Maybe it's the living environment and living conditions in the countryside. I found that my mother-in-law has many unsanitary habits. For example, cutting vegetables, whether raw or cooked, uses the same chopping board and the same kitchen knife. When beating eggs, the dishes are not washed with water before use, and kitchen rags and furniture rags are mixed together.
I found it, one by one. At first, my mother-in-law was unconvinced and said that there were many things in the city. I patiently explained that cold dishes and cooked food can't use the same knife, otherwise it will bring bacteria into cold dishes and cause diarrhea. When an egg touches the mouth of the bowl, it will shake the dirty things on the egg skin into the bowl; Although the tableware has been washed after lunch, there will be bacteria breeding or dust that is not easily recognized by the naked eye when it is left for a long time at dinner; Kitchen rags are usually somewhat greasy. If it is used to clean furniture, the surface of furniture will become sticky over time, and it is difficult to keep it as clean as new. After listening to my patient explanation, my mother-in-law felt reasonable and gradually accepted it.
My mother-in-law has been poor for half her life and is very frugal. Go to the market to buy food, always choose the cheapest and buy stale vegetables; Leftovers are always reluctant to throw away. I told her that she should eat all vegetables so that she could have a balanced nutrition. A large number of nutrients such as fresh vegetables and vitamins are lost; Leftover food is not only nutritious, but also easily contaminated by bacteria and inedible.
At first, the old man didn't agree, so I had to collect information online, show it to her and explain it patiently and carefully. I also told her old man that the reason why she was in poor health and used to get sick in the countryside was not only because of other reasons, but also because of insufficient nutrition and imbalance.
I also calculated an account for her. Although eating mutton offal and leftovers seems to save money, malnutrition often leads to illness. Every time I get sick, I have to spend money to see a doctor and buy medicine, which not only costs far more than a few cents saved by eating mutton offal and leftovers, but also makes people miserable. Finally, my mother-in-law took my advice. Instead of dumping the leftovers, she fed them to the stray cats in the community. She said it was not a waste of food, and she felt very comfortable. Her mother-in-law is very conservative. She has been in my home for half a year, and she is still wearing some clothes brought from her hometown. I never wear the clothes I bought for her, saying they are too fancy to wear. In order to reverse her conservative thoughts, I specially took her to the streets to remind her how the old goblins in the city dressed up.
I told her that people dress not only to look good, but also to change their mood and make their mentality younger. Being young is good for health and improving the quality of life. The reason why urban elderly women are generally younger than rural women is mainly because they can maintain and dress up, and the young mentality is also an important factor. After dinner in the evening, I also took her to the park to watch the group dance and yangko danced by the old ladies in the city. My mother-in-law said, "These old goblins!" But his eyes were fixed and he looked at them admiringly.
Before going to bed at night, I told my husband about it. My husband told me that his mother was actually a great beauty when she was young, and she danced yangko during the Chinese New Year. It is said that she is still famous in the village. This increased my confidence. My mother-in-law is obviously interested in fitness. She often watched the old lady dance at night, and gradually got acquainted with the audience, so she was dragged in a little bit.
There are many similar things.
It is said that in ancient times, mother-in-law taught daughter-in-law. I met a powerful mother-in-law and didn't meet the requirements. She may even stab someone with an awl like Sister Rong. But now it's the other way around. I actually framed my mother-in-law. After nearly a year of careful training, I think my mother-in-law has made great progress.
Now, her old woman is no different from the old woman in the city. It is often said that the daughter-in-law in the city and the mother-in-law in the countryside are difficult to get along with. In fact, as long as we trust each other, understand each other, treat each other sincerely, communicate more, explain the truth clearly, and do not dislike it, there is still no problem. Everyone has a strong adaptability, and it is not difficult to change a person.