First, the "analogy" method
For example, in the breakup stage, we often tell each other some love breakup stories that are very close and similar to ourselves, and then let the other party give information feedback on these stories. After judging and analyzing the feedback from the other party, make a good plan for the next step, gradually guide and transition to the direction of breaking up, step by step, and gradually deepen, so that the other party can be inspired and understand. When using this method, we must remember not to find some examples in the wild, and then tell each other clearly in expect the unexpected.
In this way, the other party may regard it as a story told when you chat, and often you will not pay special attention to it, and the effect is not satisfactory. The best way is to control your emotions when both sides are happy and easy to get along with. When you meet any suitable scenes and plots, you can use these scenes to tell each other stories similar to this situation, which will form strong differences and strengthen your consciousness, thus attracting each other's attention.
The other party will pay attention to your intention to say these words, and want to know your purpose and intention to say these words, either asking you or thinking and considering your motivation to say these words in your mind. At first, it may not be effective immediately and achieve the expected effect, but over time, this situation will attract the attention and vigilance of the other party and will soon be realized. In order to achieve good and quick results, the best way to tell the story of breaking up is to tell what happened around you.
In this way, the other party will quickly make an analogy and understand it quickly, thus getting twice the result with half the effort. When the other person understands and knows your thoughts, he will seriously reflect on the relationship between you, consider the feelings of the two people, and will take corresponding words and deeds to show you some performances, gradually alienating you, so that both of them will know why, and then they will naturally break up, without bringing blows and injuries to people, but also with dignity.
Second, the "hint" method
As the saying goes, "listen to the sound of gongs and drums, listen to the pronunciation of words." In the process of communication, people will judge what others say. They should not only listen to the main meaning expressed in each other's words, but also pay attention to whether there are hints or implications. Then through comprehensive judgment, we can know each other's true intentions. Similarly, if couples don't want to continue, they can also make use of this characteristic of people to make a decision to break up in language.
Give the other person some clever hints, let the other person hear the "implication" of breaking up, and understand the implication of your words in your past information. Not only that, you can even artificially put forward some inappropriate phenomena when two people are together in the process of communicating with each other, so that the other party can answer them. You can also say that some couples will appear when they want to break up, and then beat about the bush with you in a tactful way, even often.
After these hints, as long as the other person is a person with normal intelligence, he can quickly understand and understand your intentions and ideas of these hints. After the other person knows your inner thoughts, he will be psychologically prepared, and slowly start to keep his distance from you in words and deeds. He may even adopt the way of "dealing with a man as he deals with you", and will also give you the same hint, giving everyone a chance to buffer, and slowly look down on everything again and again, slowly.
Third, the "third party"
When it comes to "the third party", we must not misinterpret and misunderstand it. The "third party" mentioned here is by no means the kind of "third party" that involves other people's feelings and families, nor is it because you want to break up and find a friend of the opposite sex. The "third party" here refers to your relatives and friends, or people who are closely related to your life. Without feelings, it is difficult to mention each other when you want to break up.
Express your idea of breaking up as a third party, and let them pass on their wishes to each other as intermediaries and media. Because of the messenger, they met from beginning to end without embarrassment, and both sides got the final result conveniently and quickly. Both sides broke up with dignity and achieved the expected purpose and desired result. There are many people who use this method in life.
In addition, if you don't want to use the power of this "third party" to avoid making a mountain out of a molehill and gossiping, you can use modern popular communication tools as a "third party", and then reflect the idea of breaking up to the other party through expressions, tone, attitude and reaction time in online communication, so that the other party can clearly experience and perceive it, and at the same time, you can communicate in the network.
Even a perfunctory attitude can't even reach the communication status of ordinary people, so that the other party can quickly feel that because the network is a virtual environment, both of them are at the other end of the network, so that without the participation of others, through the network media, without discomfort or too much psychological burden and pressure, they can say goodbye well, so that the two sides can break up quietly without interest and achieve their respective goals and results. There is no doubt about it.
Second, why can't you catch up with girls? The real reason is that this girl doesn't "chase". If you only focus on "chasing" girls, you will only be a spare tire in the end until you are old. If you just want to "chase" a girl, then what you do is often to pay for her and always want to do something for her. It is wrong for you to try to pay for a girl's kindness to you. Some brothers say good morning and good night to girls. Every time they ask a girl out, they pay for it themselves and enjoy it. Every holiday, they will definitely give gifts. ......
You may think you are a couple, but in the eyes of girls, you are just a cheap spare tire. Pay can only be moved, and moving is never love. Love comes from mutual attraction! Only when you are attracted to each other, have a good impression and love, her touch on you is valuable at this moment. Therefore, even if you want to be nice to girls and want to pay for them, you should build on the situation that you have already had love between you.
Just like when you interview a Fortune 500 company, you say that you don't have the professional skills of the corresponding position, have no similar work experience, and only have a heart for the company. Do you think you can get an offer?
So, brothers, don't wait for love to come, and don't wait for you to mix up. This is complete nonsense. You don't have to wait for you to get mixed up to catch up with girls. Why wait until you can't get along? What if we can't get along? I know a great teacher. He is short and ugly, but people can still catch up with many beautiful women, including fitness instructors and millionaires, because he really knows the bottom logic of chasing girls and getting along with them.
Every Friday night, the teacher will broadcast live on the internet for free how to chase girls, how to chat with girls, the underlying logic of confession with girls, and the whole process of teaching you how to chat with girls, methods, principles and in-depth questions and answers. They are all free, the courses are very good, very grounded and easy to understand. Many love cases are really disassembled, so that everyone can learn both theory and methods. If the two brothers have emotional problems now, there are still some things they must learn. If you want to listen, you can go to the core of Mao Ge (homophonic): the front group is m9, and the middle group is ka? The last group is also: ka? Just combine the above three groups in order. Note: I know. The old driver leads the way, so don't worry about it.
Three? Summary of lovers breaking up 10 1. Although we broke up, I still love you. Remember, you must be happy and live better than me.
102, I thought I could forget, but the tears I shed didn't deceive myself!
103, I live not for myself, but for my own people, my relatives and my friends. Think about your parents. Is it that easy to raise them?
104, those who will eventually get you into it are always beautiful at first. I believe the world will always be so beautiful. I don't care if you care about me. I am used to being uncomfortable, thinking of you and waiting for you, but I have never been used to not seeing you. Happiness is to find a warm person for a lifetime. As beautiful as flowers and jade, as water flies. You can go back, but you can't go back to the beginning.
105, Zuo Zuo left, don't miss the old.
106, I stamped my foot, I was troubled, I cried, and I wanted to tear myself to pieces.
107, I can feel your heartache. Do you have unspeakable helplessness? But you act like you don't care, and the more you do, the worse I feel.
108, every time I look up and see the round moon, when you are not with me, I miss you crazily. It turns out that don't go to see the moon when you are lonely, because it will make you more lonely.
109, you are too kind to me, but I can't love you like you. You just put too much pressure on me. I'm so hard. Leave me alone!
1 10, time did not dilute the pain, but sealed the memory. When the small fragments of the past are inadvertently evoked by casual things, those happy or sad memories are always sweet, which always makes me feel the pain in my heart and tears can't be suppressed.
1 1 1. Don't be friends after breaking up. At the beginning, love was so real and deep. It's better to be a stranger than a friend in the end.
1 12, please say a blessing to him when love is gone. After all, I love him.
1 13, happiness is on the face, others can see it. Who can feel the pain inside me?
1 14, just for him to give up the ideal city and go to unknown life and death at dawn.
1 15, you know? I am a person who likes fresh air very much, but you always make the air around me not fresh, so I want to leave you, a fart!
1 16, many people don't need to meet again because they are just passing by. There will always be a period of time, and only when it has passed will we find that it has been deeply embedded in our memory. Thank you for coming. I'm sorry you left.
1 17, are you tired of my interruption after breaking up?
1 18, when the breakup came, I didn't feel pain or joy, just looked at you quietly. Because my heart is dead! When we broke up, I didn't feel pain or joy, just looked at you quietly. Because my heart is dead!
1 19. To cure yourself, you must first manage your greed, open your heart to understand others, learn to distance yourself from relationships, maintain positive energy, avoid dependence, don't bear other people's lives, and reserve conditions for self-love and his love.
120, life is a simple trajectory, dull repetition. The sign of a person's maturity is to learn to be cruel, to be independent, to smile and to discard unworthy feelings. Once a man taught me how to love, but when he left, he didn't teach me how to let go.
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12 1, for your own good, I don't want my existence to affect your future happiness.
122, crying, can't vent emotions, can't show scars, can't heal wounds ... So I cried and found that I lost my love and only got incompetence. Pain, I can't say it, like a hole in my heart. Too deep to see the bottom, no longer healing, crying fool … I've had enough.
123, I bought a bottle of Sprite when I was lovelorn, because it was cold.
124, after breaking up, you hold other people's hands. Let me walk alone in this busy street. See clearly the falsehood of love.
125, fate, believe it or not! In short, sometimes you have to be at its mercy.
126, some people won't forget it because they don't want to give up.
127, I love you very much, but please forgive me some reasons why I can't tell you.
128. In life, we are used to wrapping the loss with freedom and driving away loneliness with loneliness. In fact, those injuries and pains in my heart are only known to myself and cannot be easily forgotten. When I think of someone, I feel like dreaming. Those buried past events, like shadows, shuttle through our memories.
129, I'm probably out of prison. I am no longer a prisoner of your name.
130, when you miss him, think about his goodness, his smile, and remember that you once loved someone, no matter who started the betrayal in the end, just be happy.
13 1, I'm a loner and I don't know how to please. No wonder everyone left me.
132, after a long relationship, it is not love, but dependence. Then when you lose, it's not pain, but giving up.
133, thank you for giving me a wonderful memory forever. Everyone will go well in the future.
134, waiting for your concern until I close my heart. Love is such a thing that time is of the essence. You can't know too early or too late. You think you can't give me the life you imagined, so you are as desperate as possessed, but you don't know that all I want is to be together quietly. Maybe after I said it so many times, you know, but you won't let go. Okay, I'll let go ... let go of your hand.
135, since it's lost, don't be persistent.
136, one person's world always needs another person as a foil. He's gone, that's because he can't afford you! I believe you will have a better tomorrow!
137, love is an intellectual game, but I am stupid and scarred every time.
138. Although he sometimes complains a lot about his behavior, he will find that he is still a little reluctant when he really leaves.
139, love is sweet, and breaking up is inevitable. Who hasn't cried several times, and it takes several times to find the last love? Breaking up is inevitable, but some questions don't have to be asked.
140, people, sometimes like scars, some scars, scratched on the hand, healing becomes a thing of the past. Some scars, scratched in my heart, even if scratched gently, will remain in my heart. Some people, close at hand, are out of life. Some regrets are destined to be borne for a lifetime.
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14 1, if you break up, it is cruel and gentle.
142. If breaking up is the only way out, I'll say the last word.
143, the more you try to please someone, the more likely that person will make you feel pain. Let the past go with the wind, don't look back, and don't settle for the future.
144, we can imagine countless beginnings, but we can only accept one ending; We can modify the starting point, but we cannot change the ending point. After all, it will end in sadness and disappointment.
145, please be happier than me, so as not to waste my messy resignation time. I will leave you, because I really love you, I really love you.
146, life is a simple trajectory, dull repetition. The sign of a person's maturity is to learn to be cruel, to be independent, to smile and to discard unworthy feelings. Once a man taught me how to love, but when he left, he didn't teach me how to let go.
147, you are like a dust to the whole world; But for me, it is the whole world! And now, I have lost the whole world!
148, I said that breaking up is not really breaking up. I just wanted to know if I could make you bow your head and stay, but you took it seriously.
149, the problem is yourself, not others.
150, I miss you after breaking up. I don't have time to cry, but I still feel a little sad.
15 1. Although I thought about it, I didn't. Since then, mountains and rivers have never met.
152, if one day we are separated, I will forget everything about you. Then, try to forgive you, forgive the rainy day that took you away. Then re-measure the distance from me to you to see if there is any green space for you to fall emotionally. When you leave, the world is no longer beautiful, but those tearful memories are always beautiful.
153, I have worked so hard for you, and I think I should die. I will cherish everything you have given me, forever! I will bless you. Let's be friends, ok?
154, in a beautiful love, a "breakup" is still nothing.
155. Time is the best medicine. I hope that after a long time, the heart that misses you will never hurt.
156, don't wait for someone who shouldn't wait, and don't hurt your heart!
157, before everything gets better, we always have to experience some unhappy days, which may be long or just wake up, so be patient and give good luck some time.
158, life, nothing to lose, I'm afraid to splurge. Life is limited, and everything you get will be lost. As long as you cherish it with your heart, you don't have to care too much about losing it. Flowers bloom and fall, and the seasons change. No one can stay who should go, and no one can stop who should come. Open your arms, face it calmly, greet every morning with joy, and send away every evening with indifference.
159. Listen to your deep breath, meditate on your chaotic heartbeat and look at your frightened eyes. I know we have reached the terminal ahead, so I should get off.
160, I can't bear to give up on you, I can only say that I am not qualified.
16 1, most of the pain is the result of refusing to leave.
162, I don't want to hang myself under your tree, because it will bring you trouble, but I can't help myself. Is it wrong to like someone?
163, not all pain can be shouted out, and not all love can be expressed. Don't show your sadness too much, because no one lives more easily than anyone else.
164, the most painful thing in life is that people who love each other are still in love, but they can never go back to the past or the place where they came from. The pain left in my heart, only the fragments left in my memory, warmed the days after I left.
165, it was unintentional to meet you, it was providence to know you, it was affection to miss you, and it was not malicious to say goodbye. At least we still have memories.
166, just break up. You can have an affair with anyone you want, so don't worry about anything.
167, the most tiring thing in this world is to watch your heart break and stick it on yourself.
168, if you don't get it and then lose it, how do you know what kind of heartbreak it is?
169, I won't wait for you. I'm just waiting for my heart to die, in a certain year, a certain month, a certain calm day.
170, you may be used to being with your current lover. I don't like it very much, but after being together for a long time, I am used to making new choices. Life will face countless choices. When you are given a choice, you must be careful; Once you make a choice, you will never regret it; If you can afford it, you can put it down. If you break it, you should forget it. Cherish what you should cherish.
17 1, not every love song has good memories, only after use.
172, forget it, break up, and stop fighting needlessly.
173, left and left, just a little unaccustomed, everything is always dull.
174, want to put a bottle of water, but half a bottle of sediment; I want to look for those enjoying eyes, but what I see is the background far away from me.
175, opened all summer and fell to the ground.
176, don't fall in love with someone who doesn't seem to love you, then you don't have to be disappointed. Some disappointments are inevitable, but most of them are because you overestimate yourself. Love is an accidental opportunity. Some people are shot by God of Love, or fall into the trap set by God of Love.
177, time flows like roulette, and love marks the fate of separation in the shadow of wine; Time flies like a meteor, and the wound condenses painful scars in the smoke. Maybe the next stop is happiness.
178, the ending of the breakup was so sad that my heart ached to the edge of madness. Who told me to learn to forget?
179, if you look at life from a discouraged position, then life will be rewarded from a discouraged position.
180, the cruelest thing in the world is that you know I like you, but you don't know.
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18 1, you must not have noticed the despair in my eyes when I smiled and said I didn't mind.
182, if I don't care about you, I won't smile at you; Will not become so fragile; Don't care about everything you do, don't miss you quietly; I won't remember every word you say, and I won't be sad for you; Will not cherish the time with you; Will not always think of you involuntarily; Don't let the pain torment yourself so easily; I won't argue with you about trifles … all because I care about you.
183, it is my life's fault that I didn't hold your hand. No matter at the ends of the earth or just around the corner, you are the deepest miss and pain in my heart!
184, honey, what happened to us? Tired, just want to put it down?
185, the so-called infidelity is to play with your lover and the lover who is tired of others.
186, you can't be friends after breaking up, because it hurts each other; We can't be human, because we are deep. So I became the most familiar stranger.
187, if the past can be drunk, then the memory is a hangover.
188, don't be hard on others, and don't blame yourself. The feeling of loneliness is so heavy, just because I think too deeply. I hope someone can decide everything for me, my job decision, and even which clothes to buy, and I don't have to be half-hearted. Of course, his decision had better be what I think. I hope he can guess my mind without me. I don't need to know what he did for me.
189, when everything becomes the wind, I am still waiting here; When the world has changed, I still stick to the original; Who taught me to be the stupidest person in the world and only know how to be nice to the person I like?
190, it turns out that my most persistent thing is that you never care. Let go of your hand and suddenly realize.
19 1. Before transforming yourself to attract her attention, you'd better think about what you think she does.
192, don't say love easily, the promise you make is the debt you owe!
193, life is like a dance, but the person who teaches you the first dance step may not accompany you to the end.
194, we are mottled by time and still try to smile. Some things we know are wrong, but we have to insist because we are unwilling; Some people, we know that we love, but have to give up because there is no ending; Sometimes, we know there is no road, but we are still moving forward, just because we are used to it.
195, I finally thought of a way to forget you. I won't miss you, I won't love you, and I have never seen you in my life.
196, after breaking up, I know how to cherish and mature a lot! Never forget!
197, being yourself is better than being a copy of anyone.
198, the accumulated thoughts welled up in my heart and suddenly choked my throat.
199, I have regretted giving up on you, and my heart ached, but I never expected you to come back.
In fact, we are not so lonely, but we imagine ourselves to be too lonely, so we feel lonely and abandoned by everyone. It's not that bad. It's really not that bad. There will always be angels in this world, but they haven't reached the distance yet.
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20 1, when the excitement of love-the exhaustion of love makes the dream black and white, I know we can only sigh at each other helplessly; When there was only an empty afterheat left in the once fiery heat, it was time to leave.
202. Don't break up easily, even if you can return to the original feeling, you can't go back.
203. Are you in love with her? Or fall in love with your imagination.
204. I keep saying in my heart, forget it, but I still can't let it go.
205. I don't want to be an episode in your life, just want to be the most perfect ending in your life.
206. My dog doesn't like you, and your cat doesn't like me, so don't say anything more, and you will gradually understand later.
207. There is a song that will make me unconsciously think of someone, shed inexplicable tears, or be moved by a song because I miss or love someone. Listen quietly to the voice of the inner world, and there will often be a cheerful melody. It can be simple, profound, lyrical and noisy …
208. After I was separated from you, two selves appeared in this world: one pretended to be happy and the other was really sad.
209. It is obvious that you approached me first, but in the end I could not bear to part. Perhaps, deep feelings have never been disappointed, and they will only miss fickle feelings.
2 10, what is happiness? Is to hide your sadness and smile at everyone.
2 1 1, break up with dignity, no one should say sorry, don't be in debt, I dare to give my heart and break my heart.
2 12, forget it! I don't want to be wronged.
2 13, once holding hands, once happy and sweet, once spent two months together, and finally disappeared in a silent breakup. I have to say that my life is full of irony. Snow, quietly floating, heart, quietly hurting.
2 14, my girlfriend told me today that you are not Gao Fushuai, so why don't you love me? Let's break up!
2 15, I am stubborn about myself and want to be with someone in my heart; No matter how much I despise the world, I want to hold hands seriously.
2 16, you are beyond my reach, and I am humble under your fingertips.
2 17, when two people are together, it is a matter of two people, and it needs mutual recognition to be established.
2 18, maybe the next one will be better, don't you want to try it?
2 19, the flowers are not in full bloom and the moon is not full, which is the best realm on earth. Flowers wither as soon as they open, and the full moon soon becomes incomplete. Not completely open, not completely round, will make your heart look forward to something.
I will set you free while I can still feel the same way.