When I was a psychiatrist, I heard many complaints about pain, frustration, depression, sadness and even hatred. This moved me to the trust of living together in the world and the resilience of finding a way out when life is difficult. This will make me firmly believe that I will stay with them in this crisis and try my best to help them with my inner warmth. But I still know that everyone's fate is decided by themselves, and the final decision is in their own hands. I will share with them the experience gained from the hardships I have experienced in my life and try my best to help them through the very muddy and chaotic period in their lives. Of course, I will also ensure my inner firmness and will not be swallowed up by the rolling turbidity. We just help others to help ourselves, and the ultimate strength still comes from each other's hearts.
Inscription (from Bi Shumin: The most important thing in your life is to make yourself happy)
As long as you are sure that what you are doing is right, don't worry about whether it will work immediately. If you are worried, it is to fuck other people's hearts.
I found that the problem I really want to solve is called listening ability.
Listening is hearing voices, and accepting is feeling tolerance. Because of the small ears, it is easy to be too sensitive. Because my ears are not high enough, it is easy to be narrow and secular.
Then solve your bad state in one sentence, climb high and look far, open up the sky, and be still.
What do you mean?
We don't care about other people's mentality because we can't figure it out.
We don't care how bad other people's voices are, because we don't understand.
However, there are millions of people living in our city. In the interactive state of my life, there must be hundreds of people who have these seemingly unsolvable problems like me, but they can completely ignore them.
Where is the essence? In fact, it lies in our emotional level and psychological self-orientation.
If the rest of the world is wary, start moaning to protect themselves (I just call it moaning without illness).
I don't know if I am wary, but I know two things in my heart.
First, I should be a gift in other people's lives, otherwise I should not walk into other people's lives.
Second, if I am wary, I always pay attention to other people's moans. But because I think I am a gift, I shouldn't fight back with moaning. So will I always feel passive and attacked because I am wary? So I will continue to feel pain about it?
I want to tell you that everyone can make a sound and must learn to listen. If you try to cover up your listening environment by making a sound all the time, it is as ridiculous as showing your character certificate every time you hear someone abusing you. That is to live too tired. Please be sure not to confront and fight back with each other by making noise.
Therefore, we must learn to relax, accept, be firm and move on. I repeat, if you don't relax, the acceptance, confirmation and progress behind you are untenable. If there is any sound in this world that you hear yourself, it will disturb you. First of all, please remember that if the sound is emitted by an object, it's just that your hearing limit is too low. Second, if it is a man-made voice, what kind of psychological emotion do you think it should be? Sound can never be associated with the pain nerves at birth, so why do we always go to bars to listen to the roar?
Never feel wronged, it is to measure yourself by other people's standards. It is also questioning yourself from the perspective of others. You should always remember that the most important thing in a relationship is where you are.
What state do you want to feel, you must be able to adjust to what state.
In this life, I feel that the first state that I must reach the standard is that I must learn to immerse myself in my own world in anyone's eyes and groans, or make myself feel completely happy.
Why do you say that?
Because you can't understand the mentality conveyed behind the voice, whether it comes from the secular, from the slander of you, from the fear of others, or from the contempt for you.
I have always believed that even if you suffer a lot, you will wake up the next day and find yourself still fighting spirit. Besides, you must keep quiet.
Please remember one sentence, if you can't accept the pain caused by other people's voices, you still have to keep a straight face. Why? This sentence comes from the godfather. Others can do it because they are others and we are not. "If there is pain, keep quiet. Although you haven't adjusted yet, you have finished your work well. If you stick to your bottom line, your probability of success will naturally avoid the trap that more ordinary people should fall into, and you can often be more successful. One more thing, you should remember that in gossip, if you are in adversity, you often don't sign it. Although it is not a sign, it must be a sign, and it is absolutely harmless. On the contrary, it just ensures safety and self-protection.
Many people say I can't stand it, and I must explode. If you broke out for confrontation, please remember that even if it broke out, you still made a wrong life decision. If your outburst is for a higher purpose (for the benefit of more people than yourself), then you can make your own decision. But it's usually more appropriate to say it than to explode it.
Nothing can't be solved without explanation. Outbreaks only increase their emotional catharsis while solving them, and finally stop each other's behavior by stimulating others' psychological pain. This "gram", in your future destiny, believe me, will naturally react against you again in the karma of natural law. The epidemic situation should be minimized. It takes diligence to bear the burden of humiliation.
Because forbearance and diligence are a kind of practice, but our destination is not to stay in humiliation forever, but to get peace and prajnaparamita in the realm of transcendental inner world. Pingyang downtown really has no Zen mind/penetrating mind, and looks average? Is it really unattainable happiness?
You must accept any objective entanglement or endless moaning between people in the objective environment, and you must stop yourself from trying to change the mentality of this environment. Because your time is very precious, except for secular occupation and transcendental physical and mental cultivation (practitioners), the rest are called "the cultivation process of regaining your attention with all people and things who don't know what to say". Remember that the recapture here emphasizes that you naturally take control of your own initiative, because you are ambitious, far-sighted, and have no resistance, and you are completely devoted to what you hold between your fingers. Never dwell on the same level of problems, but rely on the strength of the next level to guide your body and mind out of the predicament. You will find that the dilemma is ultimately caused by the narrow scope of the definition set by your own psychological framework.
Ask? If I send 100 people now and moan to you every time you make a noise, would you like to take it as the rumble of train tracks?
Ask? If I keep making harsh noises in your ear for 24 hours now, can you take these as the environmental sounds of airport take-off and landing?
Ask? If I ask you to put a small chair next to a table for 20 people now, I want you to talk about your vision promotion in the field of work. And 20 people have been talking about themselves and ignoring you, or deliberately interfering/attracting/disturbing your attention. Can you completely immerse yourself in your vision and work hard for it?
If you can, will you care about how others feel about you? No. Why? Because, if you just want to concentrate on what you do in this environment, you have to be completely immersed in it. You have no space to pay attention to all the feelings of the outside world. This is your last question.
Don't look for any external difficulties. You often cannot fully understand all the reasons. And like all realms in meditation, it already exists because of embellishment.
The only thing you are looking for is to climb high and look far in the whole interference environment, and finally stay in a blue state of mind. I can even call it a happy soul achievement.
Achievement is not to think about where suffering comes from, because suffering already exists. And if I want to know where my state of mind comes from, I will naturally cultivate it from my own changes, raise the threshold of listening and listening, and improve the power of ideas in this relative world.
Remember, the brain needs muscles. If you believe that ordinary people around you can easily refute their seemingly powerful arms. Please face up to your thoughts with a normal heart, just as the ideological strength of successful people who work hard in society is different. This is not an ability that you can quickly and permanently possess by encouraging yourself. Anything of value has to be precipitated by time. Can you try to solve the problem of listening for one year? Believe me, this is also an exercise for your consciousness and soul, an invisible material photosynthesis, something that increases the quality and density/frequency of your soul.
To tell the truth, if you can immerse yourself in your own calm state with your own attention, you will be stable and rich in any situation in society, and you will certainly affect the surrounding environment like a dream because of the magnetic field in your heart, and change because of your own changes. Being rich means enjoying the success and striving for the wealth of life. The wealth in life is the dimension of the heart and the magnetic field created around you. Let money/success/career chase you, not you chase money.
The same is true of thinking and understanding. Like a dream, it is also a scene.
Everything is a fantasy, and finding a reason is as meaningful and meaningless as finding no reason. But what is in your heart, because it has become a more open, high-density and highly saturated soul substance, in retrospect, you will understand that you can't stand the groans of others and the conscious judgment in others' eyes. Everything is self-created in a narrow sense. At present, nothing exists. It's just your precious spiritual strength to play with noise and cut your hair.
Overcome narrowness with openness, which you should understand when you are treated unfairly. It's not that you won't do anything, just please don't move now. Action is natural after the mind is open.
Believe me, you will live from the perspective of others in the future. When you want to look at your attitude from the perspective of others, please immediately dispel these thoughts.
If you can't control it, please play it in your head only once. If you want to think again next time, stand up, walk around in the same place, imagine that your clothes are floating, then sit down and don't allow yourself to play with other people's judgment.
Remember, any attempt is temporary, and it is narrow to define your life state with one attempt. What's more, it is someone else's eyes, especially:
If you intuitively feel that you have done nothing wrong, it is likely that others have done something wrong, but you can't stand other people's comments.
Please immediately think of falling to the ground and crying and complaining that the adult standing in front of you is smiling at the picture of this child. Children's complaints and even jealousy are all judged from other people's perspectives, and you just understand that these noisy/emotional children deserve your ridiculous and gentle treatment-children should not let adults help them, they should stand up by themselves, and you should silently exude a state of life instead of helping others. When others judge you, you don't need to show your moral proof. He should learn to change his attitude towards others. Besides, you should never allow yourself to guess the malice of others.
Moreover, the world is full of children with this kind of adult psychology in their thirties and forties. Every time you communicate, don't strangers or strangers who seem to be friends pass by you constantly?
Do you really have enough attention to help others stand up psychologically every time? So-you must develop the ability to ignore others' moans (in fact, psychology is morbid). At the same time, please establish a good self-healthy mentality, believe in the road you have taken and spread your charity and health, as long as your psychology is not antagonistic, even if you completely ignore others. Finally, you will find that the magnetic field of your life state virtually cured other people's mental illness and eased/cured his short life time. He will thank you, even if he doesn't want to face/know that he wants to thank you. But remember, whether he is willing to stand psychologically in the end is purely his own will. If he is your relative and friend, and you are a gift of life, please be sure to open your mouth to guide the other person out of the state of moaning without illness. Your attention should be focused on the treatment of your loved ones, and due to the requirements of secular career, you have to choose a positive/happy/loving life state, set up in a silent way in front of strangers around you/strangers who seem to be close, and heal them in a short period of time, which is the noblest power you can do. If you are an elder, you should naturally make it clear subtly, so that they can understand as much as possible, and it is best not to be too vigilant when communicating with others. Save your heart from attacking others. How much you can do depends on your wishes, and ultimately depends on whether he is willing to stand up.
Excuse me, if everyone in this world is very narrow, for example
Everyone's intelligence has become like a kindergarten child, who cries when he falls. 1+ 1=2 doesn't exist in their concept.
So you are willing to explore other people's thoughts and lower your intelligence so that you fall to the ground and cry without knowing 1+ 1=2. Let yourself feel the same way and fully understand each other's pain?
Of course you don't. You can understand each other's pain, and you can already make compassionate decisions.
You don't want to be forced to cry because you know it's unnecessary.
It's like someone moaning to you. The other person feels very painful here like a child, and even thinks that his pain is caused by you. Of course he will do this to you.
Please also remember that when someone treats you with a strong hatred, a fierce and frightening mentality, and a strong uncomfortable mentality, remember that he is not much different from a child who fell to the ground. His hatred and virulence are the scars that he fell to the ground, and it is worth using an adult's mentality to heal. To tolerate. Please. Please don't confront him. Either you lower the frequency, or you increase/guide him to reunite with a strong wrong mentality.
But we don't need this kind of empathy, remember, * * * love is to understand the pain of others. Instead of judging yourself from someone else's point of view. The former is full of love, while the latter is full of doubt and pain. If you don't make a pine tree and throw it out, it will be crushed by snow.
Think about it, you will change yourself into a child, and then think from your heart that the child has fallen to the ground. Why did this man stand in front of me and not help me up, but also smiled and watched me cry to judge and question himself? No, because a mature mentality is naturally "wrong" in the eyes of an immature mentality. However, it is precisely because (China, isn't it) most people have this "mistake", how many people allow themselves to be influenced by the hatred of "children" and join in to render the turbidity of this society?
Children's crying only needs to be understood, and we don't need to speculate on children's confusion, grievances and anger towards their parents. Crying because of falling is an emotional problem. And blaming others for not helping themselves when they fall down is a narrow perspective of self-immaturity and self-reliance, and also a manifestation of psychological immaturity in life.
Are those people in the world who are psychologically scarred and bared their teeth really bad people? Please let us go in one ear and out the other, ignore their little evils and pity their big psychological scars.
Do your own thing. Many things about others have nothing to do with me. I only give gifts to other people's relationships, and I will never judge other people's lives narrowly, and ultimately limit my own state of life. You must remember that when you judge others, you are limiting your mind, from maturity to narrowness and childishness. From standing to lying on the ground. No one can directly affect you, only your own mentality can affect your listlessness and cheerfulness.
So moaning without illness, do you pin your sense of security and stability on others to pray or ask others not to do so?
If you believe that you didn't deliberately disturb other people's lives, and it is something you must finish. You have to get up at night to go to the toilet, you have to open the window to ventilate the air in the space, you have to study hard in the library, you have to make a phone call in a quiet car, you have to. . . . Please ignore other people's groans and placement. Since you can't teach, please spread peace quietly in your own world to influence/cure him.
Don't start these questioning phenomena just because people all over the world do it. Ma Yun once discussed with Jin Yong how to laugh. How can I be proud?
You must see it thoroughly, you can laugh through it clearly, and you really have enough strength and strength to be proud to the end. The legendary swordsman.
Ask yourself what to do in the future. I am doing something to relieve my psychological pain, so as to resist and cope with moaning without illness. Or do I do something for my own will and my own needs?
Don't consider other people's judgment on your own reasons, please be firm in your attention. Your concentration and not conflict with others, only focusing on your own world, will inevitably let others gradually settle down in their own world. If you are in a dynamic situation, especially if you are constantly exposed to unstable, immature and unable to position yourself. Please forget them, you will forget their vision and their pain. Please be yourself and give off your focused gas field and light field. If you can't send it, please don't be angry, and don't be angry. Stick to it and you will concentrate on your state in public. Only when you become a state of light can you understand that the pain of others has nothing to do with you, and whether others can catch your light will still leave you unless you stand up and become a light. No one can catch the light. If people don't want to change themselves, they can only be influenced by light and be cured. But whether they can fully recover in the end depends on their own free will. So, please remember this limit, you don't have to worry about anyone being the same, and you can never expect anyone to change because of your actions-accepting others is himself; You don't have to feel/feel guilty for being indifferent to strangers, accept yourself as yourself.
Strangers are souls with different vibration frequencies. When there is a big difference between the two, please don't try to force others to make changes for yourself with forced thinking, silently send out your own life magnetic field state, and naturally do what you should do in your heart. Your contact time may be 1 sec, 2 hours or 3 years. But after all, it is a short life journey. Be yourself, even if all the strength in your life is to improve the life frequency of others, you can't put him in a completely different position in a short time (even three years).
The best education is to set an example. Don't disturb quiet people. People will be affected. But when you once helped him stand up, please remember the ridiculous picture of pulling up the cement with light. You can't afford strangers. So you should gradually realize that in anyone's life, it is enough to be yourself, and anyone who has crossed your life has got the best gift.
The true meaning of this sentence. Please don't restrain others in an offensive way, and please reduce your efforts to help any stranger with your own attention. Your silence, your concentration, you don't know, but if others realize your state, others will have been cured and encouraged the best, and they will stand firm in the next ten years or so.
Achieve the goal
Your purpose is the root cause of your reincarnation, and everything else is just a matter of controlling your attention for the purpose.
Please immerse yourself in the environment you should immerse yourself in, which is the foundation of your life. Your soul really knows that waking up and looking at your body and mind is the best happy event alive.
Here, I still have to confess a lot of pets I kept when I was a child, because in the pure love-hate relationship developed in society, I let my pets die under the ignorance and ignorance of life.
This is a reality that I can't escape even if I don't say it in my life. I know very well that I couldn't kill my pet if it weren't for mutual hatred in society and my inability to extricate myself from negative energy.
In this life, I will always feel sorry for the dead pets. With a kind heart, I will release them hundreds/thousands/10,000 times, so that more lives can survive.
I realized that if I have suffered a lot in my life, let me imagine the process of a pet suffering and eventually dying without knowing it. I dreamed of my pet more than once in my sleep and then woke up.
Fate is impermanent, but it is actually made by yourself. Sometimes, to bear the burden of humiliation and make continuous progress is to deliberately repay your past achievements with unconsciousness/mistakes/ignorance.
Please bless my friends, I can be released and save more lives. Do what you can and do the right thing, instead of being immersed in wrong grief. If there is really a result, these are all deserved.
I wish you can finally feel an open-minded mind after your nap, full of love and joy, and finally feel that after you get out of your narrow mind and get an open-minded mind, all the pains brought by others are completely accepted, and you can completely forgive each other, thoroughly pity each other, appreciate each other and care about each other. Thank you for your practice! The purification of the world comes from the magnetic field atmosphere that stands together gradually. You have to believe that when some practitioners appear in front of you, you will naturally feel a kind of Shu Lang. This is the power of the magnetic field. I heard from hearsay that a very powerful yogi can purify the internal frequency of 1000 people. He doesn't need to appear in front of these people, but exists somewhere on the earth. 1000 people will naturally be affected.
You will have a better fate, you will become a better person, you will heal anyone who passes by you, and finally these results will make your life/meaning complete.
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