude time without stopping in order to achieve a goal is more like work than life.

If you can allocate your time reasonably, you can manage your lonely life better.

Being alone is the best time to know ourselves. When we came to this world alone, Yu Yu walked alone. When we came to the end of our lives, we were unique, so learn to be alone and live in harmony with ourselves as soon as possible. I think we can start from the following aspects:

After a busy day, we finally went home. Facing the overwhelming information and complicated interpersonal relationships, the last bit of energy was spent on the crowded commute. Closing that door seems to shut out the whole complex world.

At this moment, we can sit down safely, let our thoughts calm down, think about ourselves during the day, be aware of our thoughts, and surge out new strength from our hearts. Instead of taking messy information home and storing it in your mind, let it scroll at will and continue to consume our energy.

2, exercise Some people choose to go to the gym to sweat like rain, but most people are exhausted after a busy day, and have no more willpower to change clothes and walk into the gym again, but physical health is a long-term and important investment, which must be valued.

Especially at night, if you accidentally eat too much, you will not be sleepy when you are full, and you can't extricate yourself from the sofa and games, even if you stand against the wall for more than ten minutes.

I don't recommend sweating exercise. I think it's easier to get tired after that kind of exercise. You can go out for a walk or walk for half an hour, or you can choose the right yoga practice on KEEP for half an hour. Let your body relax and leave all the fatigue of the day today, instead of gathering in the future.

3. Cultivate a hobby. Some people may say that I am retired and want to cultivate a hobby. Now I have no time. I must work hard to make money. In fact, the best time is now, because a hobby is not to kill time, but to give us endless energy.

For example, music, painting, photography, reading, dancing, etc. are not what others think is good, but what you really like from the heart.

For example, my favorite thing is reading. I never think reading is a task that needs punching in. When I am physically and mentally exhausted, when I am depressed, I can immerse myself in reading and get great energy from reading.

Choosing that way depends on your sincerity. Don't be led by all kinds of information, but do what you really like and let your heart produce a steady stream of energy. This is the best growth.

Life should not be just life. Life has its own poetry.

Spare time is really your own time. If you can, you can live as you want.

There are three suggestions on how to improve yourself through high-quality solitude:

First, study. Reading is the most direct and effective way to improve yourself. Opening books is beneficial. Both professional books and social science literature will be of great benefit to you.

Second, interest. Cultivate a hobby and do it in your spare time. Photography, handicrafts, gardening, sports ... as long as it is beneficial to your physical and mental health, you will always get something if you persist in doing it.

Third, study. You can participate in professional institutions for knowledge or skills training, learn baking, computer, cooking, foreign languages, floral art … endlessly and persistently.

It's always good to be willing to improve yourself.

If you are positive, you will also get good grades.

For example, we who are self-media mostly come from hobbies in our spare time. Over time, reading and writing skills will certainly improve.

Willing to work hard for your dreams is a good thing in itself!

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