Perhaps, most people, like me, are at this embarrassing age, confused, impetuous, anxious, hesitant and afraid. I don't know how to get along with people around me. Facing the surrounding environment, I can say that I am so sick that I can't even swallow the feast on the table. In the face of my career, I can only take those utopian naive theories. I've been hitting a wall. As for the rest, I feel scared when I think about it. Therefore, escape has become a long-term partner in the future.
I had many dreams before graduation. I want to see every ancient mountain city in other places, and I want to see it alone as long as it can attract my attention. I think that when I have a stable job, make money, buy a car and buy a house, with these material things, I can satisfy my desire for reality. I want to find a suitable person, fall madly in love with her, dress her in the most beautiful wedding dress, have a healthy child, form a warm family, and then enjoy happiness quietly. I want to honor my parents, take them where they want to go, and help them fulfill their unfinished dreams when they were young. I want to help those who really need help and bring them positive energy and a little warmth from the heart. I think it's simple, but the complexity and confusion ahead have been holding me back, but it doesn't matter, I believe in myself, you can do it.
After graduation, get up at seven in the morning and go home at seven in the evening. I have been working hard, crowded on the crowded bus, watching strangers, releasing a little air from the gap and making myself breathe hard. At the end of each month, take the salary, buy a dress, eat a good meal and treat yourself. Living in a single room all the time, I have no courage to travel, let alone fall in love, buy a house, buy a car and help others. But suddenly, I woke up. We must work hard to get close to those dreams that we dare not get close to now. Give this document to those who once had nothing like me.
(a) want to seize a better opportunity, that is initiative.
People who dare to think and those who dare not come from two extreme groups. The former lives more fully than the latter, and those who dare to think are always pushing themselves forward. They often say things that shock everyone.
People with ideas will never lag behind mentally, because spiritual wealth is enough to feed them, but besides, you must take action to create your greatest wealth.
No matter how ugly and dirty the world is, I think God treats everyone fairly. It's another thing that you don't cherish what God has given you.
It's not that you have no chance. One such contrast is that a person has read thousands of books in 26 years, traveled to 26 countries, mastered the languages of 26 countries, and lived a life without worrying about food and clothing. Another person, who spent four years in college, often skipped classes in professional courses, either sleeping in class or playing games in the dormitory, and fell for four years. After graduation, I have the opportunity to be incompetent. Faced with the opportunity, I can only be taken away by others.
Time can completely change a person, including personality, ability, cultivation and temperament. So you should take action, because the opportunity is for people who like it, and you must be able to control it on the premise of liking it.
(2) You should believe that the world is fair.
After work, in order to save the bus fare of four yuan a day, you have to get up half an hour early, for fear that the alarm clock set last night won't go off and you won't know the time until you wake up several times. Although being late for work will not be deducted, it is best not to be late. Crowded on the bus to the company in the morning, I don't know anyone, so I just stand with others, look at the scenery outside, think about the people I miss, think about how to finish today's work and how to arrange tomorrow's work.
Don't complain that society is unfair to you. Think about how many people knelt on the street begging for a living when you walked into McDonald's. When you blow the air conditioner in the office, there are still many people carrying a gravel wallboard in the wind and rain. In fact, as long as you live a good, healthy and happy life, this is the greatest fairness of society to you.
(3) We will eventually return to the original point.
You want to travel alone and get together with friends. If you want to take the postgraduate entrance examination, work for a few years first; You want to memorize words for a few days, and you want to participate in club activities. Sometimes, you ask yourself if you want too much. Is your life too busy? Do you have no idea what you really want and have done so much? Do you just want to comfort yourself and let others see that you are not far behind them?
At that time, my colleagues often asked me, why do you like to carry a backpack to work every day? Whenever I hear people ask me this question, I just smile at them. Maybe it's special, maybe it's because of my personality. In fact, when you do something, there will always be people talking about you. I think this is normal, and gradually they will get used to it.
The reason for carrying a backpack to work may be to miss the plot of the school days, or to experience the life of city travelers.
(4) Let time block the distance between us.
Someone will always say that they will come to see you next week. Are you serious? At the end of the week, she said, I have something to do here and I can't leave. I'll call you when I have time next week. So you believe it again. Then, I looked forward to that person's words. As a result, the weekend passed and I didn't even receive a message, let alone her figure. The loss is coming. It turns out that you take things too seriously.
In everyone's heart, there is a person who misses her very much, but never dares to contact her, so after a long time, you think it is a kind of happiness to miss her. However, missing is a unique pathological state. You may have forgotten that you had great courage in those days, and you were defeated because of such a small matter. Don't let yourself live in such pain, because another person, I think, is struggling like you.
(5) Youth is a journey.
When no one believes in you, you can make yourself believe in yourself and this matter, and you can do it well within your own ability. When no one is around, you can think alone, go shopping alone and eat your favorite food alone. When no one supports you, I can give you a little encouragement to stick to it, because if you stick to it, you can grow in an instant. Don't be afraid, you must make yourself feel stable, reliable and safe.
Every Saturday night, I will go to see fireworks, and every Sunday afternoon, I will climb Yuelu Mountain, which is repeated every week and every month. Because I was thinking at that time, besides being busy at work, I should learn to think, experience the life of the public and exercise myself. Because only in this way can we give ourselves a buffer space, challenge our tomorrow, and make our life real and meaningful.
Every day, such a group of people have many beautiful dreams in their hearts, dreaming of having a car, a house, money and a diamond ring. But they can only get a meager salary, and their daily fantasies become their upward motivation, but they never forget to change themselves. Over time, fantasy has become their greatest comfort. One year, two years, in the end, they always return to the original place, and the only change is the lost youth.
(6) Get used to everything you have never been used to.
Along the way, I found that I have been accepting things I don't like. If you can't help it, get used to it. And try to like it.
No one in this world is born noble. Even if you were born a prince and daughter, so what? Everything that belongs to you is not yours. Maybe one day, they will all leave you.
When I was a child, my parents asked us if we could send you to school to read and write. You said, good. You think school is interesting. There are so many people your age. So I agreed happily. After being a teacher for a while, you feel that there are always teachers who are binding your freedom. So you ran home and told your parents that I wouldn't go to school. They asked you why you didn't go. You said it wasn't funny. You'd better go to school. You've been here for more than ten years, scolded by your father for no reason.
When you grow up and adapt to the rhythm and lifestyle of the school, you will rush to another adult space, society. When you fantasize about entering this space, you finally feel free But when everyone around you is busy looking for a job and making money, you are blindsided. It turns out that all this is not what we once imagined. When you were scolded by the leader, you still lived an ordinary life with a low salary. You start to have an epiphany It turns out that home is always better than school, school is always better than society, and childhood is always better than adulthood. And why, when we experience it, we always feel that it is so persistent. In fact, it is always good to get used to things you are not used to early.
(seven) feelings, do not need to deliberately
When a person is depressed, he will cross Xiangjiang Bridge from Xinghanmen, walk all the way to Hexi University Town, and then walk from the University Town to Jinxiu Xiaoxiang. Maybe others don't understand why you abuse yourself when you have a good car. In fact, sometimes life is a process of constantly competing with your heart.
Maybe at a certain age, you will naturally understand what you don't understand; Some unwilling facts, slowly began to accept; There is no time to think about some things, and there is no need to think about them. In fact, choosing to let nature take its course is more reliable than anything else. The power of time is that the earth is running, so your mind always walks with time.
Love, with the growth of age, becomes more and more incredible and falls into a state of doubt. And more and more believe in family, always feel that family will last longer than love. Even if I haven't seen him for days or even years, no one else can replace him. Is it time to contact? Is it time to meet? So you have a phone call and a text message. He took a bus from another city to your city, with the purpose of taking a look at you, having dinner with you, watching a movie just released, and strolling around the street corner where they had been before.
(8) grow, it teaches you.
Twenty-one years old, it seems that the deep world is blank. There are no relatives, friends and lovers around, and the only thing left around is yourself. At that time, I wanted to travel, see the outside world and help those in need. But in the end, I didn't do it. Because my weak strength is not enough to support the gap between ideal and reality, I must work hard, work hard and try to get close to them. This is what I want to do now.
I go to work at 8: 30 in the morning and get off at 5: 30 in the evening. Because renting a house is too far from the company, I have to take the bus at 7 o'clock, and it takes more than three hours to go back and forth every day. I spent eight yuan on the bus, but at that time, the average daily salary was only a few tens of dollars, so this has always been my sore spot, but in retrospect, I always think you were really good at that time.
I'm not a writer, and I don't want to be a writer. I like living the life I want now. I can bury myself in my favorite books, write words that resonate with me and do things that interest me every day. There is no deception, hypocrisy or calculation here. I just want to make a safe choice and enjoy everything around me.
One should not devote oneself wholeheartedly to everything and all people, otherwise you would rather be someone else's puppet, which I don't think most people will do. So you have to tell yourself to be strict, to be restrained, to keep a low profile, and not to tell all the secrets to another person without reservation. This person may be your best friend or someone who doesn't understand you. It's not that I don't know how to share, but that I can't tolerate the trampling and slander of others.
(9) Youth is not addiction and then death.
Perhaps, it will be because of an unforgettable love; Perhaps it is because of a parting friendship; Maybe it's because someone hit you and made you cry instantly; Perhaps, you are tired of playing the rules of the game in this world, so that you are no longer naive. Maybe ... there are too many possibilities in our life, because one thing or another may happen to you, so youth is gone forever.
Youth is gone and gone, don't be sentimental, because it is used to remember after all. I don't know when to start. I stopped going in and out of KTV, going to bars and fooling around with a group of best friends until the early hours of the morning. I began to get tired of this life, because I always felt that this era no longer belonged to me. And these things should have belonged to those people at the right time. I'm not anymore. Youth, nothing, is just an addiction when passing by the intersection of my life.