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From a psychological point of view, I know a lot about girls' psychology. Most girls don't take the initiative to pursue the boys they like, unless they really like them too much or are the kind of girls who are very brave and brave. So, if you like a girl very much and think she is a little interested in you, take the initiative and don't have a tug-of-war with her. Maybe the person you like is also suffering.

Any girl's psychology is very complicated when she is chased. She may be happy, but she is a little scared. She has ambivalence towards the boy who intruded into her quiet life. She didn't mean to. Don't think she is testing you. She's actually fighting herself. She is afraid of being hurt.

Don't be afraid that your initiative will bring her disgust. If you don't take the initiative, she won't take the initiative, and it will fade slowly. If your initial confession is rejected by her, it is normal. Don't be discouraged. Who knows what this girl is thinking?

Maybe if you confess twice, she will be moved by you. Kind girls are easily moved.

If you encounter setbacks, leave immediately, never reply to this girl again, protect yourself tightly and lick the wound silently. When you are in pain, as everyone knows, that girl may regret it in her heart. Maybe she will secretly cry and regret rejecting you, and it will be sad to see your indifferent eyes again, but she won't tell you and won't let you come back to chase her. Your excessive self-esteem may hurt a girl's sensitive heart.

She will think that you don't really like him, otherwise how could you just give her up?

Some people say that it is really difficult for boys to chase girls. But my feeling is that this phenomenon is inseparable from the social role orientation of men and women. From a physiological and social point of view, women are always passive. If, on the other hand, men are ashamed and women are brave, the world will be in a mess! Women's shyness is always beautiful ~ ~ ~ I always hear that a brave man overcame many difficulties and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. There are few examples to the contrary.

Some boys are afraid that others will say that they are persistent and will bring them a bad reputation. However, I think that boys pursue the girl they like and continue to be kind to this girl after some setbacks, which shows that people really like it and are sincere. If they don't succeed, they will not regret it. It's nothing. Who makes people like it? I hate people blindly following me, and I hate boys who have no opinions and care too much about what others think of them. They deserve not to find a girlfriend.

If you are a man, be brave. Girls are emotional and easily immersed in love. Although you work hard, once your heart touches her, you will get more and more love. Such examples can be seen everywhere. Girls are gentle and considerate to their boyfriends. What is the sweetness that the initial efforts have brought? And most good girls are devoted and single-minded.

Therefore, it is suggested that some boys be brave and pursue the girls they like, instead of being so timid. One is that people think you are unmanly, and the other is that you feel uncomfortable. But, most importantly, you get nothing in the end. Happiness is always earned by yourself. Don't expect others to give it to you!

By the way, I think it's good to take the initiative, because your goal is what you really like, and girls are often passive and can only choose to accept and refuse, so I'd rather take the initiative and love what I love without regrets.

When he doesn't love you, whether he loves you in the past and forgets it, or he never loved you. When you can't be the person in his heart, his heart won't remember you. Although he knows that you love him deeply, he prefers to pretend not to know.

When he doesn't love you, please don't bother him when you are unhappy or upset. His place is definitely not where you should be at the moment. Maybe he will comfort you slightly when he receives your call, but that's all. Maybe you want more, say, "Let's meet." He must be very sad. When he doesn't love you, your love and your people will be much cheaper. It is human nature that you have disadvantages. He would say, "OK, but I have something to do now." You can call me later. Or I can call you. "And don't take it seriously at this moment, he just found a less clever reason to prevaricate you. Please, don't really wait, don't lie to yourself.

When he doesn't love you, please don't tell him your trifles. Maybe at this moment, you just want to get to know each other better. However, he has no time or interest to know about you, your life, your past, your strengths and weaknesses. What does this have to do with him? Even if I know. He will soon forget, just as he forgot your birthday, your address and your phone number. Without love, you are doomed not to squeeze into his life. Even if, even if you only want a small corner.

When he doesn't love you, please don't cry in front of him, and don't tell him when you are sick. He can't give you care and concern. Sympathy at most, please be proud of you, and don't give up your pride. Although too many people have lost too much in front of love. I don't even have the courage to stand up. How can you be proud? Just remember that only those who love themselves can truly cherish you. Not the sympathy of onlookers. Unfortunately.

When he doesn't love you, your love is his burden. Please don't calculate your own efforts, and don't expect any return. To love someone who doesn't love himself is unrequited love. Never mind right or wrong. Will be happier. Remember, the love between you and him is one-sided. You have a heart, but he doesn't. So don't blame him. Because maybe he wants to do better and don't be so cold to you. Just, love a person, be good to a person. This is an instinct. Sorry, he doesn't have this instinct.

Please don't lose heart when he doesn't love you. Because loving someone is not his Excellence, it is just a feeling. He makes you feel this way, so you love him. Similarly, he doesn't love you, which doesn't mean that you are not good. Excellence is no reason to fall in love. See how many people still love themselves. A faint smile is also very sweet.

You must bless him when he doesn't love you. With love, there should be no hate. Love is beautiful. Hate is ugly. Why make the best things in life ugly? And don't feel unfair. About leaving. He lost someone who loved him, and you lost someone who didn't love you, but you got a chance to be reborn and love again.

Please don't think about "forever". Love won't last forever. You love him deeply at the moment, but you are destined to stop loving him one day far away. He arrived a day before you. When he doesn't love you, please gently embrace the warmth in memory and gently stare at the faded tenderness.

When he no longer loves you, dear, please take a deep breath. The road of life is covered with buds of love, and there is always one that belongs to you, not to comfort you. Instead, it has been doomed from generation to generation.

The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people can't be "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you should make mm feel that you are a self-motivated person.

Others can talk nonsense, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell mm that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you have a long-term plan. In a word, your future is not a dream.

I am a girl. I am disgusted to see that some boys want to chase their favorite girls, but they dare not, and they want others to chase them backwards.

From a girl's point of view, I know more about girls' psychology. Most girls don't take the initiative to pursue the boys they like, unless they really like them too much or are the kind of girls who are very brave and brave. So, if you like a girl very much and think she is a little interested in you, take the initiative and don't engage in a tug-of-war with her, you will feel uncomfortable. Maybe the person you like will also suffer.

When girls are being chased, their psychology is very complicated. She may be happy, but she is a little scared. She has ambivalence towards the boy who intruded into her quiet life. She didn't mean to. Don't think she is testing you, but she is actually fighting herself. She is afraid of getting hurt.

Don't be afraid that your initiative will bring her disgust. If you don't take the initiative, she won't take the initiative, and it will fade slowly. It's normal if your initial confession is rejected by her. Don't be discouraged, who knows what this girl is thinking?

Maybe if you confess twice, she will be moved by you. A good girl with a kind heart is easily moved.

If you encounter setbacks, leave immediately, never reply to this girl again, protect yourself tightly and lick the wound silently. And when you are in pain, as everyone knows, that girl may be regretting, regretting! Maybe she will secretly cry and regret rejecting you, and then she will be sad to see your indifferent eyes, but she won't tell you, and she will never let you come back to chase her. Your excessive self-esteem may hurt a girl's sensitive heart.

She will think that you don't really like him, otherwise how could you just give her up?

Some people say that it is really difficult for boys and it is not easy to chase girls. But my feeling is that this phenomenon is inseparable from the social role orientation of men and women. From a physiological and social point of view, women are always passive. If, on the other hand, men are ashamed and women are brave, the world will be in a mess! Women's shyness is always beautiful ~ I always hear that a brave man overcame many difficulties and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. There are few examples to the contrary.

Some boys are afraid that others will say that they are dead and pester them to fight, leaving a bad reputation. But I think boys pursue the girl they like and continue to be nice to this girl after encountering some setbacks, which shows that people really like it and are sincere. If it doesn't work, there's nothing to regret. It's nothing. Who makes people like it? I hate people blindly following me, and I hate boys who have no opinions and care too much about what others think of them. They deserve not to find a girlfriend.

If you are a man, be brave. Girls are emotional and easily immersed in love. Although you work hard, once your heart touches her, you will get more and more love. Such examples abound around us. Girls are gentle and considerate to their boyfriends. What was the sweetness of the original hard work? And most good girls are devoted and single-minded.

Therefore, it is suggested that some boys be brave and pursue the girls they like, instead of being so timid. One is that people think you are unmanly, and the other is that you feel uncomfortable. But, most importantly, you get nothing in the end. Happiness is always earned by yourself, don't expect others to give it to you!

By the way, I think it's good to take the initiative, because your goal is what you really like. Girls are often passive and can only choose to accept and refuse, so I would rather take the initiative and love what I love without regrets!

1. Be confident and responsible.

Don't be a child. Girls are lazy and want to find someone to rely on. You should show your confidence and sense of responsibility.

It's better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.

Don't be too formal, but don't be too casual.

Be serious where you should be serious, and ridicule when you should be ridiculed.

Girls like men who are a little cynical, so it seems that they don't care about anything, which is too dull.

Step 3 look mature

A leisurely man has fatal attraction to mm.

Second, how to further contact mm (time: the stage of starting to chase)

1, the most important thing at this stage is not to worry, not to make things so clear that people can see at a glance that you are chasing others.

Think about it. Most people don't like you at first sight, but they don't hate you at first sight. They are all children of ordinary people (unless you look like Chow Yun Fat, Andy Lau or kevin costner). Good feelings need to be realized through constant understanding, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.

Think about it from the girl's point of view: if you rush directly to have sex, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find that I don't like you after a while, it won't be a lie, will it? So if you come out resolutely from the beginning, you will basically be bored back immediately.

Step 2 start with a low profile

First of all, we should position the relationship as a "friend", which is originally an "ordinary friend". You want to be a "good friend". Those with taste can also ask the other party to be a "confidante" or something. In short, don't say "chasing you".

Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then there is less chance for a girl to "refuse" you-how can you refuse if you don't chase her? !

This can relieve the psychological pressure of girls and let you have a smooth relationship. Don't fantasize about agreeing to marry you after three days. You should communicate fully and understand that feelings don't come out of thin air.

Don't be too impatient in the process of communication.

Relax and don't pester others all day. Anyone who does this to you will get tired of it. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing girls is eight words-"hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the crystallization of my classmates' efforts for many years).

Staying with people all day, naturally you won't think you are good. If you are indifferent for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your existence.

Also, don't show the ambition of "you don't want to marry". It is not good for the price to drop too low. Sometimes you can play a little trick.

4. Create opportunities appropriately.

I said before, don't turn things into "you are chasing others" right away, you need to get close to girls. At this time, it depends on your creativity.

You can collect information and find ways to turn waiting for rabbits into encounters; You can also pretend to be casual and find the best reason to invite someone to do something with you.

In short, this is the most technical place. If it is really not feasible, you can consult your predecessors.

5. Never: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually.

Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things for others often, but they don't know that chasing girls is the most taboo.

As the saying goes, "something for nothing". You are putting pressure on others by giving them something like this. People will feel indebted to you, so they will find ways to repay you. If they can't, they will find a way not to associate with you, so they won't always owe you a favor.

If you want to show your sincerity, please invite girls to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat or an expensive place to play together. Girls can naturally see that you spent a lot of money, but after all, the money was spent by two people, not taken home.

Third, what is a "girlfriend"?

1, "girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise.

You start dating girls, from "ordinary friends" to "good friends" to "very, very good friends who talk about everything". On a sunny afternoon, you "accidentally" held her hand; In "Willow Shoot on the Moon", you suddenly attack and kiss her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks you are her boyfriend.

I know the best. I didn't ask "Would you like to be my girlfriend" until I went to bed. Finally, the girl was anxious: "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend!" "

So, don't rush to pierce enough paper, the more hazy the situation, the better for you.

2. What is "confession"?

As I said before, confession is actually just a form, and the correct order should be: in fact, you have become your girlfriend, and you can confess to others. Many people don't understand this problem. They always feel that people promise to be their girlfriends first, and then what? I can only say that they are very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid".

3. Have you ever had to confess?

Yes, for example, there is a third party, or your relationship with a girl is immature, but two people may be separated for a while.

At this time, confession is an immature confession, which is very risky. It is similar to the grim situation when playing Go. The backward side was forced to release the "winning hand". If you win, you win. If you lose, you can only say that you are born with bad luck.

4. Don't export the word "love" easily.

I often see a "bold confession" in the forum. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment and even a responsibility.

A man who casually says "love" is irresponsible.

Fourth, civilized love cannot be forced.

1, not every MM can catch up.

There will always be many people chasing good girls, and it is impossible to satisfy everyone's wishes. There will always be losers. For example, even if you study hard and master the principle of chasing MM, you can't catch up with either twin.

Look at the problem from another angle. Even if a rural nanny who has never graduated from primary school is kind to you, earning 600 yuan a month and buying you 700 yuan as a gift (overdraft), and willing to be a cow and a horse for you, you will not fall in love with her. If she cries and pesters you every day, you must feel bored.

So love needs a material foundation, at least a balance.

2. Chasing MM is a serious social activity.

Don't bother others, leave yourself a way out. Why don't men have wives? Some MMS are snobs (few). If you are not convinced, you can prove with facts that "she was blind at that time". Never mistake others for yourself.

Finally, add two points:

Never show cynicism in front of MM. Cynicism sometimes means "you are a loser". The boy who really loves you can't tell the reason why he really loves you at once, only knowing that he can't pay attention to others.

The boy who really loves you always makes you angry, but he can't find out what he did wrong.

The boy who really loves you seldom praises you to your face, but he is sure that you are the best in his heart.

The boy who really loves you will scold you when you forget to reply to his text message.

The boy who really loves you can only cry in front of you alone. When you touch them, you also touch the heart that beats only for you.

The boy who really loves you will silently remember what you inadvertently said and repeat it at a certain moment.

The boy who really loves you will not make a promise easily, because he wants to be the man who keeps his word in your heart and just wants to give you the most reliable and safe happiness.

The boy who really loves you always tells you not to be paranoid, because in fact he is planning the best and truest future for you. At the same time, let you wait for the surprise he wants to give you.

The boy who really loves you may not remember some anniversaries as clearly as you do. He thinks he has always loved you, not just these simple days.

A boy who really loves you will not easily say "I love you" in front of you, because everything he has done for you has already said so. Unless there is an emergency, in order not to let you misunderstand him for no reason.

The boy who really loves you always feels that it is enough to say some words only once, because you already know his heart. If you talk too much, he will think it is not precious.

The boy who really loves you, if he meets you at the airport, will not shout "dear" with a rose as you expected. He just naturally mentioned your luggage, and then said in distress that he seemed to hold you with his eyes. Why are you as thin as a bean sprout?

The boy who really loves you will only listen to you silently when you lose your temper, and then say slowly, do you have a class tomorrow? Go to bed early.

The boy who really loves you doesn't understand. When you hang up when you are angry, you should call immediately. A few hours later, he will send a text message asking if you have cooled down. When you ask him why it took him so long to call, he will confidently say that my explanation is useless when you are angry, and your fire is effective without my explanation.

The boy who really loves you always calls you little girl, but every time he makes an important decision, he always wants to hear your opinion first.

The boy who really loves you doesn't like teddy bears, but he will put the bear you gave him by the bed.

The boy who really loves you, when arguing with you, can't help but compromise first, admit that I was wrong first, and then send a short message that starts with "mental illness" and ends with "baby". In fact, as you know, you are a little unreasonable this time.

The boy who really loves you will buy you roses when he misses you very much, and wait for you stupidly, but he doesn't know that he is holding roses in his hand. It doesn't matter, he sent roses from his heart.

The boy who really loves you has a sweet mouth, but his kiss can convey all his enthusiasm.

The boy who really loves you will pretend to be serious when he hears you say something very "sour" to him, but in fact he is very sweet.

The boy who really loves you, if he can't see you often, will keep himself busy, in order not to think about you, because he knows that missing you will be out of control. .........

Telling you how to chase you is to let you know that you need to wait.