She casually asked me, why did you go alone? Where are your children?
I smiled and said: She is at home!
My aunt asked me again: Is it my aunt or your mother?
I said, they carry it with them.
I soon forgot. I met my aunt's daughter-in-law when I went to check early education yesterday.
She said: Did you see my mother-in-law the other day?
She scolded you when she came home, saying that when you became a mother, you left the children at home and went for a walk by yourself.
Usually I often see you come back with big bags or go out in high spirits.
Say that if you are her daughter-in-law, she will definitely say that you put your children first and will never let you do this.
I am happy to caress my chest and say, fortunately, she is not my mother-in-law. If my mother-in-law is this type, please kill me!
She was amused by me and said, I envy you for laughing like this every day.
02
I don't know her relationship with her mother-in-law, but it's hard for me to know since my mother moved in.
She had a good job and good family conditions. She asked for a new moon before giving birth.
However, my mother-in-law can't get along with Yue Yue every day.
I feel that most children are sleeping, the new moon is too idle and the salary is so high. This is simply a lie!
Because the money has been given to the intermediary in advance, I can only accept it, but I am very unhappy. I have nothing to do with it.
The next month, she was very wronged.
Originally, she wanted to ask for another two months. When the child passed three months, her mother-in-law resolutely opposed it.
Think: where is it so exquisite?
After maternity leave, she had to go back to work, so she hired a nanny to take care of the children.
In fact, her mother-in-law only needs to watch a little at home, and the nanny will take it.
But the mother-in-law is very dissatisfied with the nanny. It's not that the nanny doesn't take good care of the children, but that the nanny is lazy.
Try to interfere with her work.
Many times, she is in a meeting and her mother-in-law comes as soon as she calls.
Sometimes, she doesn't want to answer it, but she is afraid that something will happen to the real child.
But it's often just a trivial matter, or it's like suing a nanny.
Later, she installed a camera at home.
Nanny is very diligent and good to the baby, but the mother-in-law is always there to find fault.
After tossing for about half a year, the nanny couldn't stand it and offered to resign.
Mother-in-law asked her to resign and take care of the children herself.
On balance, she chose to resign and take care of the children, otherwise there would be no peace at home.
During that time, I was in a bad working mood or state, so I simply sent my children to kindergarten first.
03
Husband appreciates her efforts and sacrifices, and is more concerned and considerate to her.
They were going out to see a movie, and her mother-in-law immediately jumped out and said, is it different to watch it online? Why spend so much money?
If they still go, I'm sorry, my mother-in-law will definitely get sick then.
So, she said to me: It was a sin to meet a rigid, stingy and stuffy mother-in-law in my last life!
I often hear such accusations.
But I want to say: do you think your mother-in-law really imprisons you with old ideas because of her old ideas?
Not at all.
The fact is that their own lives are quite wronged, and they have suffered a lot of hardships and grievances, resulting in unhealthy mentality.
Therefore, when she saw that her daughter-in-law was doing well, she was not pleasing to the eye.
This has nothing to do with what kind of daughter-in-law you are, your personality and temper, and whether she is good or not.
Even if you are filial to her and considerate of her, she still doesn't like you.
That's why you can't please your mother-in-law anyway.
04
However, she can't just say:
I thought you were so happy when I was so miserable. No, you must be as miserable as I am.
Therefore, she will use high-sounding reasons such as "women should take care of their families and pay for their children" to restrain you.
Because, if she said the previous reason.
You just need to say: If you are unhappy, do I have to be unhappy? Why are you so vicious?
But if you are oppressed by your family and children, you can criticize you from the moral high ground.
Refutation will appear weak.