Brother Yu said that a self-disciplined person must have done two things, formed a good habit and found a hard demand.
I think a self-disciplined person must have hard needs to be motivated to form good habits and then become a self-disciplined person.
Take Alina Zhang as an example. Learning and mastering new skills, hard skills are hard needs. In order to achieve this goal, he used the 10,000-hour law to keep training and implemented the "1 0,000-day Grove Plan". After three years in college, he got up early every day and went to the school grove to read English. Practice oral English continuously for 25 years, and insist on practicing a hard skill every 3 to 5 years; Keep a diary for 23 consecutive years; Introspection every day for 17 years, insist on getting up at five o'clock every morning and start studying. ...
So maybe this is the reason why Alina Zhang has made great achievements, because she is a self-disciplined person.
Self-disciplined people have a brave heart and dare to try.
Alina Zhang said that we have our own strengths and always have our own weaknesses. If your goal is only related to the short board, it is very important to train your short board and develop it into your own hard skills. Before mastering new skills, don't miss any opportunity to exercise your skills and try boldly.
Self-disciplined people know "self-abuse".
This kind of self-abuse is related to habitual comfort. Everyone has their own comfort zone, which is a state that makes you feel very practical and safe. Many people like this feeling very much and don't want to come out. Self-abuse is to get yourself out of your comfort zone. After adapting to self-abuse, it is more important to learn to "dare" than to meet. On the road to growth, each of us should learn to embrace "dare", learn to speak and overcome fear. There are no people who are not afraid, only speakers who are not prepared in advance. Want to practice calligraphy? You must dare to publish your own works and accept comments and feedback. You need the supervision of public opinion around you to help you stick to it for a longer time and stick to a challenge.
Self-disciplined people are people who know themselves correctly.
People usually know themselves in the following two situations:
1. See yourself clearly
Psychological research shows that people tend to think that their abilities are not as good as others, and it is easy to form a self-evaluation that they are not as good as the average person. In other words, it is easy to underestimate your ability, especially those who lack self-confidence and are depressed. It's easy to underestimate yourself when people suffer setbacks.
2. Overestimate yourself
People tend to overestimate their self-evaluation, which is called "Houbigant Lake Effect" in psychology.
Self-disciplined people will not sell themselves short, let alone overestimate their abilities, and set goals that are impossible to achieve or violate human nature. When they set their goals, they will proceed from themselves, conform to their actual situation, and at the same time be higher than their actual situation. They don't compare themselves with cows, but compare themselves with their past. They believe that as long as they persist, as long as they are stronger than in the past, even if there is only a little progress, they will win. Try to be your own mirror, because only you know yourself best.
Self-disciplined people are those who dare to force themselves and surpass themselves.
If someone asks you: What are the criteria for learning new knowledge? You may answer, "Yes, I can recite", and some people say I can use it, but I think I can teach it. To teach others what you have learned, you need to do it yourself first. If you can't do it, don't teach. If you want to be the first, you need to repeat training over and over again to get up first, so the highest standard of learning is teaching. Teaching is a rare opportunity for self-improvement. Exercise yourself, neither too late nor too late. Even if you don't want to, you should force yourself to practice.
Self-disciplined people are good at self-motivation.
Self-disciplined people are good at choosing personality role models, closely following them, and constantly working hard to cultivate hard skills. They know how to create a self-motivation scene for themselves, and then insist on self-motivation, which is an important magic weapon for them to stick to their habits and do one thing for a long time.
In fact, successful people are not much different from ordinary people:
The first step: they found their own hard needs; Step 2: Turn efforts and struggles into habits; Step 3: Make yourself a self-disciplined person. Then, success is only a matter of time!