At the age of 30, do we want to live a stable life or pursue our dreams? Punch in on time to get married, or set up a target personality independence?
Suddenly, when people reach middle age, they are not only burdened with home loans and car loans, but also face the pressure of workplace competition bottlenecks. They are depressed, internally contradictory, physically exhausted, mentally exhausted, unwilling to fight, involuntarily anxious, dissatisfied with the past, helpless with reality, and have no confidence in the future.
Middle-aged crisis has become the living state and psychological state of many people. Do you choose the wolf system to "roll in" or the Buddha system to "lie flat"? Do you choose to wake up and reconcile with yourself, or adjust in time to find a new way out?
My friend Xiao Guo majored in music performance in college. After graduation, I worked as the head of educational administration for three years in a national chain music training and education institution in my hometown. What he saw and heard was too limited. He came to Beijing alone in spite of his parents' opposition. In order to adapt and surpass, he first worked as a salesman in a company, and then worked hard to enter a group company to do management support work. His outstanding ability was recognized by the leaders. When he saw his career prospects, after some evaluation, he resolutely resigned. He said he didn't want to live that long. As long as he could see, he would always try to give himself more choices. His parents want him to be a civil servant. He said he would take the exam when he was free, leaving himself a way out. In case he wants to go back one day, it may not be. At the age of 28, he has been chasing his dreams.
He is a dreamer and an activist. He firmly believes that what he wants to do can be achieved. He likes to challenge and try, which makes his life have many possibilities and creates many options.
My friend Xiao Zhang, a medical student, worked in the Equipment Department of Tianjin Cancer Hospital after graduation. He doesn't think this job is suitable for him. So he worked for half a year, resigned from his parents and came to Beijing to sleep on the floor of a small room rented by a friend. He applied for a job as a medical technical engineer in a medical company. The starting salary was 3500, and it was not tiring to accumulate experience all over the country. Later, I jumped ship and upgraded. Now he is the backbone of a listed company. However, he was not satisfied and began to teach himself. He usually goes home to study after working for six hours. He still attends classes at school every weekend, and even gets up early and gets greedy when writing papers. He completed MEM in June this year, and he is 30 years old.
He has a clear self-plan for his life. He is not satisfied with the status quo because he is married and has children. On the contrary, he has been making progress. He said that people have no dreams, unlike salted fish.
My friend Xiao Wang graduated from Zhejiang University and entered a Fortune 500 company. His job and income are very enviable, but his dream does not stop there. His current dream is to go abroad for development. For this dream, he never slackened off. After graduation, he still insisted on studying, further learning technical knowledge, learning English and learning everything unrelated to work. No matter how late he worked, he never went out to play on weekends and studied at home every day. Even when I was cooking, I read a few books, so the opportunity finally came two years later. Facebook in the United States has a recruitment opportunity and only one position. He stood out among many excellent interviewers. His dream has finally come true. After being arranged by the company to work in Britain for two years, I have now settled in the United States and bought a villa. The whole family lives abroad and travels around the world easily. Now he is 32 years old.
His goal is clear, and he always sticks to his dream. He believes that dreams can sacrifice all temporary happiness, leaving opportunities to those who are prepared, and fate favors those who work hard.
My colleague brother Yan returned to his hometown city in Liaoning after graduation because of his parents' physical reasons. He is well-read and has a strong working ability, but he has always had a dream in his heart, that is, to go to a bigger platform to display his ambition, to leave his wife and children behind for his dream, to go to Beijing, to go to school while working, and to study while working. He graduated from MPA of Beihang University in June this year. His 22-year-old dream was completed at the age of 37, and his career and studies were fruitful.
He said that life is a one-way trip. We can't grasp the length of life, but we can expand the depth and breadth. He is often ashamed of his ignorance. He is a teenager who keeps chasing dreams. He is always on the road.
They are all true stories around me. Whether in their thirties or middle-aged crisis, they still persist in their dreams and dare to realize them. No matter how many difficulties and obstacles they face, they will not back down. That enthusiasm, that persistence, that courage, all inspired me, and I couldn't help admiring it.
If you still have a dream, go and realize it. Dream is that as long as you dare to persist, time is only a test, and time will not be mistreated by those who have dreams.
? Grandma Moses, a world-famous American painter, was a late bloomer. He started painting at the age of 77 and held an exhibition at the age of 80. The centenarian said that life is never late, which inspired countless people.
Deshun Wang, a China drama actor, acted in a drama at the age of 24, studied English at the age of 44, created a pantomime at the age of 49, started fitness at the age of 50, created a "living sculpture" at the age of 57, rode a motorcycle at the age of 78, and walked the runway at the age of 79. Today, at the age of 84, he is still handsome on the skating rink.
In the eyes of many people, they are already dying. At this age, they should stay at home and support themselves, but they still have a dream.
As long as you have a dream, it is never too late to start. However, our generation is still in its prime. At the age of 30, we want to settle down and be comfortable. Suddenly in middle age, I dare not act rashly, keep the status quo and make a safe choice. We have long forgotten our dreams and lost our blood. Time flies, you are still waiting, you are still standing still, you are still in a middle-aged crisis, and there are still many possibilities in life. Why not fight for it? You can't open the door to the new world if you don't dare to step out of your comfort zone, you can't find a new way out if you don't dare to try, and you can only stand still if you are afraid of change.
I especially like a sentence by Czech Kerouac, an American writer, in On the Road, "While I am young, I will live for a few more years and die for a few more years. I am either destroyed or brilliant. If one day, you find me bowing in front of mediocrity, please fire at me. "
I hope we are all teenagers chasing dreams, with blood and courage, daring to try and take risks, fearless of the years, brave in chasing dreams and living up to the years.