When a woman reaches marriageable age, she will be urged to get married by her family. Tired of being urged, I have the urge to find a man to marry.

However, you are not reconciled. The figure is not bad, the appearance is not bad, and the education is not low. Why haven't you met someone who loves you? I think maybe the "love for business" is too low.

Two days ago, I read the book how to make the person you love fall in love with you by Leil Lowndes, an international emotional expert. Now let me talk about my own experience.

The book says that most people marry people who are close to them, with an average distance of five blocks. This phenomenon is called "living near".

How big are those five blocks? Blocks are large and small, and the distance between four intersections is one block. In this case, five blocks can't be calculated by any means, unless the two districts are separated by a road.

Well, Shanghai Xuhui will look for it in Xuhui, Changning will look for it in Changning and Putuo will look for it in Putuo. Haha, just kidding!

Xin-er believes that on the one hand, we don't have to go further and further. Who says rabbits can't eat grass beside their nests? Even in the same company, if you meet the right person, you will boldly confess. After all, job-hopping is easy, it is difficult to meet the right person, and it is even more difficult to meet the person who loves. Don't miss the right one.

On the other hand, enlarge the circle and don't think about "five pieces". Shanghai is so big (as it is elsewhere), who can guarantee which district their relatives are in?

However, you can find whoever you want. For example, if you want to find a person who loves reading, you often go to the library, bookstore and book club. It's hard to find you in bars often. If you want to find a good individual, go to the bubble gym, where you may meet your model; If you like traveling, and I hope he does, then you should pack your bags, make an appointment with a donkey friend, and travel as soon as you say you want. Maybe yours is on his way, too.

The world is so big, I believe there is always someone waiting for you there, waiting for your appearance. China people say that "a thousand miles of marriage is tied by a thread", so they walk five blocks.

Anyway, the right person is not at home. Spring is just right, and spring is strong. Honey, get out. This is a season of love. Don't miss the beauty of spring!

The focus of the book is how to get the other party to call themselves. Let me talk about the following points:

0 1. Dress appropriately

Who let this be an era of looking at faces? Don't you want to see more about Song Joong Ki and Qiao Mei?

Zhang Ailing once said, "Don't expect men to fall in love with you because of your spiritual beauty. In fact, it is very important to repair your spiritual beauty, but it takes time to discover. "

So, dear, please remember to make yourself an elegant and unique makeup. For girls, lipstick plays a decisive role in their first impression. So, girls, if you are really in a hurry, please be sure to put a lipstick in your bag. Critical moments will add a lot of color to you.

02. Love each other forever.

Venus said that women should dress up when they go out to take out the garbage. Maybe you meet love around the corner, who knows? It is very important to stay beautiful and love each other at all times.

03. first meeting

Refuse to be shy, please smile and stare into the eyes of the right person boldly, strongly and gently. It is said that this will produce a chemical called phenylethylamine in his body, which will make people feel in love. When you have to look away, you should be reluctant to go.

Soften the heart of the right person. Use body language to convey your good feelings for him, such as smiling, leaning forward, occasionally touching casually, making eye contact, nodding and so on.

04. Preliminary conversation

Find the right person's interest and discuss the other person's favorite topic. Judging whether he is interested in it by observing his body and expression.

If his eyes stay on your face for a long time, it shows that he is interested in this topic; If you leave you, you need to change the subject.

Even if you know each other for a few minutes, try to express it with "we" to speed up the intimate relationship.

Make yourself sound confident, love life and sunshine. We are all attracted by confident and enthusiastic people, so try to make your tone warm and pleasant!

05. dating

China people are more introverted. Americans don't suggest playing hard to get from the beginning, but let each other know that although it is difficult to catch, it is an exception. I think it varies from person to person. People with thin skin and low self-esteem may miss you and this fate.

Work with him and take part in an activity, such as watching a ball game, instead of sitting at the dinner table chatting, chatting and chatting all the time.

I still remember that year in Dalian, I went to see a ball game with him, Dalian Shide vs Beijing Guoan. Many years later, he still remembers the way I watched the ball that day.

So, honey, if you meet someone you like, work with him. Besides watching football matches, you can also hire jiaozi to teach you or make cakes. Only by doing things together can we find the joy of life. In the future, when he encounters the same situation, he will naturally think of you and the little things you have together, which can't be given by sitting there chatting.

Find an elegant and cheap restaurant. Exquisite pictures and gorgeous curtains will make men and women look more beautiful. I met someone I like. We have been to a tourist-themed restaurant, which is not expensive, but very chic. From the decoration style of the store to the dishes, we can see that the host is very careful, and there will be singers singing at 8 pm. I think he will remember that night now.

A man may fall in love with a woman because of her beauty, but it must be more than beauty that can make love last forever.

Woman, you should dress like a woman, laugh like a woman and talk like a man, but you should think like a man and pay more attention to information about politics, computers, cars and sports, so that you will never worry about not having the same topic with him.

In the process of communication, remember to always maintain his self-esteem, and don't do or ask anything that makes him look like a fool. Men sometimes value self-esteem more than life.

If you admire him, praise him and agree with him, you will get his gratitude and he will fall in love with you.

Lill talked about the theory of equivalence in her book. The more balanced your capital, the easier it is for others to fall in love with you. The more equal the quality of two people, the more likely they are to get married. This is what we in China call appropriateness, right?

Advocates of equivalence theory value six elements: appearance; Materials or property; Status or fame; Knowledge or learning; Social style or personality; Character. In the happiest intimate relationship, the above elements are more or less equal. Even if each item is not equal, it can make up for each other and achieve balance as a whole.

Although this book gives some advice on the bad side of imbalance, it is only balanced at first glance. The bad side still has a long way to go.

Women, if they want not to live in inferiority, anxiety and uneasiness, still need to constantly cultivate themselves, so that the initial balance will eventually become a real balance.

We all look forward to the marriage of "holding your hand and growing old with your son" and hope that the people we love will love us forever. Every time I see a happy marriage ending, I can't help feeling sorry.

One of the reasons for divorce is sexual disharmony.

Lill doesn't talk about all kinds of sexual skills in the book, because everyone is unique, and all you have to do is give him the way he wants.

A friend once said that he divorced his wife because she called him a pervert when he wanted to change his posture or let his wife wear sexy underwear. He can't understand, let alone accept that his wife is so conservative. Finally, they parted ways, though, he loved her.

People in China often talk about transsexuality. The original pure sex education is also considered contemptible. Sex is a very important part of marriage and we can never avoid it. However, some people would rather lose their marriage and love than change a little.

I saw this passage two days ago: A man can leave a beautiful woman or a gentle woman, but he can't leave the woman who makes him happy.

If you want others to be happy, you must be happy first. Have your own hobbies, your own circle, do what you like, and try to be an interesting and happy woman.

Wandering outside the besieged city, I have never met the right person, and I am always a little bit worse. Whether someone comforts you or comforts yourself, it may mean that fate has not arrived.

I believe in fate, but I believe that only when I get better and better can I keep my destiny.

Freud said that romantic love is mysterious, and an article or a book is not enough to tell us all the skills of love.

But I have always believed that no matter what kind of love and skills, you need a sincere heart.

Let's have a heart that loves him, a better and better self, and finally have our own real happiness with that little skill!

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