How to determine whether a boyfriend is the right person to get married?

When I was in college, the theme of literature discussion was "What is love", and the old professor of Chinese Department wrote on the blackboard "It is love that moves the world and the stars."

Many students copied this sentence in their notebooks.

In this age when marriage pays attention to conditions, many people forget that the foundation of marriage and love is love.

Without love, the dazzling conditions are chicken ribs.

Therefore, no matter how impetuous the external values are, please remember that the first and most important thing that determines each other is that you love each other enough and want to walk into the marriage hall with each other.

First, love each other.

My father once said to me, "Marriage is a sea of people. As soon as you saw him, you knew he was the one you were going to marry. Regardless of any conditions or considerations. Marriage really depends on fate. "

I used to think that my father was too romantic and had great social pressure. How can I do without considering each other's conditions?

As I grew up, I understood my father's wisdom and purity.

First of all, there must be fate and love. Love is important 1. Without this key "1", all bride price, family background, work, appearance, class … are useless "0".

Love doesn't drink enough, but a heartless marriage is bound to be as fragile and desolate as an empty shell.

Life is hard and the days are long. Only love can make you enjoy riding the wind and waves.

Second, the three views are consistent and understand each other.

Writer Liao Yimei said, "In this world, it is not uncommon for love and sex to meet. What is rare is to meet understanding. "

Consistency of three views is the premise of getting along. People with different views enter marriage, which is not complementarity, but disaster.

You like drinking in bars, and he likes reading at home. This is not disagreement, but similarities and differences.

But if you think reading at home is a fake literary costume, he thinks drinking in a bar is indecent and debauchery, which is inconsistent.

People with different views will have endless quarrels and contradictions together, and many contradictions cannot be explained clearly, because no one can understand anyone with different views.

You pursue quality life, and he feels vain.

You like to travel for pleasure. He thinks it's expensive and bullshit.

You want to give your children a better elite education. He said that children can grow up in any way.

Educational concept, consumption concept, world outlook, and cognition of life. What is hard to change in the blood cannot live without understanding and tacit understanding.

You can't argue about using domestic or imported diapers while pushing a car with your child in your arms.

Life is already very gentle. Don't get married until you meet the right person, otherwise it will only add another great trouble.

When you meet someone who knows you, you will feel another world, where there are common enemies, mutual dependence and firmness even if "the whole world leaves you and there is another one with me".

Because I know your goodness, I cherish it in every way.

Because I cherish it in every way and deserve to be entrusted.

Third, make progress, be practical and kind.

Now some girls keep silent, just to marry a husband with good conditions.

Most people's good conditions are related to their family circumstances.

To put it bluntly, it is to marry a rich second generation.

However, these people have overlooked a very important issue. The rich second generation just inherited wealth, and it depends on the boy's own ability, quality, vision and skill to survive.

What kind of boy is suitable for marriage?

People who know how to work hard, are positive, have a good personality and are healthy are better than the second generation who are lazy and have no plans for the future.

People can never earn money beyond cognition, and the rich second generation can't keep property beyond cognition.

Otherwise, why should the giants set up a trust, and Michelle monique Rice can only get pocket money on a monthly basis?

For a girl, the most terrible thing is not to marry a poor boy, but to marry a lazy man.

I once met a boy with excellent family conditions, but it was never enough for him to squander his life.

He works in the system every day with a low salary, but his daily life is to open a card in a nightclub, run in a motorcade, smoke, drink and play mahjong, and it is an expensive dinner of alcohol, tobacco and mahjong.