This is the sense of ceremony, although the process seems pretentious and tacky, but without these, every day I see each other in slippers, where there is love. The long-term relationship is closely related to personal self-discipline. The strong self-discipline of a man and a woman also needs a sense of ritual to cultivate. A woman is an animal that needs a sense of ceremony, because she wants to determine the depth of her love through ceremony. Don't say that commitment is too vulgar. Without these two words, confidence will be erratic and weak.
The sense of confession ceremony is the transition from "male friend" to "boyfriend". For confession, the ceremony that the girl pursues is "He said to me personally' Be my girlfriend'", instead of coming together in a daze, because she needs to make sure that this person likes me.
If I like him too, then from now on we are lovers, a different relationship from before. The confession of boys is a sign and a ceremony to prove the upgrade of their relationship; In the eyes of girls, if boys don't even pay attention to confession, what can guarantee that they will pay more attention to managing and maintaining each other's feelings in the future?
When a love relationship develops for more than three months, it should develop from a purely emotional level to a contractual level. Love is limited to three months, no more than three months, which proves that neither side is the right person. More than three months have passed, and we have fully understood each other, and we are full of confidence to continue our contacts.
At this time, a man might as well bravely sign a love contract, such as agreeing not to quarrel more than twice a month, saying goodbye easily, spending more time with his lover and so on. Give love a promise and a ceremony to make women feel more at ease. When a man dares to introduce the person you love to the whole world, such love is more stable.
Haruki Murakami said: The ceremony is a very important thing. When walking, you deliberately squatted down to help me tie my shoelaces, which is a ceremony; When shopping, you specially remember to buy me clothes I like, which is a ceremony; The first thing you do when you cut a cake on someone else's birthday is a ceremony, which is also a ceremony to remove the plastic packaging of a new book.
Ceremony is actually to make the original monotonous and ordinary things different. Ceremony is to let us have awe of what we care about. So we will see those girls who pay attention to the sense of ceremony, eating with beautiful tableware and drinking with beautiful cups.
Wear new clothes, make confession, propose marriage, get a wedding dress, prepare romance for Valentine's Day, give gifts to each other on birthdays, go home to accompany your mother on holidays, talk about business, get a promotion and raise, and go out to celebrate. Some people think this is a close question, but in fact, it is a good management of life every day.
Ritual is our attitude towards what we revere; What is the sense of ritual in love? It is an expression of your thoughts, energy and efforts in this relationship. Love needs a sense of ceremony, because it is a woman's sense of security.
The real sense of ceremony is not for others to see, nor for anyone to satisfy and praise, but to let yourself know clearly that everything you do is what you want. Only by being yourself seriously can you have a truly ceremonial life.