This is not the first time that a female star has been questioned.
When the baby just gave birth, some people questioned why the figure recovered so quickly, or Huang Xiaoming took a picture of the baby with a big belly, which completely dispelled everyone's doubts.
Actresses don't lose weight during pregnancy and lose weight quickly after delivery, mostly because they spend a lot of money to hire nutritionists and fitness coaches and make great efforts to control their body shape.
Stars are human beings, so there is no need to deify or demonize them.
Especially in the matter of having children, parents all over the world are probably in this mood.
Recently, I watched the variety show "Heart Beats Again", and I was deeply touched.
No matter how glamorous a female star is, it is not easy to be a single mother after divorce.
"Heart Beats Again" is a very special blind date program. Five divorced actresses came to blind date, and their blind date was 30 high-quality single men from all walks of life.
The five actresses are Wang Lin, Crystal, Bai Bing, Olivia and Joey ·CHUA. Among them, Wang Lin, Crystal and Bai Bing are single mothers.
Whether it is a big star or an outsider, it is difficult to find a baby.
No matter how big your wrist is, when you go on a blind date, you will be asked at the beginning if you mind having children.
Even if the man fully accepts the child, the single mother must carefully weigh what the child will think.
Even Crystal, who is careless and willing to put out the fire for love, did not hesitate to say yes when asked if she would consider the feelings of her children when she remarried.
The more you think, the more you worry, and the harder it is to do anything.
As an "elderly" single mother, Wang Lin's experience is particularly representative.
Wang Lin, 5 1 year-old, has a son Nuo Nuo with her ex-husband.
Wang Lin once said in an interview that she would give her son "100% love" and "I will wait until he grows up to consider my emotional problems."
So since 20 1 1 blew herself up in an interview, she has been single 1 1 year.
By single, she doesn't mean that she doesn't have a boyfriend at all, but that no one has reached the point of talking about marriage.
She mentioned in the program that she had been in love two or three times in recent years, but they were all short-lived, and none of them lasted more than seven months.
There is a simple reason. She should be happy to go out on a date, but she feels guilty at the thought of the small children at home.
I have lived for my children for so many years. Nuo Nuo has grown up and started studying abroad last year. It is difficult for Wang Lin to divert his attention from her children.
When you come home from work, you will feel empty when your children are not around.
She is not ready to give all the love she has put into her children to another person.
Many single mothers have been single for this reason.
I feel indebted and guilty because my children can't get a complete family. I am afraid that forming a new family will distract my love for my children.
Some people may think that this kind of love is very heavy and may not be a good thing for children.
Still depends on how selfless this maternal love is.
Some people control their children in the name of love, while others really love to forget themselves. Wang Lin should be the latter.
Although Wang Lin will be lost because her children go out to study, she has not left her children selfishly.
Wang Lin's son is cheerful and easy-going, and he was admitted to a famous foreign school, which shows that Wang Lin's education has not failed so much.
Wang Lin said: "Women are weak, but mothers are strong." .
So are children.
Nuo Nuo, who grew up in a single-parent family, seems to be more sensible and responsible than her peers.
Seeing Wang Lin's efforts, his son will say to her, "I have grown up, it's my turn."
Wang Lin is going to participate in a blind date program, and her son will say, the most important thing is, "Are you happy with this person?" "I like it if you like it."
This precocity is largely due to the incomplete family. When his peers were heartless, he learned to share the burden for his mother, which was really gratifying and even more distressing.
Crystal's daughter, only 8 years old, didn't cry or object when she learned that her mother was going on a blind date. On the contrary, she made suggestions on the choice of her future father, hoping that her mother could find someone like her idol Jackson Yi.
Crystal said that she might hope that her future father could protect her mother like a better day.
At that time, Crystal made a hullabaloo about the divorce, leaving her no chance to film for seven years. She had to go into business and muddle along in the society, wearing away all her proud temper when she was young.
But it's worth it to have such a little angel waiting at home.
It can be seen that the "mental journey" of these star single mothers is the same as that of outsiders. Although their income is high, the corresponding pressure and troubles may not be less.
I can run my career well, but I also take good care of my children. No matter what occupation or status, it is admirable.