The following are strangers you may meet in the future. For reference, you can get to know them:
An analysis of the types of communication with strangers
● Like-minded type
Also known as the mutual appreciation type. If we all like literature and skating, we are all rock lovers ... Sammi, who just attended the gathering of game allies, told reporters that the so-called gathering is just for "matching seats" for their respective roles in the game. After getting to know each other and playing roles, everyone will smile and still call each other by their names in the game. The so-called real name, age and occupation are not within the scope of communication, and no one will ask. As soon as the party was over, everyone was still like strangers, fighting side by side again at the moment of networking.
Features: Because of the same role or mission, they only communicate in specific fields. In addition to this field, they deliberately maintain a strange relationship with each other, which will not be overstepped or intimate.
● Communicative type
Strong purpose (such as business needs), because work communicates with strangers, and they are linked to each other to realize their own organizational interests. For example, the addition of MSN contacts-in order to complete a job, you may have several contacts at once, and once the job is over, you will turn a blind eye to the contacts, even if you are online, you will never say hello ... until the next task begins.
Features: The purpose of this relationship is clear, and there is no consideration other than work.
● Mutual assistance type
Mutual tourism (exchange tourism) is a typical example of this type. Personal contacts on the Internet are used to travel and two strangers in two cities help each other in two directions. This new wave is sweeping the world.
Jay is in Beijing and wants to travel to Sanya in the summer vacation. She met Ivy, a Sanya netizen who wants to go to Beijing through the Internet. Jie and Ivy hit it off and decided to help each other. Therefore, Jie was solely responsible for the accommodation of Ivy when she came to Beijing, and acted as her temporary tour guide, so the accommodation expenses of Jie when she went to Sanya were also saved because of Ivy's return.
Features: mutual aid pays the most attention to credit, which is beneficial to both sides and has the best of both worlds. It is becoming a popular way to communicate with strangers.
Low one-way communication type
As mentioned above, when you are depressed, ask the taxi driver to be a temporary listener, or call the hotline for * * *.
Features: one person confides mainly, and the object selection is more random.
Low one-to-one type
Because of loneliness or emotional needs, take the initiative to strike up a conversation or wait to be struck up in some public places, such as bars, discos and high-end fitness places.
Features: for the purpose of chatting, there is no responsibility and psychological burden to meet.
Strangers the radio host met.
Interviewee: Mr. Sha, a freelance media person/artist agent.
Because of his professional relationship, Sha Bao Fei often deals with strangers. She once hosted a program on the radio from 0: 30 to 0: 30 in the evening 12: 30. Every night, many people with hidden worries call her to chat, although this kind of chat is more just a kind of talk. They will give themselves a strange name whose identity no one can guess, such as "QQ Sugar" and "Prawn". Because their identities are relatively secret, all their emotional encounters and work puzzles are no longer secrets, and they are still enthusiastic even if they can't be solved. Shafeibao himself enjoyed meeting different strangers, and both sides felt a little satisfied at the moment when the line was closed.
The following is a conversation between the reporter and Shafeibao:
Q: What do you think of interacting with strangers?
A: There are too many right and wrong around modern people. For example, in the same circle, A knows B, B knows C, and C and A have a certain origin ... The privacy that was unintentionally snooped will be complicated by the multi-party communication between people. Too close a relationship often leads to something unrecognizable. With strangers, there will be no such problems, so I feel very relaxed.
Q: Will you leave a phone number for the audience?
A: Well, I will selectively tell some people ... those sincere listeners! However, this kind of contact is limited to telephone contact and will not meet. They will "report" my study and work from time to time, with pure motivation. In addition, some listeners will call the radio station after the show, hoping I can continue chatting with them, haha ... it's quite fun.
Q: Do you have any experience in dealing with strangers?
A: Of course! I used to have a "telephone friend" in middle school. I keep calling when I'm bored, and I've never seen them. Very interesting. Now, I have "empathy" with a foreigner (laughs)! The other party is a friend of a friend, although he is in a strange place and has never met before ... >>
Question 2: How to chat with people you don't know, ask the time and chat angrily?
Question 3: How to chat with people you don't know online, especially after you add 20 points of beauty? Try not to talk to her first, let her talk to you first, and then talk about the topics she is interested in.
Question 4: How to chat with girls you don't know? What's the first sentence? Previously, Tango, a well-known girl killer, mentioned the girls she just met in Bad Boys: Chatting Skills, and left phone calls with each other in a hurry, with limited understanding of each other. How to chat with MM through SMS? Because the sense of security established by chatting up is not very high, it is not suitable to enter the pursuit procedure immediately after meeting. First, list some wrong SMS chat methods to see if you have been shot. ...
When PS develops to a certain extent, it is time to strike while the iron is hot. Please see advanced chapter C. If you want to marry a foreign wife, you must have 20 romantic confessions.
Some wrong ways to chat by SMS:
Cut to the chase: "Are you free for dinner today?" (Too anxious, no bedding, girls generally don't like it, of course, there are also very manly people who will be willing. )
Household registration management type: "hello, my name is xxx, I work in yyy, zzz." Nice to meet you. " It's not like a person, it's a computer program. )
Be caring and attentive: "The lowest temperature tomorrow 1 degree, and the highest temperature 13 degree. Caring about the weather means caring about yourself. Don't forget to add one more dress. " Do we know each other? )
Joke: "Chimpanzees accidentally stepped on a bench pulled by gibbons. After the gibbon cleaned it gently and carefully, they fell in love. When asked how they got together, the chimpanzee said with emotion: ape dung! It's all ape dung! " Forwarding humorous news is a low-level performance that makes everyone laugh. )
Narcissism: "If one day, you feel tired, as long as you turn around, my blessing will be by your side. No matter how far away, no matter how many years, this blessing will turn into a blue star, flashing in the morning, flashing in the evening and flashing in every corner of your life." (mental derangement! )
Endlessly asking: "What should I do?" (Watching TV) "What program are you watching?" (If you are the one) "Is it interesting?" (Not bad) "What should I do after reading it?" (... the woman finally stopped answering her text messages)
What's more, it drags English: "Hey, what are you doing now? Close your eyes and I will be by your side, thinking of you day and night!" " (I don't comment)
Dear, if you have done these stupid things, please read on.
When it comes to how to send text messages to unfamiliar girls correctly, we must first understand the differences in thinking between the two sexes.
Sasha and Fangfang are together
Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday. It was beautiful."
Fangfang: "I saw a windbreaker in Dongdan the day before yesterday, and I like it very much."
Sasha is with her boyfriend.
Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday. It was beautiful."
Boyfriend: "How much is it?"
For millions of years, men have been quietly waiting for prey in the grass, and women have been chatting with children in caves. Men and men cooperate because of a clear goal, and then start to act silently after consultation. It is normal for women and women to come together because of the same situation, and it is normal to talk about each other's state and feelings. Therefore, men are projection thinking and women are mapping thinking. To this day, we will watch it.
Up to now, two men can go fishing without saying a word, but they can spend an afternoon squatting by the pond. Two women go shopping, even if they don't buy anything, they will talk all day.
Look at the examples of Sasha and Fangfang.
Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday. It was beautiful." (where to see something, this is the state; What is particularly beautiful is the feeling. )
Fangfang: "I saw a windbreaker in Dongdan the day before yesterday, and I like it very much." Women seem to be chatting happily, but in fact they are all talking about their own affairs. )
Sasha is with her boyfriend.
Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday. It was beautiful."
Boyfriend: "How much is it?" (Go directly to the problem solver)
Men talk to solve problems, while women talk to describe themselves in problems. Men don't know how to chat with unfamiliar girls because they accept the influence of sexual thinking. He will think: anyway, that's what we are actually doing, or we can meet directly; Or "giving gifts", that is, showing concern; Or "let her know how strong my hunting ability is", which is called display value. In fact, these are all purposeful behaviors. For a woman, unless she is willing to let you enter the pursuit process, it will resist men's purposeful behavior. The relationship between street and street is just not suitable for immediate pursuit, so this is also the fundamental reason why many chat-up offenders are unfavorable in the future.
There is a phenomenon that the active party will adapt to the thinking mode of the passive party. As a male ... >>
Question 5: How to start chatting with strangers? 1. The first thing to do is to adjust your cowardice and open your mind. At any time every day, stand in front of the mirror and talk to yourself first. Pretend there is someone in the mirror you want to communicate with. When communicating, you should ask and answer, even if it is nonsense, but you must ensure that you have questions and answers. Don't be afraid of being called crazy. If someone says you, you fight back. Haven't you ever seen such a fluent speaker? I'm not teasing you. This is really a good method. I tried it myself. This will exercise your keen thinking ability. It is actually more difficult for a person to talk to himself than to talk to strangers. ) 2. When you are unfamiliar, but want to communicate with him/her or have to communicate with him/her, take the initiative to say hello first, so that you will have a sense of time advantage psychologically. When communicating with people, pay attention to listening and don't speak too loudly. A tone like spring breeze will make people feel comfortable communicating with you. However, it is also necessary to properly understand the changes in pronunciation and intonation (it is not good to watch cross talk more when you have time, but it is good in tone control). In addition, you should have a certain sense of humor (remember not to be garrulous), which will obviously narrow the distance between the two sides. A person who knows how to make the other person laugh is also a person who can break the psychological defense of the other person. 4. When communicating with people, you should also pay attention to your eyes. You can try to look at the tip of your partner's nose or eyebrows, which will not only relieve the pressure of not looking at him, but also make him think you are looking at him. Smile when you speak, and a serious facial expression will make people "scared"! 5. Find a topic that * * * likes. This person is someone you just met. Don't talk too much for the first time, or others will think you talk too much. Because you are a new acquaintance, you should mainly tell others, but when others ask you, or when you should make a statement, you should make a statement, understand? . . 6 find some advantages and praise him first.
Question 6: How to chat with strangers! How to make friends with strangers In fact, you can talk with strangers more casually, but pay attention to each other's performance when you speak. If people don't like it, you must stop talking about it In addition, we should read more newspapers and pay attention to the news and all walks of life, so that we can chat with strangers more. Of course, it is best to say what the other person knows and likes, then you can speak very well, but it needs to be really versatile.
First of all, don't treat him as a stranger.
Secondly, don't pay special attention to his eyes, because looking at a person's eyes for a long time will make him nervous, and looking at his forehead or nose or face will relax.
Finally, talk eloquently between people you know, and you will be very comfortable in front of strangers.
Be sure to find the right topic, don't generalize, you will feel as if you are dealing with each other and say some polite words. That will make people feel that you are just staying at a very shallow level, talking about topics that we both know better, and you will feel as if you have met someone you know very well.
Many people have this experience. When they walk into a strange room or meet an unfamiliar person, the most they say to themselves is: "How can I break the deadlock and make friends?"
When I'm alone, sometimes I suddenly think, "Oh, I spoke so suddenly that day." Or: "Oh, why did I say something that ruined the atmosphere?" When I think about it, I really want to bite off my tongue. However, there is no regret medicine in the world. We can only use regret to remind ourselves that we can't do it again. But in this case, I often make myself very nervous and even afraid of dating strangers.
How to avoid this embarrassment? Don't worry, now we'll teach you a few tricks, so that you can easily cross the fence with others and be a woman with a flow of words in the future, whether in the workplace, at parties or around friends.
One of the secrets: introduction by strangers
How can you make others think that you are a taciturn person at a party like a concentration camp for beautiful women and handsome men? Don't say there is no one you know here. In fact, some people who look very close are probably new friends. As long as you say the first sentence bravely, you have already succeeded halfway.
First of all, you can observe people around you (or people you are interested in) to see if they have anything special, such as exotic accessories or a watch that you also like very much. Talking about these details may immediately interest them. It's best to choose a lively topic, and a happy smile will instantly pull you away.
When you meet people who are interested, in order to pave the way for the second meeting, you might as well call them by their first names and tell some harmless jokes and stories to leave a relaxed and harmonious impression on each other.
Or, be a friendly listener and let them talk more, then you can ask your own questions appropriately, and men will be happy to answer them for you, and then you can join their topic smoothly.
But it should be noted that in conversation, try not to ask questions that can only make people answer yes orno. In that case, it is tantamount to killing your conversation. Give people space to start a topic. Besides, don't say anything too casually, otherwise you may offend your new friends and make all your previous efforts useless.
The second secret: a shortcut to finding a job.
When you step into the interview room, will your heart beat faster to 120 beats/second? No matter how amiable the interviewer looks, everything he says will still make your palms sweat. Every question you ask him gives you a headache, but it may still be irrelevant ... what should I do?
The interviewer's first impression of you is very important. Make a little prelude with him before the formal interview begins. I can give you an impression.
You can find some emotional and relaxed topics, and it's best for you to see some of his hobbies (for example, his wheat-colored skin shows that he loves outdoor sports very much, and the obvious E-era characteristics in his speech tell you that he is also an Internet person). Try to have a chat with him, and remember that in the process of chatting, you should respond to his words in time and say something that won't "bump into" yourself, so that he can improve his attitude towards you. ...& gt& gt
Question 7: How to chat with strangers on QQ? A: Hello.
B: You are better.
I think we know each other.
B: No way.
A: Hehe, I didn't know him before, but now I know him.
B: Oh.
Let's get to know each other. I want to know you because I think: you should be my future friend. ...
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Question 8: How to chat with strangers? Make others feel relaxed to chat with you. Hello, first of all, you should simply analyze the situation of the stranger you want to strike up a conversation with: male or female, old or young, what occupation, education level and economic situation.
Through the above analysis, you probably have your own judgment about this person, the type you want to contact, and of course you know what to talk about.
The topic is one person. It's best to start with the weather, start from your own interests, talk about yourself first, and then inquire about the order of others, so that the other party can feel that you are sincere, and then talk about the basic topics after letting go of your guard.
Question 9: People who have no love experience ask for advice: How to chat with girls who don't know themselves? From a girl's point of view, I know more about girls' psychology. Most girls don't take the initiative to pursue the boys they like, unless they really like them too much or are the kind of girls who are very brave and brave. So, if you like a girl very much and think she is a little interested in you, take the initiative and don't engage in a tug-of-war with her, you will feel uncomfortable. Maybe the person you like will also suffer.
When girls are being chased, their psychology is very complicated. She may be happy, but she is a little scared. She has ambivalence towards the boy who intruded into her quiet life. She didn't mean to. Don't think she is testing you, but she is actually fighting herself. She is afraid of getting hurt.
Don't be afraid that your initiative will bring her disgust. If you don't take the initiative, she won't take the initiative, and it will fade slowly. It's normal if your initial confession is rejected by her. Don't be discouraged, who knows what this girl is thinking?
Maybe if you confess twice, she will be moved by you. A good girl with a kind heart is easily moved.
Question 10: How do you know someone when chatting with strangers like this? Among all kinds of conversation objects, strangers who know nothing about them are the most confusing, boring and embarrassing.
We must have the desire to talk to strangers. Making yourself happy to talk to strangers is the key to solving this difficult problem. Many people are afraid to participate in the conversation with strangers present, and some people even say nothing when they meet strangers. This is actually unwise. We only have a little memory. Aren't our most familiar old friends strangers when we first met? If we refuse to talk to all strangers, how can we have our own friends? Giving up all opportunities to make new friends easily sometimes makes us regret for life.
The biggest difficulty in talking with strangers is not knowing each other, so the first problem to be solved in talking with strangers is to get familiar with each other as soon as possible and eliminate strangeness. You can introduce yourself first, then ask his name and occupation, and then tentatively lead to topics of mutual interest. If you don't talk to the other person about yourself first, ask him questions. Under normal circumstances, he may not be willing to answer your questions. Where did you talk about yourself? Most people are willing to talk about his situation in this respect. You can try to get to know him, his hairstyle, his clothes, his tie, his cigarette case, lighter, his carry-on bag, his tone of voice, his eyes and so on. Through a short period of keen observation. Can give you clues about him. If he is the owner of the house, you will have more basis to know him: what pictures are hung on the wall, what furnishings are put in the cupboard, photos are under the counter, books are in the bookcase and so on. These will naturally reveal the owner's hobbies and accomplishments to you. If you know in advance that you are going to meet a stranger, it is very beneficial to inquire about the stranger through others before meeting.
When talking with strangers, you should show interest in his career, personality and hobbies. In the process of talking to each other, insert one or two small questions from time to time, or sincerely express your admiration and feelings: Ah, this is so interesting. I can't believe it. Will it be like this? Let the other person feel that you are willing to listen to his conversation, and therefore regard you as his bosom friend in the first conversation. In the first conversation, if you show no interest in the other person, look indifferent and say nothing, and you are absent-minded when he speaks, and don't even look at him, he will immediately think you are an arrogant person, and he may hate you forever in his heart.
When talking with strangers, try to create a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere. First, start with yourself. You should have a frank talk with him. The most important thing is to make the other person feel comfortable. Especially for those who are shy and not used to talking to strangers, you must try to make them relax. You can talk to him about some trivial things first, and the more casual the better, just like chatting with an old friend. Let the other person talk as much as possible, and pay attention to the change of the other person's attitude at any time during the conversation. Don't assume that the people you are interested in are also interested. You should fully respect each other's interests. When the other party Tan Xing is thick, you must never interrupt him; When the other person's interest shifts, you should not entangle the original topic, but introduce new topics skillfully according to the situation. Listen to each other carefully, but don't stare at each other intently (no one can stand such eyes). Your eyes should always show your understanding, trust and encouragement to him, instead of being suspicious, critical and demanding. A stern look will make the other person swallow back what he said only in half.
If you have a chance to attend a meeting attended by many strangers, you should look for even the only person you know first. This will help to eliminate your nervousness and stabilize your mood. Don't be nervous in case you can't find an acquaintance. What we need to do at this time is not to talk, but to listen, see and carefully look at the first stranger who attended the meeting with our ears and eyes. If you find a stranger present who is as timid as you, sitting alone in the corner, you should seize this opportunity at once. You can take the initiative to sit in front of him, introduce yourself to him and talk to him in a low voice. Under normal circumstances, you will be welcomed by him at this time. Most importantly, he and you are happy to get rid of the predicament and loneliness at that time. ......& gt& gt