Generally speaking, a woman can only be taken care of by her mother-in-law except going back to her mother's house. From ancient times to the present, there will always be some friction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and during this confinement period, conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be more likely to occur, which will make the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who should live in harmony incompatible.
The reason why women are more likely to have conflicts with their mother-in-law during confinement is that some of them are mother-in-law, but some of them are women. After all, it is impossible for a single mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along normally. There is no right or wrong between them, but it can only be a confused account.
In people's impression, the reason why mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are at odds must be that one of them is not worthy of the other, but this is relative. There are also some reasons why the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not in harmony, or that the mother-in-law is too kind to her future grandchildren and asks her daughter-in-law to do something good for herself and her grandchildren.
If the mother-in-law is kind to the daughter-in-law, it stands to reason that the daughter-in-law should accept it happily, rather than give the mother-in-law a look. The reason why a daughter-in-law shows her face to her mother-in-law is not because she is a baiwenhang, but because her mother-in-law forgot her thoughts when she showed concern for her daughter-in-law. Her daughter-in-law will naturally remember her kindness to her daughter-in-law, but this kindness is also reflected by her mother-in-law's own views
Women love beauty in all aspects, and confinement is no exception. As we all know, a woman's figure will change more or less after giving birth, which is absolutely not allowed to happen to a woman. Therefore, women will begin to regain their figure during confinement. After all, in addition to women's love of beauty, there is another reason that the relationship between husband and wife will be affected after the body changes. Although love can ignore all external factors, but the figure is changing.
Therefore, it is understandable for a woman to exercise or go on a diet during confinement, but this kind of behavior of restoring her body must be incomprehensible to her mother-in-law. In the popular thinking, a woman should take good care of her body after giving birth and eat some tonic food to promote her rapid recovery, but this is contrary to the idea that a woman wants to get back in shape. Presumably no woman wants to leave a bloated body after confinement.
In this case, the mother-in-law urges her daughter-in-law to eat more tonic food, but the daughter-in-law will refuse her mother-in-law's kindness and try to control her diet. The mother-in-law will think that the daughter-in-law can't feed the baby without eating, and the daughter-in-law will think that this is nonsense. In this way, after the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law disagree, there will be an alternative contradiction between them.
Wang hong, a reader, has encountered this contradiction of alternating mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Wang hong knows that her mother-in-law is very kind to her. From the time she married her husband to the end of confinement, her mother-in-law never deliberately quarreled and contradicted her. On the contrary, when the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law disagree, the mother-in-law gives in voluntarily, so as not to affect their daily life.
Wang hong also lamented that she was lucky to meet her mother-in-law. She doesn't know how many things her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have not heard. She also understood that the stability of a family depends on how well she gets along with her mother-in-law. Knowing that she is a stubborn temper, wang hong was worried about quarreling with her mother-in-law at first, but with the extension of marriage time, she found that her worry was unnecessary and her mother-in-law was also very kind to her.
But since wang hong became pregnant, her mother-in-law has been a little too kind to her, and even the schedule has been worked out, and she walks and lies in strict accordance with the schedule. Wang hong was very dissatisfied at that time, but she knew that her mother-in-law was afraid of her accident and was bent on thinking of her, so she let her mother-in-law fiddle with her and obeyed every request her mother-in-law made.
However, as Wang Hongsheng gave birth to a child and began to confinement, she gradually couldn't stand her mother-in-law's every move. Although wang hong, who was confined, was mentally sensitive and emotionally out of control, wang hong's mother-in-law was so kind to her that she felt monitored and controlled, which wang hong didn't like, and it was the first time that wang hong had an aversion to her mother-in-law.
As usual, her mother-in-law made a strict recovery plan for wang hong, so that wang hong could know clearly what she should do at all times. wang hong, who thinks her face value is not low, also made a detailed postpartum figure recovery plan for herself. As a result, the opinions of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law inevitably clashed.
Wang hong's mother-in-law thinks that a woman's figure will go out of shape after giving birth to a child, so it doesn't matter whether she recovers her figure or not, and wang hong has passed the most beautiful stage, so it is good to take care of her children wholeheartedly, but wang hong doesn't think so. She thinks that the most important thing in a woman's life is a beautiful appearance. Although she can't stop the gradual erosion of time, she can keep some points.
Wang hong strictly controls her daily diet regardless of her mother-in-law's schedule. Although she knows that her mother-in-law is thinking of her, it is a matter of principle to restore her original figure. She was not prepared to give in on this matter, and her mother-in-law who wanted wang hong to eat big fish and meat had to start blaming her daughter-in-law.
"Girl, how can you eat a few things every day? Adults can starve, but children can't starve, right? I've seen those things you eat, and each one can promote milk production. How can this go on? If you look for my lovely grandson on an empty stomach, I will spare you. " Wang hong's mother-in-law coaxed her children while blaming Wang Hongdao.
Wang hong didn't know how many times her mother-in-law had said such a thing, so she simply agreed without looking up, indicating that she already knew, and then started her own fitness plan. This time, instead of leaving wang hong alone with a sigh as usual, her mother-in-law walked up to wang hong and kicked wang hong's fitness ball aside, holding her grandson and giving wang hong an order.
"I can't care about you, can I? I told you that I didn't want to make you unhappy before I indulged your behavior, but now I see through it. If I don't care anymore, maybe you will go to heaven. I will watch you today. If you do these irresponsible things again, see if I can spare you lightly. "
As soon as wang hong's mother-in-law finished, she coaxed, "Women will become ugly sooner or later. You don't need to get back into shape now. Your figure is temporary, but the child is lifelong. You can't lose big because of small. If you insist on getting back in shape, you can get back in shape in a month without delay. If you are afraid that my son will not love you because of this, you can rest assured that your mother-in-law and I will spare him. "
Wang hong wanted to say yes, but seeing her bloated and deformed abdomen, she decisively rejected her mother-in-law's kindness. Wang hong looked at her mother-in-law and said, "Mother-in-law, I know you are good for me and my children, but beauty is too important for women, and confinement is also the most energetic time for women, so I must stick to my idea."
Wang hong's mother-in-law no longer advised her to listen to these, so she gave a faint "Oh" and ignored wang hong. From then on, wang hong's mother-in-law would say a few words to wang hong, except when necessary. Even if she met on weekdays, her expression was cold. Wang hong know that this is her mother-in-law in the cold war with her. She remembers that her mother-in-law was very kind to her, but she couldn't change her mind. In order to recover as soon as possible, she doesn't care about her mother-in-law
Wang hong doesn't think she did anything wrong. Lin Jun thinks that wang hong has done nothing wrong. In normal times, wang hong might listen to her mother-in-law. Because women are the most sensitive during confinement, it is normal for wang hong to make any choice. At the same time, wang hong also don't think her mother-in-law will abandon her. The reason that made her angry was that wang hong openly refuted her mother-in-law's opinion for the first time. Wang hong believes that her mother-in-law will understand her pains.
Wang hong felt lucky to meet a mother-in-law who was very kind to her. Although there are differences between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law during confinement, it is harmless. After all, the relationship was not bad before, but if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is just ordinary, then after something like wang hong happened, there will be two extreme phenomena, either one party gives in or the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law fall into a longer contradiction.
In real life, disagreement between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very common. Since the reality cannot be changed, we need to change our thinking about this way. After all, not everyone has a mother-in-law's red, and naturally there will be no wang hong's confidence. Therefore, in the face of discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is necessary to prescribe the right medicine.
The reason why the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot be alleviated is actually the lack of necessary communication. I don't know what the other person is thinking, and there is no need to understand. This is the same idea of most mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which also hinders the further development of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship. Therefore, in order to better deal with the problem of disharmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we need to spend more time communicating with each other.
Lin Jun believes that no matter how big the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, as long as they open their hearts to accept each other and have in-depth conversations with each other, the situation between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will never develop into incompatibility. Both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should believe that the other party will be more eager to make the family more stable and harmonious than you think.