1 teacher's home visit, what should parents say?
Understand the situation of children at school.
Most parents don't know much about their children at school, but they rarely have time to go to school and ask teachers. Therefore, home visits provide convenient conditions for parents to understand their children's school situation. Therefore, parents should make full use of the opportunity of home visits to ask teachers about their children's situation at school, so that teachers can know more about their children.
Introduce the children at home to the teacher.
The purpose of the teacher's home visit is nothing more than to know about the children at home. Through all kinds of understanding, teachers can master the characteristics of children in school and educate them better. Therefore, when the teacher comes to visit at home, parents should think about the situation of their children at home in advance and introduce them to the teacher comprehensively when the teacher asks.
Parents should talk more about their children's interests, habits and personalities.
Teacher Wu, the head teacher of the primary school, told the reporter that children's performance is different because of the different school and family environments. The teacher's home visit is to understand the other side of the child. Parents should truly introduce their children's situation, and teachers should put themselves in their shoes and understand their parents' pains.
"Home visit is to let parents and teachers talk about the advantages and disadvantages of their children and guide and educate them on the basis of understanding the real situation." Teacher Wu said that every time she visits home, she will take the initiative to learn about her children's hobbies, advantages and disadvantages, and living habits, and then discuss educational methods with parents. Teacher Wu said: "There was once a child with unsatisfactory grades in the class, but he took the initiative to invite me in, poured me water and brought me a head pillow, saying that the sofa was too hard and it would be more comfortable to cushion it. These small details of caring for people have given me confidence in this child's study. "
A teacher from Lin Xue Primary School told the reporter, "During the home visit, it was found that the parents of freshmen were more reserved, worried that their children's shortcomings would affect their impression in the teacher's mind, and worried that their advantages would make the teacher feel that their parents were exaggerating. In fact, teachers are very willing to communicate with parents. Parents should not have concerns, have a positive attitude and take the initiative to let teachers know their children's interests, habits and personalities, which is conducive to school education. "
A teacher at Xiasha Primary School told the reporter that during the home visit, she would ask parents, "What does the child tell you when he comes home from school every day?" If there are problems affecting children's study at home, she will deeply understand and persuade them to avoid affecting children.
Talking openly about children can also explore educational methods.
Mr. Shen's son Chen Chen is in the sixth grade this year. In the past six years, Mr. Shen has received many home visits. "I chat with the teacher, usually for more than half an hour. Everyone is face to face, heart to heart, and open and honest. " Mr. Shen said.
Teacher Shen is very demanding on his son's study and asks him to preview at home every day. Therefore, "My son is not active in class" is what Mr. Shen is most concerned about. Besides, Mr. Shen will also communicate with his teacher about his son's personality at school, whether he is whispering in class, how to correct his writing shortcomings and so on.
Mr. Shen told reporters that he learned from his home visit that every time his son wrote "the most unforgettable thing", he wrote "playing football and basketball". The teacher said that this reflected the son's narrow life circle. After reflection, Mr. Shen decided to expand his life circle with his son.
Mr. Yang's son entered the first grade of Zheng Xue Primary School in September this year. Teacher Yang told reporters that when he first received a home visit from a kindergarten teacher, he talked about his son's previous habits, especially his hobby of playing Go. I hope the teacher can use his son to get along with his classmates as soon as possible.
2 Parents' misconceptions about home visits are as follows:
Home visits become a "talent show", and parents report good news instead of worries.
"Is it necessary to make special preparations for the teacher's first home visit?" More than a dozen drinks are lined up, please ask the teacher to choose your favorite taste; Put on a beautiful fruit bowl and ask the teacher to taste it. Some parents even turned chatting into a "talent show" for their children. In fact, teachers prefer to see a more real child and understand the real family education environment.
"In fact, the teacher will really change his attitude because of the child's small shortcomings." Wang pointed out that parents usually "report good news but not bad news" in home visits, while teachers' home visits are like a "doctor's consultation" aimed at finding problems and finding solutions to them. Parents should realize that school and family are not antagonistic, but "partners in education", and there is absolutely no need for parents to hide their children's shortcomings.
Bian Xiao recommended: How do parents cooperate with teachers' home visits?
Encourage children to speak blindly and ignore listening ability.
Zhang Li, a teacher of Meiling Primary School who often attends home visits, told reporters that teachers usually talk to their parents more during home visits. In fact, the teacher will also secretly observe what the child is doing at this time. "Some children look around, some put a few mouthfuls from time to time, and some will listen quietly."
"In fact, many parents here have a misunderstanding. They encourage children to talk more and dare to express themselves, but they often ignore them. Listening is also an ability. " Teacher Zhang said that what they want to know most in communication is what children need to strengthen and what shortcomings can be overcome by home-school cooperation.
Worried about family privacy disclosure, refused to visit the teacher's home.
The reporter learned that our school has adopted a variety of home-school communication methods. For example, almost every school in the urban area now has a "home-school link", and some classes have websites where parents can leave messages or send emails to the head teacher's mailbox. Some classes also have parents' QQ groups, and parents and teachers often use WeChat to communicate.
Is it necessary to spend time and energy on home visits? In the investigation, the reporter found that some parents don't want teachers to come to the door because they are worried about "privacy leakage". Wang said that although it is the Internet age, no communication method can replace face-to-face communication. Home visits are conducive to a comprehensive understanding of students' family status and personality, and to prescribe the right medicine. For the privacy problems encountered in traditional home visits, many teachers said that they would fully respect parents' wishes and teachers should master the art of home visits. Considering the actual needs of parents, teachers can also try new tricks such as "home visits from different places" and "group face-to-face visits".