Everyone longs for freedom and is unwilling to be bound by others at any time.
For example, when studying, teachers and parents always force you to study hard and do your homework, forcing you to grow up and be sensible. At that time, you always wanted to grow up and get rid of the shackles of your parents and teachers.
However, when you grow up, you have to admit that in the past, what teachers and parents forced you to do and all kinds of demands on you were essentially for your own good. I hope you can get into a good university when you grow up and take fewer detours.
Now, you have grown up, and there is no teacher's tireless request. Even your parents told you much less than when you were a child, and you got the freedom you wanted.
Later, when you fall in love or get married, the lover around you will ask you and even force you to do something. Sometimes, you will find the demands of your relatives around you annoying, and even feel that they are too much in charge.
However, if the lovers around you always "press" you on these four things, tirelessly ask you and force you, then please believe that they love you very much.
1. Force you to take care of yourself, eat well, go to bed early and don't stay up late.
With the rapid development of social life, more and more people stay up late, and countless people don't eat on time for three meals a day.
Sometimes when you are hungry, fast food or instant noodles can solve it; Unfinished work or unfinished drama, staying up late to solve; Maybe you will feel very cool, but it is often the case in essence, and the body can't stand it.
If the lover around you always tirelessly urges you to "eat breakfast" and "go to bed early, don't stay up late", he always tirelessly reminds you to eat, asks if you have eaten, and then tells you that "the work can't be finished, and the unfinished part will be refueled tomorrow". As for staying up late to catch a play or play games, it is absolutely not allowed.
If a man reminds you only once or twice, you may not feel anything, but if a man forces you to take care of your body for several years, then he undoubtedly loves you very much.
Because I love you, I hope you are healthy; Because I love you, I hope your body is intact now, many years later or even when you are old.
Force you to get rid of bad habits.
Before getting married, my best friend Xiao Xia had many bad habits, such as not washing hands before eating, such as dropping snacks on the floor and putting them back in his mouth as long as he couldn't see anything, such as playing cards and going to bars.
But since being with her husband, he will force her to get rid of many bad habits again and again.
When Xiao Xia and her husband fell in love for four years, they got married. After marriage, her husband will constantly remind Xiao Xia to force Xiao Xia to get rid of her bad habits.
At first, Xiao Xia was very uncomfortable and even a little annoyed, but Xiao Xia's husband told her, "I just hope you are well. If you think what I ask you to do is harmful to you, then you don't have to listen to me. "
Xiao Xia stared at her husband gloomily, and finally she would wash her hands obediently every time. The snack fell to the ground, and she picked it up and threw it into the trash can. When the vegetables fell on the table, she stopped picking them up and put them back in her mouth. She also gradually gave up the habit of playing cards and clubbing.
3. Force you to keep your distance from the opposite sex.
In fact, both men and women, in terms of feelings, are selfish and jealous, so they don't want to see their lovers too close to the opposite sex.
The lover around you forces you to keep a distance from the opposite sex instead of asking you not to have friends of the opposite sex, which seems a bit male chauvinistic.
You can have friends of the opposite sex, but not too close. Whether it is face-to-face chat or WeChat chat, we should pay attention to the sense of proportion and scale. It doesn't matter if ordinary friends come and go, but once they get too close, they can't.
For example, if you obviously have a lover or partner, but you kiss, hold hands and talk about explicit topics with other members of the opposite sex, these are definitely unacceptable to lovers around you. Not only can your lover not accept it, but you will also show that you don't respect yourself.
4. Force you to learn, improve and grow.
Shortly after my husband and I got married, he gave me a gym card near my home. Although I am not a lazy woman, I really don't like sports.
At that time, my husband would force me to go to the gym for two or three days every week. I teased him: "Do you think I am fat?" Essentially, I am of medium height, not fat.
"My wife is very beautiful anyway." Mr. Wang smiled and said, "It's just that you don't look at how bad your health is. Walking a few more steps will make you breathless and dizzy. You need more exercise. I can walk with you after dinner in the evening, but if the weather is cold, you can go to the gym to run and exercise. "
In addition to fitness exercise, my husband will have other requirements for me. For example, I want to take the Putonghua Band Test, Band 6, editing qualification certificate, self-media operator and so on, but I get lazy every time I read a book for a while, and my initial thoughts are gone.
At this time, my husband will urge me not to forget my goal.
When I complain that he is too strict with me, or that I am not good enough, my husband will say, "I hope you can do what you want to do and become a better yourself, so that you won't complain that you don't work hard enough after many years."
Of course I know that he loves me, so he forces me to exercise, study and improve myself. Even if I spend more money, as long as I am good, he will feel good.
To sum up, although we don't like anyone to force us in our daily life, sometimes we are reluctant and "step by step" because of love.
If the lover around you gives you a lot of pressure on some small things, and you can't accept it, then communicate well. After all, any problems in the relationship between two people need to be communicated.
If you think that your lover's request and "persecution" are really for your own good, but it may be a little troublesome, please believe that the other person thinks that he loves you, so you ask you and force you to do it.