At the age of 47, 53-year-old Japanese anchor Kondo made a bold decision: stop dyeing his hair and participate in the program of his former employer Fuji TV with a gray-white hairstyle.
Can you show people natural hair color before you are 50? Kondo's new style has caused a discussion of pros and cons in Japan. Some people praise her clean white hair, but in fact she is younger and more spontaneous. Her relaxed attitude is worth learning, but some people hold the opposite view. The heated discussion even made the word "white hair" a Japanese buzzword in 20 18.
Is it okay not to dye your hair under 50? Social Observation of White-haired Girl
Is a woman's hair color determined by herself? In an interview with the media, Kondo pointed out that since she stopped dyeing her hair, she has observed subtle changes in the attitudes of people around her. Hair color is not only a modeling problem, but also represents the lifestyle of women.
She smiled and said that people's reactions to a middle-aged woman's white hair can be divided into several types. One is at a loss. For example, when she attended a class reunion, her white hair stood out among women of the same age. When students see her, they can no longer say, "You haven't changed!" "Some people are even embarrassed and don't know what to say.
Another more direct reaction is to equate white hair with "old people". Kondo Ji mentioned that since she stopped dyeing her hair, no male friends would invite her to drink with her. A reporter asked her directly, "Why do you have to give up your female identity at the age of 40?" On the contrary, someone offered her seat on the tram, and a young colleague suddenly spoke to her in a respectful tone. "If you can be respected by young people, white hair seems to be good!" She said with a smile.
She observed that no matter how old she is, Japanese society still thinks that black hair is the normal hair color of women. Like her male agent, she didn't know her wife had been dyeing her hair until she saw her white hair. Even a woman who works in a bank told Kondo that because of her white hair, the guest complained to the supervisor: "Is that person's arithmetic ability ok?" Naked discrimination is very uncomfortable.
Kondo recalled that he began to grow white hair in the second half of his twenties. As long as his hair roots appeared a little white, he should go to the hair salon to blacken his hair immediately. The habit of dyeing hair has been maintained for many years. It was not until several things happened in recent years that she reflected on the necessity of dyeing her hair.
On 20 1 1 year, a 3 1 1 earthquake occurred in Japan. When preparing disaster prevention supplies, she naturally put in dyes to prevent the beauty salon from closing in case of disaster. But in retrospect, "Is it really necessary to dye your hair in an emergency?" She asked herself.
Another opportunity for her to make up her mind is that when she was broadcasting a case live, she noticed that the reporter on the spot described the female suspect in a teasing manner: "The hair is already white!" Listening to this in Kondo's ear, it feels quite harsh. "If the suspect is a male, the reporter will not describe it like this!" She thought.
She began to think, is it really necessary to hide her white hair and resist the traces of aging? In particular, she overheard a young woman's voice: "None of the female predecessors will be like her in the future."
"It would be nice if a woman who doesn't dye her hair like me could slightly reduce the age discrimination of the public." Kondo said. She hopes that she can show the younger generation that dyeing her hair black is not the only option. The negative perception of white hair in society only strengthened her belief: "This is the lifestyle I chose."
Interestingly, Kondo found that people around her were more concerned about the existence of white hair than she was. For example, when dyeing stopped at first, once white hair roots appeared, the TV assistant would take the initiative to say, "I'll help you pull them out!" " "In order not to disturb the audience, she used white hair glue and mascara to cover the white hair roots a little during the transition. After nearly a year, I can finally show people a natural gray hair.
In addition to not dyeing her hair, she further declared: In addition to being on the show and being interviewed by the media, she usually tries her best to make up and let the sensitive skin of menopause have a good rest. "This is the personal style I want now." She said.
In Japan, which emphasizes that women must always keep good manners, Kondo's opinion is quite striking. She stressed that she did not deny the meaning of "beautiful witch" at all. No matter how old you are, you want to keep a young appearance. Of course there is no problem. However, this society should allow women the right to choose not to work hard.
She pointed out that by the age of 50, most children have grown up, their family responsibilities have come to an end, and their mental and physical strength are still in good condition. This stage is a good time. Let's sort out our past life experiences and start over. Especially in this era when the average life expectancy can be as long as 100 years old, it is bound to become the future trend to keep learning and try to challenge.
Take herself for example, because she stopped dyeing her hair at the age of 47, she was concerned by the public and got many unexpected job opportunities. The change of hair color also made her try new clothes and styles, which made her feel very fresh. The end of the last stage is actually the starting point of a new journey.
She said with a smile, I hope the public can open their eyes to see white hair. Just like Guilas, the villain with half black hair and half white hair in Disney animation "10 1 loyal dog", she is actually a modern woman with strong gas field. This society should have more imagination for a white-haired woman.
She mentioned that at the age of 50, of course, she also hoped that even if she stopped dyeing her hair, she would still be a popular person-not only favored by men, but also appreciated by women. At present, she also teaches at her alma mater, Japan University. Sometimes students will sincerely praise her for her white hair and plain face: "I want to be an adult like a teacher!" " Whenever such a moment, she is always quite gratified.
Since she never dyed her hair, she said that she had more expectations for her future life.