1. Take immediate action to change your appearance: get a fitness card. You should lose weight, practice yoga, and keep fit without losing weight. When you develop good exercise habits, you can not only have a good figure, but also extract the "vitality" of your body, which can bring you a good complexion and youthful vitality. In addition, a good figure and clothes will look good and bring you confidence, and the "lifeless" appearance will naturally disappear.

PS: Be sure to get a fitness card. Don't think about exercising at home. It's hard to hold on. Going to the gym every day will consume your physical and mental strength, and make you fall asleep when you get home, without thinking and getting rid of your troubles.

If you are a girl, I suggest you learn a dance: Latin dance/jazz dance/belly dance/street dance/Korean dance/whatever. It doesn't matter whether you have a foundation or not. Dance is the biggest and fastest artifact to enhance women's charm. It doesn't matter whether you learn it or not. The important thing is that you have learned. If you go to the gym, you just exercise, lose weight and keep in shape. It will unite your mind, release bad emotions, realize spiritual catharsis, and make you treat the world more peacefully in your heart ... After three months to a year of study, it will not only bring you tortuous body lines, but also make you look elegant and decent. This is "femininity".

PS: square dance is not included. ......

3. If you are not fluent in oral expression or have social phobia, you can go to an insurance company to work part-time for a while, and your spirit has improved. Going to an insurance company is not about selling or making money, but about meeting all kinds of people and practicing your language skills. Whether insurance is deceptive or not, the insurance company has a unique and practical training system, which conducts oral training, communicates with people and studies people's psychology ... and it can practice with colleagues and go to actual combat drills. I think it is of great significance to get rid of social fear from the heart! The point is, going to an insurance company for part-time work (study) is free (you can earn money if you are lucky), which is much more effective than going to any eloquence training class or social crash course alone! ! ! Time: I suggest three months.

PS: I don't sell insurance. I just think their training mechanism is very practical for introverts. Everyone has different views on insurance. If you don't agree with this industry and think it's all deceptive, you can skip it.

The above three points are suggestions for improving appearance, spirit and mind, and I hope they will help you.