Successful people are lonely. Example 1
Loneliness always sounds like loneliness and is always rejected by people.
When you get the supreme honor, but no one shares your happiness; When you are hit like never before, but there is no one to share your pain, whether you are sad or happy, you are all alone. What a disappointing and painful thing! For loneliness, people always equate it with failure and pain, and it has become synonymous with loneliness, pain and failure.
A philosopher once said: Loneliness is always the best nanny on the road of wisdom. ? Enjoying loneliness and making use of loneliness is the beginning of success. Kobe? Kobe is the best example.
NBA superstar Kobe Bryant? Kobe Bryant is the closest player to Jordan among NBA players at present. In some respects, he even surpassed Jordan and was praised by the current US President Barack Obama. The first person in basketball today? . The youngest starter in NBA history, the youngest Mr. 10000 points, the second highest single-game scoring record in history of 8 1 point, scoring 35+ in consecutive 13 games, 40+ in consecutive 9 games, and 50+ in consecutive 4 games. He is the most lonely person with three championship rings on his back.
Kobe's father used to be the lowest player in the NBA, and he was often used to balance transactions. Kobe Bryant, as a teenager, is used to constantly moving to other places with his family. As the living environment is not fixed, he has no fixed friends. He spent his childhood in Italy, a country with few Americans. Even when he was 6 years old, his Italian didn't recognize the American accent, but it didn't bring him many foreign friends. His friend still has only one basketball.
He had an indissoluble bond with basketball when he was young. Every day, he repeatedly watches the videos of the magician and Jordan sent by his grandmother from America. Under the guidance of his father's professional players, he began to receive formal basketball training and really enjoyed playing one-on-one with his father. 14 years old, completed the first dunk in his life and defeated his father.
199 1 14-year-old Kobe returned to Philadelphia with his family. The savings saved by his father's hard work in Italy were enough for his family to live a comfortable life, so Kobe began his high school life in Lomarion High School, a local aristocratic school. There are not many blacks in this aristocratic school, and Kobe, who speaks with an Italian accent, is despised by his classmates. At school, Kobe chose silence. He joined the school basketball team, and the unique style on the basketball court made him criticized by his teammates. However, he firmly believes that he will prove everything with his actions.
Every summer vacation, when classmates of the same age are playing video games, watching TV and playing in the swimming pool, Kobe has started his basketball training for 12 hours every day. At that time, his father was an assistant coach in a university, where the basketball hall provided convenience for him. Every morning, he 1 hour pedals to the basketball court and practices from 9 am to 9 pm, which is his constant life every summer vacation. So he helped Loma Rion High School win the first state league championship in 53 years. His total score in the high school league was 2,883 points, surpassing the 2,359 points set by the basketball emperor Chamberlain 40 years ago.
17-year-old Kobe did not choose to go to college, but brought his talent to the NBA and became one of the few high school students in the NBA. When he first arrived in the NBA, he suffered more loneliness. When he teamed up with O 'Neill to win the first NBA championship ring for the Lakers, the contradiction between him and O 'Neill gradually intensified. Team owner O 'Neill is not satisfied with just taking a few photos. The only reason he was angry was that Kobe didn't pass the ball. Team coach Phil? Jackson also tried every means to make Kobe give in. He even secretly helped O 'Neill form a gang with Rilla and deliberately isolated Kobe. So the locker room was frolicking, and Kobe could only watch silently but could not participate.
However, all these make Kobe ushered in the necessary self-abuse training every summer. He shoots crazy 1000 times a day and practices one-on-one attack and defense with his own shadow. He always adheres to an unwritten rule: if he can't communicate normally, he will conquer it with his own actions. However, he can only rely on himself, because no one on the team will pass the ball to him except Malone, George and Fisher.
At several important stages of his life, Kobe is always lonely. Maybe you will say that this has developed Kobe's arrogant and paranoid personality, but hasn't it also created Kobe? If Kobe never lacked friends and was never lonely when he was growing up, would he still insist on training 12 hours every summer vacation? Will he shoot 1000 times in the summer after each season? Will he still regard basketball as his life? All this will become so unknown. Maybe he will. But maybe he won't.
Huxley said:? The greater and more original people are, the more lonely they like. ? Yes, when Madame Curie refused to put an extra chair at home, she accepted loneliness. When Einstein said to a friend at a party, I would like to go back and be a cow that eats grass? When he chooses to be lonely. They are all great scientists in human history. Goethe said: people can learn in society, however, inspiration will only appear when they are lonely. ? Think about it, how many literary and art workers are lonely, and how many literary and art workers started writing late at night?
Nansen said: The first important thing in life is to find yourself, so people need to be lonely and thoughtful from time to time. ? Yeah, right? Lonely? What is the definition of this word in the dictionary? Are you alone? . When we are alone, we can think more calmly about what we really want; A person, we have more time and freedom, do what we want and vent our dissatisfaction; A person can face up to himself, face up to his shortcomings and find his own advantages; A person, or let yourself get rid of dependence, to mature and enjoy.
As the old saying goes:? Diligence treads the rugged road, and loneliness makes Ling Yunzhi. ? This should be? Loneliness is the beginning of success? The best interpretation of it! The success of Kobe Bryant, Madame Curie, Einstein and other lonely people tells us that loneliness is actually just a state of mind, just how we look at it.
Successful people are lonely. Example 2
Colombian writer Garcia? Marquez is famous for his masterpiece One Hundred Years of Solitude. It was selected as One Hundred Years of Solitude by Swiss Weekly 1996. The greatest writer of our time? . Borges, the master of magical realism literature, also said? Marquez is the Shakespeare of Colombia. ?
Fascinated by the Arabian nights? University questioner?
1927 On March 6th, Marquez was born in Aracataka, a small town in Colombia and the Caribbean. Because his parents were busy having children, Marquez basically lived with his grandparents until he was 10.
As a colonel's grandfather, he not only had at least 19 illegitimate children, but also participated in and directed the famous Columbia? The Thousand-Day War? . Grandma, who loves divination and fortune telling, often tells ghost stories full of dead people and often scares Marquez out of breath.
One day when he was nine years old, Marquez found a fragmentary Arabian Nights in his grandfather's box. When he read that a man opened the bottle cap and a puff of smoke came out, and the smoke became a monster again, Marquez couldn't help crying? Isn't it amazing? . Since then, neighbors have often seen Marquez, who is only eight or nine years old, fondle admiringly literary works such as "One Thousand and One Nights" and "Grimm's Fairy Tales" in the unbearable heat of ordinary people. They asserted:? Will this child become a great scholar in the future? .
1February, 947, Marquez enrolled in Columbia Round University to study law.
One afternoon in mid-August, in the cold student apartment of the school, Marquez sat on the bed and opened Kafka's Metamorphosis. Inspired, Marquez almost jumped up and shouted: What a fucking cow! My god, how can a novel be written like this? In this way, I can also write grandma's story like this. ?
The next day, based on Kafka's inspiration, Marquez finished his first novel The Third Helplessness. Since then, Marquez has made up his mind to be a great novelist. From the Bible to ancient Greek and Roman mythology, from Kafka to Tolstoy, he has been absorbing the nourishment of the world literary giants and preparing to explode in the world literary world.
Fall into Paris and meet Hemingway in the street.
From 65438 to 0955, Marquez, who worked as a reporter for the Observer, the second largest newspaper in Colombia, was sent to Europe. 1956, the newspaper was blocked, Marquez suddenly lost his fixed income, and his life was in a comprehensive predicament.
While in Paris, Marquez met his idol, the American writer Hemingway. One day, Marquez saw Hemingway and his wife walking in St. Michel Street. Excited or shy, Marquez stood motionless on the opposite sidewalk, just rolled his hands into horns and shouted, Teacher? Hemingway turned smartly, waved and replied, Goodbye, my friend? . At that time, Marquez was obsessed with The Old Man and the Sea. Hemingway certainly didn't expect that this stranger would stand shoulder to shoulder with him in the world literary world one day.
I can't afford the postage for sending the manuscript.
After that, Marquez traveled to Venezuela, Colombia and other places for many years, continued to engage in news and writing, and once worked for the Latin American news agency under Castro.
1965, Marquez quit his job in an advertising company, gave all his $5,000 property to his wife Mercedes, and began to write "One Hundred Years of Solitude" alone.
During 18 months of writing, Marquez didn't know how his wife raised money to make a living. By the middle of the novel, the $5,000 that Marquez gave Mercedes had been spent, so they had to become a car. Soon there was no money, and Mercedes began to do jewelry, television and radio. Only her husband never lacks newsprint.
Finally, when the manuscript was finished, Marquez and his wife went to the post office and sent the paper draft of One Hundred Years of Solitude to a publishing house in Argentina. After weighing the 700-page manuscript, they were told that the postage needed 83 pesos, while Marquez, who was at the end of his tether, only had 45 pesos. The couple must mail some manuscripts first. Later, Mercedes pawned the remaining hair dryer and juice juicer to the children, and then exchanged 50 pesos to pay for mailing the remaining half of the manuscript.
Successful people are lonely. Example 3
In the eyes of many people, loneliness? Maybe it has nothing to do with Liu Tong: Liu Tong, height1.78m, in his own words? Is it still beautiful? , published a book, 33 years old, served as the vice president of the light media division, and his work was quite successful. Gao Shuai Ritchie? . But like most post-80s generation, he also experienced the confusion of youth and hesitation in choosing a job. Although I have been pretending to be smart for a long time, I always feel that I am out of place in this world.
Talking about high school, Liu Tong said it was a time of insecurity and existence. Male students have ADI and Nike's sportswear and sneakers, but he doesn't. When boys play basketball, he helps buy water and puts it aside. ? At that time, I wanted to join my classmates' discussion and cut in, but no one cared, and I was very lost. ? Liu Tong does the most? 250? In order to make friends, he wrote a small note to the physical education Committee in his class: Hello, can I be your best friend in my life? After reading it, the other party threw it directly into the trash can.
Apart from no friendship, Liu Tong and his father had little communication in high school. To his father, Liu Tong is a person who watches TV all day, but he still watches it when there is no TV program. On the contrary, for Liu Tong, he is a child who finishes his homework at 8: 30 every night and watches TV sleepily until midnight 12 in order to wait for his father to come back and chat with him.
One day, Liu Tong wrote a proposition on a piece of paper: whose 17 years old is worse than me? He also listed them one by one? The worst? A few things: never have pocket money; Always wear the same clothes; Boys don't treat me like a boy; Girls don't treat me like a boy; My parents ignored me; The teacher ignored me.
He looked at these six things and suddenly found a connection. Finally, he came to a conclusion that because of poor grades, teachers, parents and classmates ignored him and had no pocket money. ? At that time, I was really enlightened, as if I had seen through the essence of life. ?
After finding the source of his troubles, Liu Tong began to try to change. I want to feel the feeling of getting good grades. .
Try to change
At that time, Liu Tong was a senior three, and he began to study mathematics that he had not studied since high school. Following the teacher's review rhythm, he bought three sets of problem sets, and each time he reviewed a section, he asked himself to finish all the problems. After a while, Liu Tong ranked in the top three in the math summary exam.
Liu Tong attaches equal importance to Chinese and other subjects. The Chinese score has improved from the original 80 points to the best 137 points, and the worst is not lower than 120 points. When the teacher said to Liu Tong? Come to me if you have any questions in the future. He felt respect. I really don't want to laugh, I want to cry? .
Through such an attempt to change, he understood a truth: a person must rely on ability to do something. If you doubt your ability, everything will be different just by changing your way of thinking a little.
When he was a freshman, Liu Tong kept a diary every day, and every diary would discuss a question he couldn't figure out. When he writes all the questions in his diary, a conclusion will be formed in the diary, that is, these things will be handled in this way in the future. Solving one problem every day, more than 300 problems a year, four years in college is 1000 problems. Young people don't have that many problems. At most, there are four or five aspects: family, friendship, love and future. Each category may have 100 questions. ? After four years of college, as long as you focus on yourself and solve problems every day, many problems will be solved once or twice after four years of college. When you face many puzzles in life, including the interviewer giving you a hard time, you can answer him quickly. ?
Since then, with the increase of experience, Liu realized that all kinds of loneliness are actually invisible and selfless growth. As written in the new book, loneliness is one of Liu Tong's most recognized emotions. After experiencing loneliness, there will be new strength. He explained:? It feels great to be alone. That's not failure, but the best time to talk to yourself. ?
The charm of writing
The 33 stories told in Your Loneliness cover many sectors of your life, including emotions, although they are still glorious. Not only did I recall tossing and turning on the eve of college commencement, but I pretended to be chic on the day of graduation. Instead, I poured out my emotions at the moment when I picked up my suitcase and turned around, and sincerely told my experience of persistence and compromise in the workplace. Liu Tong said that he wrote books not to show off his privacy, but to give readers another perspective. Only responsible for analysis, not for giving answers? .
In his view, writing a book is more about summing up opinions and telling yourself what to do next. The development of some things may not be clear enough before, but after reaching self-dialogue through writing, you can slowly find a solution. The final conclusion may be? Yeah, why not? When facing the same problem again, I will have a code of conduct and won't waste more time. ?
Writing is of great help to Liu Tong's work. I participated in the program Otawa Entertainment in my early years, and occasionally I was bored. Writing a book is a very important thing for him. Is it cool? Only by writing something every day, finally compiling it into a book, or sending a column, can we know what is left over this year. He concluded:? Doing TV is an art of regret, and writing can leave many precious things behind. ?
The process of naming the new book also took a lot of trouble. ? At first, I thought the current name was very melodramatic. At first, they designed more than 200 names for the book, and the discussion lasted so long that the participants almost collapsed. I want to name it? Alone, are you okay? Feeling up, I wrote some feelings about loneliness in Weibo, which coincided with the World Cup, and almost every game was over. Did anyone mention it? Although defeated, it is still glorious? Four words, and then simply named? Your loneliness, though defeated, is glorious? . ?
In his view, although the book Your Loneliness has failed, it is suitable for reading in a person's state. For example, when you want to talk to yourself, you feel confused or have problems that are difficult to think clearly. Because some sentences in the book easily resonate with readers' emotions? .
a peaceful state of mind
As far as Liu Tong is concerned, the first few years of integration into the new environment are lonely, such as the first two years of college and the first five years of work. At that time, I didn't know if I would fit in or which group you liked. .
? Everyone will face loneliness when they grow up. ? Liu Tong said that his solution to this problem is to devote his energy to what he likes, such as work and writing. These two things can make him settle down quickly. Besides, I will keep fit, listen to music or hang out, and even go on business trips.
? I have been in Guangli 10 years, and I have hardly traveled before. From the age of 30 to 33, it takes three years to control your life and have the opportunity to go out. ? Liu Tong said with a little regret.
Because of her poor English, Liu Tong often does not travel alone, but has also been to countries around China. Therefore, he had to treat every business trip as a trip. After finishing the work at hand, he went to a place for one day and left the next day. During this time, I will walk in the alley and eat food stalls. Where there are many people, he said. Then I'll feel like a local, not a passing tourist. ?
Maybe that's why Liu took this opportunity to relax. When he hears the business trip notice, will he? Very tall? . In order to nourish his spirit, he usually sleeps mainly on the plane. When boarding the plane, he will bring a lot of equipment to sleep on the plane, including earplugs, eye masks, pillows and sometimes a bottle of water. He said that basically putting these four things in place, the journey on the plane can be spent quickly, and then you can write and listen to songs when you wake up.
If he spends more than two hours on the plane, Liu Tong will also use this time to write or revise the manuscript. Every time a book is published, the publishing house will print the first draft into a thick copy for him to revise on the plane. However, Liu Tong said that his writing work was mainly done at home. After 12 pm, you will write for about an hour? .
? I still have some columns to write, but I am too busy to publish books too often. ? Liu Tong is very busy, but he still likes to separate his work from his writing.