1. frustration cognition
The nature and degree of frustration reaction mainly depends on frustration cognition. On the one hand, setbacks may make people disappointed, painful, melancholy and uneasy; On the other hand, setbacks give people lessons and temper, make people smart, strong and mature, and promote the development and perfection of psychological process. Cognition determines people's attitude towards setbacks, whether they fall into disappointment or pain, or gain lessons and exercise. Adjusting cognition is not an easy task, so we must persevere.
Absorb setbacks
In life, no one has enough emotions and energy to resist the inevitable facts and create a new life. Let's just choose between the two. As Dale Carnegie, the master of success, said: We should learn to adapt like evergreen trees, learn to bend branches, learn to adapt to inevitable situations, and learn to absorb setbacks instead of resisting setbacks in life.
3. Establish self-confidence and adjust personal ambitions
To establish self-confidence, only self-confidence will make you not panic and be devastated because of a temporary failure. We should adjust our personal ambition to suit our actual situation, because unrealistic life goals are easy to frustrate us. We should not only be blind and confident, but also be careful not to give up the hope of success, give up ourselves and be depressed after many failures. We should objectively analyze our strengths and weaknesses, accept our present situation, set realistic goals for ourselves and set an appropriate level of ambition. While establishing a big goal, break it down into small goals that can be achieved, and with the realization of these small goals, enhance your successful experience and accumulate self-confidence.
4. Analyze the reasons and improve yourself
We should actively adjust negative emotions such as resentment, hatred, hostility, self-blame or regret caused by setbacks, so that we can get out of setbacks quickly. But don't forget to analyze the causes of setbacks and correct your own shortcomings, otherwise it is inevitable to repeat the same mistakes.
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The above is about setbacks and related problems. If you have any related questions, please seek professional help. Psychological counseling is to use psychological theories and methods to help visitors find their own problems and their roots, tap their own potential, change their original cognitive structure and behavior, and maintain mental health.
Finally, choosing a suitable counselor is an important guarantee for the effect of psychological counseling. Please choose carefully.