1. What is school bullying?
Verbal humiliation, extortion, beating, physical humiliation, cyber violence, etc. , happened in the school campus, on the way to and from school, in the school's educational activities, from teachers, classmates or off-campus personnel, all count as school bullying. There are many serious violent incidents in school bullying, but there are also many hidden bullying and soft bullying.
What is implicit bullying? What is soft bullying?
Isolation and exclusion
Nicknames and insulting language, hiding things, spreading rumors, and some intentional or unintentional physical collisions, bumps and scratches.
So what should parents do in the face of these situations?
In the first case, when soft bullying happens, parents simply don't know the child's situation, only to find that the child is depressed recently, doesn't want to go to school, and his grades drop. At this time, parents may criticize their children. Why are you so ignorant? We work hard to make money every day and do so many things for you. Why don't you study hard? At this time, it often causes secondary harm to children.
The correct way:
If you and your child encounter such a situation at some stage, please ask your child calmly what happened. If it is not found and handled in time, it will cause more serious consequences.
In the second case, parents know what happened, and then go to school to find teachers and parents, ask for a seat change, and ask the bully to apologize. This situation often leads to more invisible and serious bullying.
The correct way:
Under such circumstances, it is the most fundamental and important thing to teach children how to prevent, eliminate and protect themselves.
Second, as a bullied person, how should parents and children respond?
The bullied children all have the same characteristics: generally speaking, they are timid, passive, unsociable and withdrawn to Nuo Nuo, and may be a little weak, with average grades and no bright spots in their specialties.
What should we do if we happen to meet this type of child?
First of all, what parents should do is to strengthen their children's psychological foundation and give them enough sense of security. Parents, especially mothers, should give their children unconditional love, trust and support.
The first kind of children are timid.
Usually, a child who is too obedient lacks a definite view, but on the one hand, we hope that the child will be obedient, on the other hand, we also hope that the child will not be bullied outside. How to solve these problems?
1. Give children some independent space in some trivial matters, discuss with some social life events, listen to his handling methods of this matter, and cultivate a person with his own opinions and ideas. In these processes, parents should be patient enough to let their children feel that their parents are encouraging and supporting him. He has the right to make some decisions for himself, and some of his views on things are recognized. In this way, children will have enough sense of security and self-confidence, and naturally they will change from timidity to boldness, and they will not be afraid outside.
The second kind is easy to be bullied, passive to Nuo Nuo, unsociable and withdrawn.
This kind of children usually behave as follows: when they meet strangers when they are young, they hide behind their mothers, and when they grow up, they always hide in the corner and don't communicate with others.
In the face of such children, we can adopt such methods: for example, take the children to dinner, let the children order food, communicate with the waiter and complete the payment, and so on. Every time he finished, we praised him and told him it was great. Slowly, he has the ability to communicate with others.
Children's unsociable performance: Because they are afraid of loneliness and no classmates like to play with them, they always like to take the initiative to please their classmates. Such children are often disliked by classmates at school and are always bullied, especially among middle school students.
In this case, the child usually looks very enthusiastic and loves to help his classmates, but why do classmates still dislike him and bully him?
In this case, our parents should tell their children from an early age that in this world, there are always people who don't like you and there are always people you don't like. This is normal. No matter how good you are, no matter how good the other person is, you don't have to be demanding. So, if you meet people who don't like you, you don't have to please them deliberately. What you have lost is your dignity. Don't bend down countless times to get a cold low eyebrow. Just be yourself.
The third kind of child who is easily bullied is physically weak.
In this case, our parents should strengthen their children's physical exercise, such as learning Taekwondo, playing football and keeping fit. Only in this way can he have a strong body and a strong body, and people will not dare to bully him casually.
The fourth kind of children with average or poor grades and no self-confidence
In the face of children with average or poor academic performance, we can find ways to cultivate children's same specialties, find his bright spots, and let his specialties be recognized in the class. When children are excellent in a certain aspect, their cultural achievements will be diluted.
Third, what makes children embark on the road of bullying?
Bullies who like to bully others are generally willful, arrogant or have a bad family environment, which puts too much pressure on their children and creates psychological barriers. Or only pay attention to grades and ignore moral education in school. There are also videos and games of social violence for children to imitate, influenced by bad social atmosphere and so on. Such children are often the target of public criticism, and our parents should also pay close attention to their children.
Fourth, as a bystander of bullying, how should children respond?
First of all, tell children to be kind and not bully other students. Teach our children to be a child who doesn't make trouble and is not afraid of things when things happen. If the other party accidentally touches each other, everyone should make it clear to each other and apologize. If the other party is intentional, you should tell the other party very actively and seriously; If the other person hits you intentionally, sometimes tentatively, then you must fight back and report to the teacher.
As a bystander of bullying, how should children respond?
1. Find an excuse to sneak away and call the police for help.
Rumor is a knife that kills people without seeing blood, and it will destroy a person's spirit. If rumors spread among classmates, the best way is not to argue and ignore them.
3. Don't speak ill of other students in front of them, don't tell them your privacy, and don't just send it to them in the circle of friends.