1: First of all, you must affirm your own personality advantages, because being strong, patient and optimistic ... are all good advantages, so you must stick to them. However, when you encounter difficulties and setbacks, which in my opinion are still a lot of suffering, you can't see very negative emotions in your words. Instead, you are trying to overcome them and find a way out, which makes me feel that you are a very positive and sunny boy.
You have several problems. First, your girlfriend has left more than other men. First of all, do you hate your girlfriend a little? Do you think you were so sweet, lovely and enthusiastic at that time? Do you think everything is like a mirage, gone forever? Love must have material security. Nowadays, girls are very realistic, in fact, this is understandable, because who doesn't want to live more comfortably? Maybe you really can't give her what she wants for the time being. Anyway, with her gone, you can only complain about guilt and resentment. You might as well live a good life and wish her happiness. Because you still want her to be good, since everyone is not suitable, there is no need to entangle, so as not to make everyone more sad and cry in the future, so it may be a good thing to separate from your girlfriend. If we are alive, it's better to be a blessing in disguise. Everything is a test given to me by God, in order to exercise my fighting spirit. It's better for her to leave with a man now than to get married later and suddenly run away, right?
You shouldn't lose faith in love. Because you didn't meet true love. To understand true love, we must first understand the word "love". In my opinion, love is to care, cherish and tolerate a person unconditionally. Specifically, it is like a mother's selfless dedication to her baby, an emotional commitment that does not pay attention to return. Obviously, you and your ex-girlfriend are not really in love. Because you can't give everything for each other unconditionally, right? We need to believe in love, especially to actively find our true love. How to find such an object depends on the arrangement of providence, fate and opportunity. Love can't be rushed.
Secondly, there is only one thing to blame for the graduation certificate and the problem of hitting a wall at work, and that is your personal problem. Send you a word, a gentleman is ashamed of not practicing and ashamed of not using it. Shame is very important for us to live in the world. It is sad that people who have no sense of shame are hooligans. However, it is not shameful to be unable to get a diploma and find a good job. It is a shame that my ability is not enough. If you have enough ability, isn't work just like looking for a bag? To improve your ability, you must learn with an open mind and learn endlessly. I believe I don't need to say more.
Friendship should not be doubted. You are good to others, don't expect others to be good to you. There is no perfect and equal love in the world One side always pays more than the other. Your so-called buddy may be facing a turning point in his life, so how can he have the energy to help you? In addition, people are sometimes selfish, but I am very responsible to tell you that those who only think of you in times of crisis are definitely not your true friends. This requires you to observe carefully who is your best friend who really cares about you, so you need to know people with your eyes. In fact, there is no need to sigh that people are warm. You see, we only take out our umbrellas when it rains; But the weather cleared up and we put our umbrellas back in the cupboard. So people, too, will be warm and friendly to you when they need your help very much, but they may really think little of you at ordinary times and even be indifferent to your help. Because most people care about themselves more than others.
But it is absolutely necessary and correct for you to take the initiative to care about others.
I suggest you watch a video called "How to manage life without regrets". I believe you will benefit a lot.
I wish you happiness.