The sultry Huangmei day is coming. After getting up at 7 o'clock, I started a "regular" day, washing, making breakfast, getting up, sending to school, washing clothes and cleaning. Having said that, I was still sweating on the sofa and lost in thought for no reason. Is this the fate of a stay-at-home mother? Occasionally, Mengwa's disobedience will make us doubt life. Why didn't I teach him well when I paid all my attention? Occasionally, a word from a pig teammate can make us explode in situ, enter menopause in advance, have no income, indulge in daily necessities, and smell like oil and smoke all our lives. In my opinion, this is a sadder story than sadness. Yes, this is my life as a stay-at-home mother before, and I believe it is also the voice of countless stay-at-home mothers. Every day's thoughts are exhausted by boring housework, and there is always a voice in our hearts that makes us change our confused and helpless self.
When I was tired of this kind of life, I told myself that I must break this fixed thinking. In addition to housework, I have done the following five things: constantly improving myself, enriching my heart, being my own master again, being confident, positive and inclusive, and magically finding that my family is getting more and more harmonious, my husband is virtuous, and my mother is kind and filial. I hope the following five things can solve your troubles and help you become a better full-time mother.
First, give children high-quality companionship. Most stay-at-home mothers are out of primitive maternal love and want to give their children the best companionship and care to protect their childhood happiness and happiness. Between family and work, they resolutely left the all-powerful workplace and returned to the family to teach their children, but we must be careful not to get tired of the daily chores of the family and put the cart before the horse, focusing only on housework without giving children high-quality companionship. What is high-quality companionship? I don't know if the children are playing. Just look at your mobile phone and spend time with you. Instead, you should interact, communicate and respond with your children, so that they can enjoy happiness with you. Effective company. So don't pursue the ultimate cleanliness and endless housework, let yourself have more time to rest and sit next to your child and play with him. Of course, you can also let your children do housework with you and increase interaction. Children should learn useful knowledge in high-quality games in childhood.
Second, study psychology. Nowadays, many people still have awe of psychology and think it is a profound theory. In fact, psychology has already been applied to all aspects of our lives, and our behavior is an expression of our inner world. When you study psychology, the most basic gain is that you can settle down and live, which can make you have a good and peaceful mind. Take accompanying children as your responsibility and obligation, and get happiness in the process of accompanying children, instead of pretending to be a paying mentality. Adjust your mentality. You didn't sacrifice your job opportunities for your children, but you gave up your job, so that you have the opportunity to grow up with your children, witness the germination and development of life, and cure childhood regrets. With this mentality, you will know what you really want, feel the warmth of life, and don't need to pursue perfection. Even if you don't get positive feedback from your family and children in a short time, you won't be anxious because of psychological imbalance. This state of companionship will not only improve yourself, but also give children positive guidance, so learning psychology can make you less anxious.
Third, develop a sideline that you like. As we all know, staying at home full-time means staying away from the battlefield of your work. Without the platform of the company, you can't give full play to your talents and earn a salary to support your family. Your income is gone, but your family expenses are the same. All the pressure is on the family, and the family's ability to resist risks is rapidly weakening. Having a favorite sideline can not only give play to one's own advantages, please oneself, but also have one's own emotions.
Fourth, study with children. Children's ability to imitate and learn is beyond your imagination. Don't expect to cultivate children who love reading by holding a mobile phone every day. Reading can enlighten wisdom, reason, cure fools, and it is never too old to learn. Your good study habits will broaden your horizons. You can talk to anyone you want to be through books through time and space, and also guide your children to love reading, and it is full of poems and books. Look online, children who love books will have a brighter future, so spend more time with them.
Five, skin care and fitness. Women should be self-happy, and also exercise for self-pleasure. Both men and women like the beautiful, sunny, healthy and energetic opposite sex. Long-term married life is easy to produce the feeling of aesthetic fatigue. Skin care can make us shine as women for a long time. Fitness can keep us in good shape, not only keep the freshness in marriage, but also keep us confident and positive. Don't relax your appearance and dress just because you spend more time at home. Your attitude towards life reflects your respect and expectation for your lover. When it is in full bloom, the butterfly will come naturally. Beautiful, natural and harmonious feelings. Of course, the beauty mentioned here is your self-confidence and neat appearance from the inside out, plus basic skin care can be achieved; Keeping the love between husband and wife alive, skin care and fitness are all good ways. Endless freshness and beautiful you will be a beautiful landscape in your home.
The above five points, from my full-time life in a place, are what a full-time mother should do. Don't let housework occupy your full-time life, be a lazy mother and be a happy self. Do you agree? Focus on these five things and make your family full of wisdom, harmony and love. Do you have any other ways to make life better for stay-at-home mothers? You can discuss it together in the comments section.