When will you feel lonely when you work outside?

First of all, people are social animals. No matter whether you have money or not, high or low status, young or old, loneliness will naturally happen to everyone. If you associate loneliness with working outside (in a foreign country, a foreign land or even a foreign country), there may be many scenarios:

1. When you are sick, there is no one around to take care of you. At this time, you may feel physically and mentally exhausted, and loneliness will come to your mind for the first time. You can consider finding a caring boyfriend (girlfriend) to help you solve this problem.

2. When you are alone in festivals, such as Valentine's Day, Christmas, Dragon Boat Festival, National Day and even Spring Festival, the taste in your heart is as sour.

When your scenery is a thing of the past, your career is frustrated, and those who once surrounded you gradually alienate you and leave you, you may be more self-destructive than loneliness.

When you have a secret, but it is too private to talk to anyone (including family), you can only bear the pain or injury caused by this secret silently.

5. When a small group is excluded from business by others, but for various reasons, it is still impossible to leave this small group for the time being.

6. The days of being isolated at home due to the COVID-19 epidemic.

Above, thank you.

Working in the field itself is a kind of individual combat, and dealing with people alone is also a lonely situation. If you can adapt to this environment quickly, make good friends and get to know yourself, you will also realize that living and working in a new environment is almost the same as living and working in a familiar old environment. But loneliness is an emotion reflected in people. The author thinks that ordinary people will feel more or less lonely in the following situations.

First, when your job is successful, when you are rewarded or even promoted in the workplace, there seems to be a lack of excitement and pride for everyone because you lack the closest and favorite people around you to share.

Second: when encountering setbacks and difficulties, I can't find a friend who can communicate with me or even talk about everything. Suddenly, I will be confused and lost. You will feel lonely.

Third, when you have a lover in your heart, when you find someone to be your consultant and give you some advice, when you have no friends around, you will feel lonely.

Fourth, when there are important decisions and opportunities to choose in life, you will feel lonely because you have to be cautious, and you will have to consult others and listen to suggestions because you are helpless.

Fifth, when there are good investment opportunities and projects coming, you will be at a loss and feel lonely because there is no one to communicate and discuss.

Sixth, when you encounter setbacks in your life and workplace, you need help and solidarity in love, marriage and family, and you feel lonely because you can't find anyone to talk to.

In short, no matter what, you have a condition or advantage, and there will always be some dissatisfaction, such as people or things. It is impossible for everything to be good and everything to be smooth. Therefore, people struggle in the workplace, and behind loneliness is your road to success, success and growth. Only by paying this or that price can we cross it and overcome it. Then the loneliness you encounter is geometry in the long river of life. ...

Loneliness was when I was young, but now I am old and used to it. Besides, it is also a high-tech era. Mobile video can be used anytime, anywhere. If you are in a bad mood or miss your family, you can video chat.

The hardest thing about working outside is homesickness. Every time a fellow villager comes home, tears will come to my eyes the moment I get on the bus. Looking at the vehicles leading to my hometown on the road every day, I can't help feeling that I have knocked over the five-flavor bottle. Only I can understand the sadness, but I can only hold back my tears, live a better life for my family and assume the responsibility of being a man.

Now working outside, loneliness should be controlled by yourself. After work, you can go shopping, chat with colleagues, brush small videos and have a happy day. Why confine yourself in a small room and stay indoors, so why not be lonely? Out of the small room, the outside world is very big. Every day in Wan Li, the sun is shining and the sky is clear in Wan Li.

Happiness is a day, unhappiness is also a day, loneliness is a day, loneliness is also a day, it is better to live happily and cherish every day.

Not only working outside, but also feeling lonely around parents.

Every stage has different loneliness, which is a bad idea, but it will make you see many problems more often.

When I am single, my parents are not around. Working outside, buying food, eating and watching movies alone, no one is lonely.

In this way, you will try to change yourself, integrate into your own circle, and want to find your other half. Let yourself go further.

After marriage, I will feel fresh and tired, and occasionally I will feel tired and lonely because of the pressure of work and life. At this time, the family needs a new life and a child. Children will bring you endless happiness.

In the process of children's growth, you will also be dragged down by their education, family and heavy work. In the middle of the night, when you take this responsibility alone. You will also feel lonely, but many people will carry on with their burdens, strive for better jobs and salaries, and make their families by going up one flight of stairs.

When children grow up and leave themselves, they are not worried about their life at that time, but more about missing their children and worrying about their future. And lonely.

In fact, a person is really lonely all his life, but at different times, he has parents, relatives, friends and partners. Temporary loneliness is just a passing sight. This loneliness is just to find a better future!

It's almost impossible to notice that feeling when a person is outside and work always takes up most of the time!

Often after work, when I am free, when I think about the daily necessities in my life, I think about what to eat tonight and who I can eat with.

Or when walking in the park, watching people talking and laughing, accompanied by friends and children, I always feel that there is something missing around me;

The first level: a person goes to the supermarket; (Personally, I think this is normal! )

The second level: a person goes to the restaurant to eat; (Often eating alone)

Level 3: go to the coffee shop alone; No, but it's not bad to go to a coffee shop and read alone.

Level 4: go to the movies alone; (This may have some feelings! )

The fifth level: a person goes to eat hot pot; I went to eat hot pot alone, and when I came back from the toilet, the table was all set! )

Level 6: Go to KTV alone; (a person's carnival? Self-expression and release are still possible, not lonely! )

Level 7: go to see the sea alone; Watching the sea is also a different taste! )

Level 8: Go to the amusement park alone; Everyone's playground, a person's joy! )

Level 9: act alone; (Homeless, lonely+)

10: one person goes for surgery; I deeply understand that a person's body is the most instinctive pursuit, loneliness++)

Perhaps there are some desirable levels of loneliness above!

After all, people have social attributes. If everything is divorced from society, people will gradually realize loneliness!

The loneliest thing is to read unsigned love letters in the comment area;

The tenth is that it is dusk when you open your eyes;

Nine is to see whales when the sea is blue, deer when the forest is deep, and where to wake up without you;

Eighth, the way home was disturbed several times;

The seventh is to watch a group of people's performances, but they can't see clearly;

Sixth, a person eats, a person writes a book, and a person puzzles the years;

Fifth, riding a bicycle across a strange road and hesitating in the crowded sea of people;

The fourth is to draw a staff on white paper;

The third is to pretend to be mature and busy; Pretend to be good at being alone;

The second is to go through the lights but no one waits for me to go home;

The first is to receive a letter from a distance saying that you should take good care of yourself and don't cry when you are tired;

Loneliness is not common. If a person's heart is full and likes reading, then his spiritual world will always be rich!

But after all, it is impossible to escape the feelings of people in this society!

When a person works outside, he will feel lonely when he encounters setbacks, holidays and sadness.

However, this is your life when you grow up, and life is not always smooth sailing. This is the life you will work hard for the bread in your pocket in the future.

In today's society, most people put interests first. So when you encounter setbacks, the situation may be your own fault, someone may give it behind your back, or you may be unable to fight for it. When you sit there quietly, loneliness arises spontaneously. Don't talk about girls, maybe some seven-foot men will hide and cry alone.

On holidays, we get together, eat and have fun. But a person working outside the home may be because he doesn't earn enough money and the round-trip fare is too expensive to bear. Maybe it's because I haven't found someone yet, or maybe it's because of many family reasons that I can't get together at this time. Therefore, some people eat alone, walk alone, laugh alone and cry alone.

However, life will continue after all, and pressing the pause button can't stop. A person working outside, no matter how lonely, no matter how lonely, should also keep in touch with his family. If you have any ideas, you can talk to your family or friends. There are no obstacles.

When you work alone and feel lonely, you have to look up at the sky and look far away. The world is beautiful, and there are many beautiful things waiting for you. Loneliness is only temporary, and it is not easy for everyone. Everyone will meet their own beautiful rainbow!

When it comes to loneliness, everyone may have a different definition. People with few friends will feel lonely, and people with many friends will feel lonely.

"Loneliness" is a feeling. Sometimes it's temporary, just like some people just lost their love. Although it will be painful for a while, it will get rid of loneliness because of the arrival of the next relationship.

However, some people are accompanied by long-term loneliness. Even if the environment and interpersonal relationship have changed, their loneliness will never disappear.

So why do we feel lonely?

How did loneliness come about?

Cacioppo, a neuroscientist at the University of Chicago in the United States, put forward the viewpoint that loneliness is an evolved ability of human beings, which can help us to establish contact with others.

As early as ancient times, human beings learned to cooperate with each other and live in groups in order to survive. Those individuals who are not good at communication and live alone face a higher risk of death than those who live in groups.

Natural selection, survival of the fittest, cooperation have become the trend of evolution, and loneliness has gradually evolved into an early warning mechanism. In other words, when individual loneliness strikes, people will take the initiative to establish contact with others.

So, at what age are people the most lonely?

20 16 Mike luhmann of cologne university and Louise c hawk of the university of Chicago made an experiment with huge samples:

They recruited 16 132 experimenters, ranging in age from 18 to 103, of whom 53% (8,550) were women and 47% (7,582) were men.

They divided the experimenters into three groups:

Young people under 30 (1903)

Middle-aged people aged 30-65 (988 1)

Elderly people over 65 years old (4348 people)

After that, Mike and his colleagues measured the loneliness of the experimenter with UCLA loneliness scale, and learned about the socio-economic status, work status and social situation of the experimenter.

According to the experimental results, they drew a chart about age and loneliness:

Among them, the solid line represents the direct measurement values of all samples, and the dotted line is the adjustment value only related to age after excluding all external conditions such as the number of friends, marital status and personal ability.

First of all, look at the solid line that integrates all factors, and you can see:

People's loneliness is on the rise from 18 years old until it reaches a peak around 30 years old.

In other words, from the solid line in the chart, people around the age of 30 are the most lonely.

After that, loneliness will gradually decline, reaching a low point around 40 years old.

However, after the age of 40, loneliness is on the rise again and will reach the second peak around the age of 60. Then I reached the second trough around 75 years old.

From the age of 75, people's loneliness began to erupt and reached its peak at the age of 100.

The above is a direct measurement (that is, the solid line in the chart).

Then, excluding the dotted line of factors other than age, there is no skyrocketing as shown by the solid line after 75 years old, but it rises gently.

But before the age of 75, the trend of dotted line and solid line is basically the same, and two peaks and two valleys appear at the same age.

In other words, from the age of 18 to 75, loneliness is strongest around 30 years old.

This may not be what everyone expected.

Because generally speaking, people around the age of 30 have a wide range of contacts and are full of energy, and should not be the most lonely age.

However, the survey data shows that the 30-year-old person is probably one of the people who need to be taken care of most.

About 60 years old is another peak of loneliness.

However, with the increasing of age, at the age of 75, it becomes the least lonely time in a person's life.

It may be because at this age, people have more free time and generally don't have to continue working.

Mike and his colleagues found that the dotted line and the solid line are far apart from the group over 75 years old.

The interpersonal relationship and physical ability of the elderly are the key factors affecting loneliness.

In view of the poor personal ability of the elderly (mainly referring to physical function here), personal ability factors should also be an important reason for the rapid increase of loneliness of the elderly over 75 years old.

If the above experimental conclusion holds, then the elderly over 75 years old are the people who need to reduce loneliness most. As a young man, you need to be with them often.

It should be noted that since this experimental sample comes from the west, whether this experimental conclusion is suitable for the orientals needs more experimental data to verify.

Some people may think that loneliness is not a disease, and it is impossible to bear. If you can endure loneliness for a long time, you may be able to exercise a tough heart.

However, this is not the case.

According to the research results of Julianne and Timothy, long-term loneliness will indirectly produce many adverse effects, such as social anxiety, depression and cognitive decline.

If these negative effects are left unchecked, they may eventually deteriorate into cardiovascular diseases and endanger life.

Therefore, it is very necessary to relieve inner loneliness.

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